To begin with, why are the four pillars for women only and not for anybody?
First of all, for men it’s much easier to lose weight than for women. Men can very well lose weight by eating fewer carbs and exercising more. And there are several reasons for that:
- they have a simpler metabolism than women
- they have fewer emotional issues than women.
- they have a different hormonal balance than women
- they have different psychology and thus different root causes than women
- I’m a woman and I understand women’s psychology, issues and desires better than men’s
These are the main reasons why women need a different approach than men.
The real nature of human beings
The most important and crucial thing to understand is the real nature of your being. You are not only a body but also mind, emotions, and spirit. The easiest way to understand what I mean is by envisioning a building with four pillars that support the building. In this case, the building is our health and healthy weight loss.
The building of your health – and healthy weight – stands on four pillars.
One pillar is your physical pillar (the body), one pillar is the emotional pillar (the emotions you have daily and how you react emotionally to certain things and situations), the third one is the mental pillar (your thinking, what you think and say… your mindset), and the last one is your psychological pillar (your history, your memories, your subconscious mind).
One of the biggest problems regarding weight loss is the misconception that you are the physical body.
You are not your body – you have a body. You are a spiritual being in a physical body. That’s a bigger difference than you may think. As soon as you understand that your physical and visible body is only a part of the equation – like the tip of the iceberg –, you will find it much easier to find the right weight loss solution that really works for you and that will bring you the desired lasting results.
The problems for you begin when you treat your weight exclusively on one pillar: the physical body, which most overweight people do by dieting and exercising. That’s why the dieting approach is so very frustrating, especially for women. In fact, it’s the hardest way possible with no real chance of bringing you lasting results.
Even on the physical level, there can be many causes of your weight problems beside poor eating habits and a lack of exercise.
Now let me ask you a question.
What happens to a building when one of four pillars gets weak, breaks or falls away?
Not much, as long as the rest of the building is stable and strong. It may not be leveled perfectly anymore, and with every heavy storm, it may get a crack here and there. It’s just not so resistant to strain or stress anymore, but it still has a good chance to stay for a while.
It’s the same with our health and weight. When one of the four pillars is temporarily weakened, we may face some headache, a flu once or twice a year, maybe a slight allergy, or a few pounds of weight gain. Maybe you can’t sleep as well as you could some years ago… yet nothing serious.
Now what will happen when two pillars are broken? The building suddenly is in severe danger of not surviving the next heavy storm. Most likely it will even collapse before the next storm. Translated to your health this could be some stubborn overweight, muscle pain, joint pain, chronic headache, a heart disease, regular heartburn, two to four flus every year, several or more severe allergies, brain fog, and so on and so forth.
As soon as three pillars break or disappear, the whole building will collapse completely. It can’t stand on one pillar. It’s not possible.
It’s exactly the same with our health. The more symptoms and diseases you have and the heavier you are, the more is your whole health building in danger. This is the point where you have serious chronic diseases like fibromyalgia, diabetes, loss of your teeth, or other life-threatening diseases, such as cancer. You may even be obese (not just overweight), and consequently, it will take you longer to bring your weight back to a healthy weight.
On the other hand, the healthier and more stable your whole health building is, the faster your body will react to even slight changes and you can lose your excess weight quickly and effortlessly.
The better you take care of your body, the more positive your mindset and emotions, the more you have transformed your psychological root causes, the faster your physical body can heal, the faster you’ll lose weight, the slower your aging process, and the longer you’re going to live a good, healthy and happy life – a quality life.
Therefore, good health and weight loss are to a great extent in your own hands, although it may often not feel that way. If it doesn’t feel that way to you, then it’s because you don’t know the causes of your personal weight struggles, the truth about good health and sustainable weight loss. Then you’re probably still caught in the ‘eat less and exercise more’ trap, feeling helpless and hopeless.
“The necessary mindset shift for maintainable weight loss is to start thinking outside of the diet box”! —–Angela Buhri, international Weight Transformation Coach
If you want some assistance and guidance to lose your extra weight faster and easier, you have two possibilities right now:
- You can join my next free webinar at https://lose-and-shine-coaching.aweb.page/p/a312e22a-754e-42a3-b171-5050a9dd41cd. I do regular webinars and the topics change from time to time.
- If you’re serious about losing weight and would like to qualify for one of my free Slim & Shine One-on-One Coaching Sessions to get ahead faster, answer a short questionnaire to pre-qualify for a free session with me: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/6HKRVS9. During this 45-minute coaching session we are going to create your personalized weight loss strategy together.
I’m looking forward to seeing you later and assisting you in your important goal.
Happy slimming!
Angela B.
Recently I stumbled on the following story which I find very inspirational. When I read it, I instantly had to think of you. So I decided to share that story with you today. 
For years I am trying to convince my readers and clients to practice appreciation toward their body, because appreciation can really heal many wounds, especially the wounds of the soul. I do get how hard it is to appreciate a body which is overweight or even obese, a body you don’t like. But sometimes it just takes a small step beyond the ordinary, a step into the unknown, an uncomfortable step, even a step that might seem weird at the beginning to make new and desired experiences and see better results. 
Write a list of everything you can be thankful for to your body and everything you like about it. Then keep writing that list for seven days minimum. Every morning after waking up and every evening before going to sleep you thank your body for everything it is doing for you. Try to be serious. Remember, you have plenty of reasons to be genuinely thankful for to your body. 
On the very first coaching call she brought up all her problems at once and it was a real challenge to dig through the clutter and to choose the most pressing issue to begin with. She had pretty much all the problems you can have: deep depression; financially broke; unemployed; she had no idea what kind of job she wanted – all she knew was that she no longer wanted to work as a nurse; she had no more energy left and has gained a lot of weight (close to being obese); a daily almost crippling head ache; in a relationship she was deeply unhappy with; having been abused by her father; an extremely dominant mother who thought that Giselle was not capable of accomplishing anything and thus made all the decisions for her and even took over the job of raising her child.
After some job interviews she realized that she no longer wanted a job and put an add in the newspaper offering her service as a caretaker for elderly people. Within only a few days she got two great engagements and now she is her own boss, deciding how much her work is worth and making the price. Now she earns more money than she has ever earned before as a nurse and has not to work any night shifts anymore. 
She began to be more careful about when and how much she would allow her bossy sister and girlfriends into her life and what she would tolerate from them. She learned to say ‘No’. For the first time in her life she could set boundaries and clearly say what is tolerable and what is not. 
Two weeks ago she met a lovely man who is 10 years younger than Giselle – the kind of man she always wanted and was certain he would not exist. They both fell in love with each other and both feel that the other one is just the “one”, the partner they have always been looking for and dreamed of but never found before. Very quickly they realized that everything fits. Beside the fastly growing love, they have many common interests, he treats her with the respect she deserves, and they have the best sex life ever. They both feel that they have arrived. 
In Giselle’s case, I did nothing else but helping her to transform her personal root causes which had led to weight gain. We never did anything regarding her weight at all. She always loved cooking and she is still enjoying it and has no food restrictions except those foods she is allergic to. What we did do for the sake of her health is eliminating a few bad habits. 
Root causes can be found on the physical level (e.g. food intolerances, diabetes, toxic overload, etc.), the emotional level (how you emotionally respond to circumstances and the world around you), the mental level (your mindset, your way of thinking, what you say, your belief system), the psychological level (your memories, your subconscious mind, past experiences, unhealthy boundaries, etc.), and even on the spiritual level (karma, stuck energy, etc.). They can be experienced in relationships with the opposite sex and the family, in your professional life, in your health or the lack of it, and whether or not your life is interesting, fulfilling and well balanced or not. 
When you adhere to the laws of the universe, you will reap positive things in ALL aspects of your life. It doesn’t matter whether you want to lose weight, find a better paid job, find a new love, gain better health or achieve any goal, the way to approach these goals is always the same. Just follow the laws of nature and you will manifest all these things into your life because when you do that, literally your whole life is going to improve. You can’t cut your being and your life in slices and pieces either. On the other hand you can not go on a diet and by doing so find a better job, find a new love, improve your health and lose weight all at the same time and with that same tactic. The reason is because diets are not only not based on the laws of nature, they are flat out a violation of the laws of your body. Our body reacts conversely to diets than we want and consequently we ‘reap’ the yo-yo effect.
To make it easier for you, I have created a Facebook page with daily tiny baby steps that build up on momentum. Each step takes between 5 and 15 minutes. And if you follow these steps every day at the same time, soon your momentum will begin to snow ball and you will experience what one of my members is experience. 
https://www.facebook.com/groups/4pillarsoflastingweightloss