What overweight women believe to need for their weight loss success (Part 1)

There is often a significant disparity between what overweight women want for weight loss and what they truly need. We humans often struggle to identify our true needs in solving a problem, primarily because it falls outside our area of expertise. And most of the time it’s exactly our wants that lead us astray on the wrong paths.

Women’s wants on a weight loss path often align with the outdated belief ‘of eating less and exercising more’. However, what they genuinely need to achieve long-lasting weight loss is often something entirely different. What women truly require is a transformation of the old paradigm and their habits.

Now, let’s explore three lists that outline what overweight women typically desire when it comes to their weight loss journey. Some beliefs are inherently wrong, some women’s beliefs are partly wrong, and some are correct. 

LIST 1:

Things overweight women believe to need that are basically wrong

“I need to learn how to count calories to make better food choices.”

Counting calories is not the most effective or sustainable approach for long-term weight management. First of all, it’s a flawed system that has nothing to do with what’s going on in human bodies. The calorie myth has long been debunked, yet it stubbornly remains in people’s heads. Secondly, the quality of food: is much more important than the quantity. Counting calories alone does not take into account the nutritional value and quality of the food you consume. Not all calories are created equal, and focusing solely on calorie counting can lead to neglecting essential nutrients your body needs for overall health. A balanced and nutritious diet, consisting of whole, unprocessed foods, is essential for sustainable weight loss and optimal well-being. And here we are talking about a healthy lifestyle and not about a weight loss diet. 

It’s not the calorie counting you need to learn but to find out WHY you eat too much or crave the wrong foods. What is behind the eating? Once you have that figured out and transformed, eating too much will no longer be an issue. 

“I need a structured meal plan to help me make healthier choices.”

Although this statement is not entirely wrong, it is based on food, seeing food as the sole root cause of weight problems. This is something your intellect tells you that you need, but for most people it’s nonsense. 90 percent of weight loss coaches give you this kind of advice because this is what they understand or believe to know about weight issues, but they’re completely oblivious about the real causes of weight gain. The choices you make regarding food are just symptoms of a deeper-rooted problem. While there is nothing wrong with making healthy choices, the root problem is why you’re not making healthier choices and not your meal plan per se. Once you have uprooted the underlying causes, making healthy eating choices will be the most natural thing for you and you will not need a structured meal plan but eat what your body needs. 

“I need guidance on portion control.”

The same is true here. Unless your eating habits are completely out of control – and even then – what you need more than control is finding and eliminating the root cause. If you feel that your portions are out of control,  your body might be deprived, or this is a sign of a deeper problem, a psychological problem, or maybe it could even be a health problem. 

“I need a workout routine that fits into my busy schedule.”

This statement is also based on the false and outdated paradigm of eating less and exercising more. On top of that, the problem is seen in the person’s busy schedule, and that is a false mindset of setting life priorities wrong. If you add such a tactic into your weight loss strategy, you’re going to fail with it because it’s not based on the truth and your needs. It’s something that has to get squeezed in, and thus you will never have fun with your exercise/workout routine. Of course, there is nothing wrong with working out, and it should always be part of a healthy lifestyle. But if your schedule is so busy that you can’t fit a minimum of exercise into it, then you have a priority problem, not a time problem. 

“I need practical tips for eating healthy while traveling for business.”

If you feel that you need practical tips for eating healthily while traveling for business, then you’re on a fad diet and not on a healthy, sustainable weight loss strategy. This is a sign that you have been brainwashed into believing that you don’t know what’s good for you, which is an insult. Here too, if you need tips for eating healthy…regardless of where in the world you are…then the problem is not the eating but what’s behind your eating habits. Maybe you are not aware of what’s healthy and what’s not. You’re focusing on outside solutions instead of what your body needs. Again, you have to tackle the problem from the other side, at the root cause, or simply learn to listen to your body’s needs. When traveling, ask your body what it needs. It may be something very different from what it needs at home. Meat, fish, salads, and vegetables are always available in every country of the world. If you stick to those, you can’t do much wrong. Believe me, YOU know what is good and healthy!  Don’t allow anybody to tell you otherwise. 

“I need guidance on how to read food labels and make informed choices.”

Well, if you have a lot of time and understanding food labels is your passion, that’s certainly an interesting hobby. But if you only need guidance with that for weight loss, if you have lost contact with your body and your common sense, then the problem is not the food labels. The real problem then is that you’re eating the wrong foods in the first place. Maybe you’re just naive, believing the nonsense that something with a food label could ever be healthy. The simplest guidance I can give you is, to stay away from any foods which HAVE labels. You may live under the false assumption that you don’t have time to cook from scratch and hence you need pre-cooked food. And, don’t get me wrong, I can fully appreciate that you feel that way because of your demanding schedule. Here too, the problem lies deeper. First of all, it has something to do with your life priorities, you’re not prioritizing your health. Secondly, it says a lot about what you believe to deserve (labeled foods are no better than any dog or cat food). Thirdly, eating foods with a label, which we know that they contain toxins, does not save you time but takes precious time away from your life…you win nothing. therefore, may I suggest making your health a priority and seeing where else you can free up some time? Maybe you could stop counting calories or learn to read food labels which is very time-consuming. Cooking from scratch does not necessarily mean that you need a lot of time. You can make a healthy meal in as little as five to ten minutes. 

“I need strategies to navigate social events and parties without derailing my progress.”

If you have a healthy, sensible weight loss strategy and a good relationship with your body, you don’t have to care about food during social events or while traveling. You can only spoil the weight loss process when you’re on a restrictive fad diet, which as we know, leads to yo-yo dieting. I have clients who lost weight during Thanksgiving week while eating everything they had on the table  (including pies) and enjoying the time with their loved ones. It all begins with your mindset and your inner paradigm. THAT’S where the change has to begin and not with your diet. Once you have accomplished that, neither social events nor traveling will ever be a problem for you anymore. Eating has always been a natural process because your life depends on it. As soon as something so simple and joyful like eating becomes complicated, there is something wrong with your approach. 

“I need to address my lack of knowledge about nutrition and healthy eating.”

Again, this implies that food is the enemy. It’s not. It’s a false paradigm. It’s the reason why you eat what you eat and why you overeat which is the problem, not the food itself. It’s your inner world that leads to weight gain, not your food. Overweight people naturally tend to give food way too much power over their body and weight, while the real master over our health and body is within us. Everybody knows deep within what healthy food is. Everything boxed, bottled, or canned is NOT. 

“I need practical tips for meal prepping and planning ahead.”

If you are so used to feeding on prepared meals – which is, by the way, one of the root causes for being overweight – then you may never have learned how to cook a healthy meal. In that case, I highly recommend taking a few cooking classes and finding joy in the cooking process. It’s such a great feeling to take care of your body by cooking a delicious meal. It instantly increases your feeling of self-worth. For example, how about a cooking class for Mediterranean cooking, Italian cooking, French cooking, Chinese cooking, Greek cooking, etc? These are all healthy ways of eating. Just add a lot of fresh produce. 

“I need resources on creating a healthy and supportive environment at home and work.”

This too is a matter of setting healthy life priorities. Yes, a healthy and supportive environment at home and work is crucial for your health. If one of your highest priorities is health for you and your loved ones, then you’d do everything in your power to create a healthy and supportive environment, be it at home or work. Only you can tell what a “healthy” environment means for you and your loved ones. Besides, you have to feel comfy and at home. Nobody is holding you back except yourself. If you feel that way, you’re living in kind of a prison of an old paradigm that has led you to create the environment you currently have. Then it’s your paradigm that is holding you back, not the environment. The real resources are not somewhere out there, out of your control. They are inside of you. 

“I need resources on how to handle food-related triggers and temptations at work.”

Everything else I have said in this chapter is also true for this paradigm. It just doesn’t work that way. You don’t need resources but a deeper understanding of what’s going on within you. What you may need is the transformation of some emotional response patterns you have at work. You see, I understand that you have been told that you need something to handle food-related triggers. This is a way to get you hooked for life. You did not wake up one morning and say to yourself, “Gosh, I need to find something that helps me handle food-related triggers.” This is information that comes from some false weight loss coaches who do not understand that habit transformation is an inside job and not based on some “resources”. Therefore, I can’t blame you for feeling that way. 

“I need help in breaking the cycle of emotional eating and finding healthier coping mechanisms.”

Although I agree that you need help in breaking that cycle (nobody can do that by herself because we all have our blind spots), it’s not so much about “coping mechanisms”. This too is one of these false weight loss tips 90% of weight loss coaches would give you, simply because they don’t understand the truth about emotions and emotional eating. It’s not about “coping” but about taking responsibility and shifting your emotions instead of applying a coping mechanism. If you know how you can instantly shift any emotions within seconds. 

“I need guidance on managing my time effectively to prioritize my health goals.”

It’s one of the biggest illusions mankind has that we could “manage” time. Time is nothing real although it often feels that way. The planet Earth is probably the only place in the entire universe where something like “time” exists. The prioritizing part is correct, though. It’s all about setting or changing life priorities, which have nothing to do with time. This topic is too complex to talk about in a short paragraph. That’s something I’m going to work on intensively with a small group of people very soon. Once you understand the real issue, you will never have a stress or time problem ever again. 

“I can’t control my eating habits anymore. The only thing that can help me lose weight is a gastric bypass.” 

These beliefs stem from a flawed comprehension of genuine weight loss success and the necessary steps involved. It stems from a paradigm that tells you that food is the enemy. They are rooted in an outdated, erroneous paradigm that misguides women in their weight loss efforts. As long as you adhere to this misleading paradigm, achieving lasting fat loss will remain elusive. In such cases, a significant mindset shift becomes imperative. If your situation has gone so far astray that you feel you need gastric surgery, then I highly recommend to join me in one of my free one-on-one coaching sessions where I create an individualized weight loss strategy together with you. This will give you a good idea of what works regarding eating and other fattening habits. Try that first before getting yourself ‘under the knife’.  And, speaking of gastric surgeries, they never solve the real, underlying root cause, which is the reason why surgeons are so perplexed when their patients gain the lost weight back after 10 years. Before you make such a decision, please check with me what healthier possibilities you have to lose weight for good instead of doing something so threatening with questionable results that can’t be reversed. 

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Once you understand the subtleties between your wants and needs, and between your questions and the answers you will receive, your weight loss journey becomes easier and more focused.

Happy slimming! 🙂

Watch out for Part 2. 

The 4 Pillars of Lasting Weight Loss For Women

To begin with, why are the four pillars for women only and not for anybody?

First of all, for men it’s much easier to lose weight than for women. Men can very well lose weight by eating fewer carbs and exercising more. And there are several reasons for that:

  • they have a simpler metabolism than women
  • they have fewer emotional issues than women.
  • they have a different hormonal balance than women
  • they have different psychology and thus different root causes than women
  • I’m a woman and I understand women’s psychology, issues and desires better than men’s

These are the main reasons why women need a different approach than men.

The real nature of human beings

The most important and crucial thing to understand is the real nature of your being. You are not only a body but also mind, emotions, and spirit. The easiest way to understand what I mean is by envisioning a building with four pillars that support the building. In this case, the building is our health and healthy weight loss.

The building of your health – and healthy weight – stands on four pillars.

One pillar is your physical pillar (the body), one pillar is the emotional pillar (the emotions you have daily and how you react emotionally to certain things and situations), the third one is the mental pillar (your thinking, what you think and say… your mindset), and the last one is your psychological pillar (your history, your memories, your subconscious mind).

One of the biggest problems regarding weight loss is the misconception that you are the physical body.

You are not your body – you have a body. You are a spiritual being in a physical body. That’s a bigger difference than you may think. As soon as you understand that your physical and visible body is only a part of the equation – like the tip of the iceberg –, you will find it much easier to find the right weight loss solution that really works for you and that will bring you the desired lasting results.

The problems for you begin when you treat your weight exclusively on one pillar: the physical body, which most overweight people do by dieting and exercising. That’s why the dieting approach is so very frustrating, especially for women. In fact, it’s the hardest way possible with no real chance of bringing you lasting results.

Even on the physical level, there can be many causes of your weight problems beside poor eating habits and a lack of exercise.

Now let me ask you a question.

What happens to a building when one of four pillars gets weak, breaks or falls away?

Not much, as long as the rest of the building is stable and strong. It may not be leveled perfectly anymore, and with every heavy storm, it may get a crack here and there. It’s just not so resistant to strain or stress anymore, but it still has a good chance to stay for a while.

It’s the same with our health and weight. When one of the four pillars is temporarily weakened, we may face some headache, a flu once or twice a year, maybe a slight allergy, or a few pounds of weight gain. Maybe you can’t sleep as well as you could some years ago… yet nothing serious.

Now what will happen when two pillars are broken? The building suddenly is in severe danger of not surviving the next heavy storm. Most likely it will even collapse before the next storm. Translated to your health this could be some stubborn overweight, muscle pain, joint pain, chronic headache, a heart disease, regular heartburn, two to four flus every year, several or more severe allergies, brain fog, and so on and so forth.

As soon as three pillars break or disappear, the whole building will collapse completely. It can’t stand on one pillar. It’s not possible.

It’s exactly the same with our health. The more symptoms and diseases you have and the heavier you are, the more is your whole health building in danger. This is the point where you have serious chronic diseases like fibromyalgia, diabetes, loss of your teeth, or other life-threatening diseases, such as cancer. You may even be obese (not just overweight), and consequently, it will take you longer to bring your weight back to a healthy weight.

On the other hand, the healthier and more stable your whole health building is, the faster your body will react to even slight changes and you can lose your excess weight quickly and effortlessly.

The better you take care of your body, the more positive your mindset and emotions, the more you have transformed your psychological root causes, the faster your physical body can heal, the faster you’ll lose weight, the slower your aging process, and the longer you’re going to live a good, healthy and happy life – a quality life.

Therefore, good health and weight loss are to a great extent in your own hands, although it may often not feel that way. If it doesn’t feel that way to you, then it’s because you don’t know the causes of your personal weight struggles, the truth about good health and sustainable weight loss. Then you’re probably still caught in the ‘eat less and exercise more’ trap, feeling helpless and hopeless.

“The necessary mindset shift for maintainable weight loss is to start thinking outside of the diet box”! —–Angela Buhri, international Weight Transformation Coach

If you want some assistance and guidance to lose your extra weight faster and easier, you have two possibilities right now:

  1. You can join my next free webinar at https://lose-and-shine-coaching.aweb.page/p/a312e22a-754e-42a3-b171-5050a9dd41cd. I do regular webinars and the topics change from time to time.
  2. If you’re serious about losing weight and would like to qualify for one of my free Slim & Shine One-on-One Coaching Sessions to get ahead faster, answer a short questionnaire to pre-qualify for a free session with me: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/6HKRVS9. During this 45-minute coaching session we are going to create your personalized weight loss strategy together.

I’m looking forward to seeing you later and assisting you in your important goal.

Happy slimming!

Angela B.

Mind Over Pounds – The Power of Your Mind for Lasting Weight Loss

“The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” – Plutarch

Mind over Matter’ is not a new concept. It’s ancient and tested wisdom, used by the brightest and most talented minds in history.

In our quest for lasting weight loss, Plutarch’s timeless wisdom serves as piece of truth, urging us to view the mind not as a passive vessel we can fill with any garbage but as a dynamic force that is part of a manifesting system that determines our life’s circumstances and capable of transforming every aspect of the life you want. As we apply this perspective to the challenges faced by busy, overweight women, we gain the power back for effortless, healthy, and lasting weight loss.

  1. Mind Over Matter: Plutarch’s insight encourages a shift in mindset – a recognition that the mind has the power to influence the body. For busy women juggling professional and personal responsibilities, adopting a mindset that believes in the possibility of effortless weight loss becomes a crucial first step. By acknowledging the mind’s role in shaping our actions, we pave the way for sustainable change.
  2. Active Engagement in Health: Plutarch’s metaphor of a kindled fire aligns with the idea of active engagement with one’s health. Rather than viewing weight loss as a passive goal, busy women can see it as an active, ongoing process of self-growth. This involves an open mind, deciding which information should pass the gate into your subconscious, and fostering a resilient mindset that adapts to the challenges of a hectic lifestyle.
  3. Unlocking Creative Approaches: A mind kindled with inspiration, motivation, and creativity is a powerful asset in the journey toward weight loss. For busy women, moving away from the diet/exercise paradigm and relying more on their own inner power becomes essential. By tapping into their creative potential, they will find answers to create personalized strategies that seamlessly integrate with their lifestyles, making weight loss more attainable and enjoyable. It’s our minds which start the weight loss process, not what we eat.
  4. Continuous Self-Growth: Busy women, faced with time constraints, can learn to focus on self-growth rather than the newest diets and quick fixes (which, at the end of the day aren’t quick at all). It’s our mind that dictates our emotions, our emotions dictate our actions, and our actions dictate our results. It all begins with our inner growth and a change of our mindset.
  5. Building Resilience Against Challenges: The metaphor of a kindled fire suggests resilience in the face of challenges. Applying this to weight loss, busy women can cultivate mental resilience. This involves viewing setbacks as opportunities to learn and adjust rather than as reasons to abandon their goals. When facing a stressful situation, it’s so easy to abandon a positive mindset. A resilient mindset enables them to persevere through the demands of a busy life with a positive spirit and conquer any challenges much easier, better and faster.
  6. Passion-Driven Wellness: Busy women can identify and pursue activities that bring joy and contribute to their overall well-being. When the journey is driven by passion, weight loss becomes a natural byproduct of a purposeful and fulfilling lifestyle.

Plutarch’s words can be very helpful for busy women who want to lose weight. It’s like having a guiding light! Instead of struggling with strict diets or super hard workouts, you can make a big change by believing in yourself and realizing how powerful your thoughts are. Every change you make begins with your thinking. The journey to being healthy and slim is more about transforming your mindset and trusting in your own potential than anything else.

To qualify for a free Slim & Shine One-on-One Coaching Session with Angela B., please fill out the following short and confidential questionnaire:

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Happy slimming 🙂

5 Reasons Why Businesswomen (should) Want To Be Slim

5 Reasons Why Businesswomen (should) Want To Be Slim

 

Are you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and trapped in a cycle of stress and excess weight? Do you find yourself nodding in agreement as you read this, knowing all too well the challenges faced by stressed, overweight businesswomen? If so, you’re not alone. In the fast-paced world of business, where success often comes at a price, many ambitious women find themselves grappling with the physical and emotional burdens of excess weight, be it consciously or subconsciously.

As a stress management coach who has worked with thousands of stressed businesswomen and businessmen, and as a weight transformation coach for overweight women, I know both worlds, and I have witnessed firsthand the hidden pain points women like you face. Behind the professional façade, there are struggles that often go unnoticed. Today, I want to shine a light on these challenges, to acknowledge them, and to offer a glimmer of hope for a brighter, healthier future. You must know that the world needs you…and the world needs you healthily and productive without exhausting you.

Here are some of the common pain points overweight businesswomen face:

The Endless Cycle of Stress: Stressed, overweight businesswomen often find themselves trapped in a relentless cycle of stress. The demanding nature of their careers, combined with juggling personal responsibilities, can leave them feeling mentally and physically drained. This chronic stress not only takes a toll on their overall well-being but also affects their relationship with food, leading to emotional eating and weight gain.

Strained Self-Image and Confidence: Carrying excess weight can significantly impact a woman’s self-image and confidence. The conflict between their professional identity and their physical appearance creates a constant internal struggle. They may doubt their abilities, fear judgment from colleagues and customers, and find it challenging to project confidence in their professional endeavors. This negative self-perception further perpetuates the cycle of stress and weight gain.

Limited Time and Energy for Self-Care: The demanding nature of their careers often leaves stressed, overweight businesswomen with little time and energy to prioritize their own well-being. Long work hours, tight deadlines, and hectic schedules make it challenging to engage in regular exercise, prepare nutritious meals, or practice self-care. This lack of time and self-neglect further contributes to weight gain and a decline in overall health.

Health Complications and Reduced Productivity: Carrying excess weight can have detrimental effects on one’s physical health. Overweight businesswomen may experience fatigue, low energy levels, and increased susceptibility to chronic conditions like heart disease, diabetes, and hypertension. These health challenges not only impact the personal well-being but can also hinder the professional productivity and success.

Emotional Impact and Mental Well-being: The emotional impact of being overweight as a businesswoman cannot be underestimated. The constant pressure to excel professionally, combined with the weight-related stigma and societal expectations, can lead to feelings of shame, low self-esteem, and even depression. This emotional burden further exacerbates the challenges faced by stressed, overweight businesswomen.

Can you relate?

If any of these pain points resonate with you, know that you are not alone. In the USA alone, 70% of women are overweight or even obese. So if you’re an American, being overweight may almost be “normal”, but unfortunely only on the outside.

Countless women in the business world share similar experiences, silently carrying the weight of their challenges. However, it’s crucial to remember that there is hope and a way forward.

It’s time to break free from the shackles of stress and excess weight. It’s time to prioritize your well-being and embark on a transformative journey that will empower you to thrive as a businesswoman. Like I said, the world needs you. 

Now, let me be clear—I don’t promote diets or excessive exercise. My focus is on helping you lead a healthy lifestyle while changing habits and delving deep into the underlying causes that contribute to weight issues. This is where true, lasting change resides: in your subconscious.

Now, enough about me. It’s time to focus on you—your obstacles, your aspirations, your desires, and your journey towards a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life. Together, let’s uncover the incredible potential that lies within you and create a future that exceeds your wildest dreams.

To begin with, let’s talk about why you, as a businesswoman or a woman on stage (should) want to lose your extra weight asap. First we have to get down to brass-tacks. As a businesswoman you must face the utter truth and you can handle the truth, otherwise you would not be in business. Please understand that if you want to experience everything a healthy and slim body has to offer and how much it will change your business life, you first need to understand what root causes you need to uproot first.

Reason #1: Grappling with a conflict between your professional identity and your physical appearance.

As someone who has walked that path and triumphed, then stumbled and learned, I’m here to share what I’ve discovered.

The sad truth is that your extra weight carries more consequences than you might realize. As a businesswoman, your professional success often intertwines with your physical appearance. Excess weight can diminish your self-image, making you doubt your abilities and potential. It can diminish your confidence and hold you back from seizing opportunities. But you know what? It’s time to break free from these chains.

Imagine for a moment the impact of achieving your natural and maintainable weight loss. Picture yourself stepping into meetings with newfound confidence, owning the room with your presence and ideas. Shedding those extra pounds will not only transform your body but also reshape your self-image. Now, embrace the power within you that is already there to redefine your identity as a strong, successful businesswoman, regardless of your current weight. 

When you commit to a natural and maintainable weight loss approach vs. a diet or another quick fix method, your energy levels soar. You can say goodbye to fatigue and sluggishness. You experience more mental clarity and focus that will allow you to tackle even complex challenges head-on, making decisions with precision and efficiency. The reason is because you’re changing things on a much deeper level what has broader consequences on your overall well-being.

And it doesn’t stop there. Your transformation will also radiate throughout your professional life. As you shed the excess weight, you’ll notice your movements becoming more agile and your physical presence more commanding. People will take notice, responding to your newfound confidence and credibility. Your professional opportunities will expand, as others recognize your determination and discipline.

Reason #2: the impact your excess weight has on your physical health

Now let’s talk about a topic that is often talked about but often gets overlooked by the individuals themselves: the impact your excess weight has on your physical health. We humans tend to believe that we can treat our bodies in any way we want without having to face any consequences. Many of us even treat their cars better than their own bodies. It just doesn’t occur to them that their weight could lead to severe health challenges. I know both sides, and I want to share the sad reality, the facts, and the solutions to help you reclaim your health and wellbeing. Don’t allow things to get too far, if you can prevent it. And if you your health is already challenged, act soon. 

It’s no secret that your extra weight takes a toll on your body, and the consequences are real…and as an intelligent woman you know that. Excess pounds can lead to fatigue, reduced stamina, and a lack of energy to fuel your busy days and a long list of other health issues. But it doesn’t stop there. Being overweight increases your risk of chronic conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, and joint problems, which is my problem, and I can tell you, it’s darn painful. Your health is your wealth, and it’s time to address it head-on.

Unfortunately, that’s still not all. Let’s be real and not forget the monetary costs excess weight and poor health can have. Doctor’s visits, medical bills, and prescription medications can drain your resources and limit your financial freedom. I often hear from overweight women that the costs of their excess weight exceed $10,000 per year. Imagine redirecting those hard-earned dollars towards investing in your business, your dreams, and a future filled with health and vitality. How much could that improve your life?

Now, on the other side, let’s explore the impact your natural and maintainable weight loss can have on your health and wellbeing. Imagine waking up every morning with a renewed sense of vitality, ready to conquer the day. As you shed those extra pounds, your energy levels soar, fatigue becomes a distant memory, and your overall well-being improves.

Your body is a temple…literally. It’s the place from where you can act as a successful business woman and fulfill your life purpose, therefore it’s your most important success tool. And when you treat it with respect, it rewards you in many ways. A natural and maintainable weight loss journey strengthens your immune system, reduces the risk of chronic diseases, and enhances your overall quality of life. It’s not just about looking great on the outside; it’s about feeling amazing from the inside out. TRUE weight loss is about transforming everything that has contributed to your current weight…LITERALLY everything. Sustainable weight loss involves changing not only your body but also your mind and spirit, and most of all, your subconscious.

What impact can your transformed health have on your business success?

When you prioritize your well-being, you become an unstoppable force. Your increased energy levels and mental clarity empower you to tackle challenges with focus and resilience. You’ll find yourself making better decisions, leading your team with confidence, and achieving remarkable results. As you know, success leaves clues. Achieving such a difficult and complex goal like losing weight leaves a strong “message” in your subconscious mind, and henceforward you will walk differently, you will stand taller, and you will talk with more self-confidence. You have given your subconscious mind a new self-image which will radiate through every fiber of your being. You may not realize the difference, but others do.

During my time of being slim, I became a different person. Previously, I was very shy to a point where I could not talk to strangers and even very seldom to people I knew. I could never have imagined that one day I would confidently stand on stage in front of hundreds of people and speak to them about healthy weight loss and transformation of crisis. Suddenly, doors opened that I didn’t even know existed. Everyone wanted to be my friend, men pursued me, and I received flowers, poems, and songs dedicated to me. The media wanted to work with me, organizations wanted to work with me, fortune 500 companies hired me. The best part was that I could work from home, be there for my child most of the time, and still have a significant income and a successful coaching business. I led a completely different life from before – a happy, interesting, and fulfilling life that I absolutely loved. And I had no idea how, where, and when my life shifted in such a big, positive way. It just did. And it can shift for you as well. 

Now, to be totally upfront, you may have such experiences simply by following a diet, if you have no psychological issues at all. But as we all have our wounds, only by transforming drama, trauma and your inner psychology and mindset will experience this kind of transformation. While those who lose weight through a diet are cranky all the time because they’re chronically starved, you will experience how not only your outer weight is falling off of you but also your inner burdens.

Reason #3: Our customers’ (or bosses) subconscious minds

Now, let’s talk about a topic that affects us deeply, (whether we realize or not) especially as businesswomen: how others perceive us when we carry excess weight. We tend to underestimate the impact it can have on our reputation and business success. So, let’s address it head-on. As business women we have to be totally clear about what’s going on in our customers’ subconscious mind when they interact with us. I think that as a businesswomen we must face the truth. 

It’s disheartening to know that many slim individuals hold negative perceptions about those who are overweight. Words like ‘stupid,’ ‘undisciplined,’ ‘smelly’, and ‘lazy’ are thrown around, contributing to unfair judgments and biases (most of the time behind our back). But we must remember that these beliefs stem from ignorance, stereotypes, and societal pressures and most of all from the old ‘eat less and exercise more’ paradigm, which is insanely outdated.

It’s important to recognize that these negative perceptions don’t define who we are. Besides, we just have to get away from the misconception that all overweight people are chronic and undisciplined over-eaters. For most of us, the root causes are somewhere else, and the ‘eat less and exercise more’ tactics just don’t work. Besides, your worth as a businesswoman extends far beyond your physical appearance. Your skills, talents, and determination can and will speak louder than any preconceived notions, once you have gotten over your own perceptions. The more self-confident you feel in your body, the less others will see it as a problem when working with you. It’s time to rewrite your story and let your accomplishments shine. Besides, you don’t want to lose your extra weight for others, but for YOURSELF and for the sake of your health and wellbeing only.

Now, let’s explore the impact your natural and maintainable weight loss can have on your reputation and business success. Shedding those extra pounds is not just about conforming to societal standards; it’s about reclaiming your confidence and proving to yourself and others that you CAN help your clients achieve what they want.

Here are just a few perceptions, people have about ex overweight people who have lost weight.

  1. Many people perceive weight loss as an admirable accomplishment. They appreciate the effort, discipline, and dedication it takes to achieve weight loss goals and view it as a positive change for overall health and well-being.
  2. Weight loss is often associated with improved physical health. People view women who have successfully slimmed as individuals who have taken proactive steps to enhance their overall health and well-being. This perception is often accompanied by positive regard and support.
  3. Weight loss can lead to increased self-confidence for individuals who have achieved their desired results. Others may perceive women who have slimmed down as more self-assured and empowered, which can positively influence how they are perceived in various social settings.
  4. People have more respect for others who have achieved a big personal goal. They become kind of magnetic to others. People have more respect for those who have accomplished significant personal goals, finding them inspiring and admirable, and they want to have the same results. 

When you embark on a journey towards a healthier you, you demonstrate resilience, discipline, and self-care (even though with my method you don’t need a lot of discipline and no willpower). You demonstrate that you CAN achieve goals for you as well as for your clients or bosses. People will notice your commitment and dedication, and they’ll be drawn to your renewed sense of confidence. Your reputation will soar as you become an inspiration to others, showing them what’s possible. Remember, people judge a book by its cover….still. 

Maybe by now you’re getting a sense of how your current weight might even be a blessing in disguise.

Reason #4: self-limiting beliefs

Now, let’s have an honest conversation about self-limiting beliefs and their impact on your business success. Self-limiting beliefs are so common among overweight women. I’ve been where you are, and I can also tell you with my utmost confidence that it’s time to break free and unlock your true potential.

Now, when you carry extra weight, it’s easy to internalize self-limiting beliefs. By going from diet to diet and losing and gaining and losing and gaining, you may have lost faith in yourself, thinking that your inability to succeed with diets is a reflection of your worth. You may believe that it’s your fault and your lack of discipline. These beliefs can and actually do damage your inner psychology, robbing you of your self-image and even impact your business success, and even worse, rob you of your joy of living. So let me tell you, it’s not you—it’s the diets. They do a tremendous damage to a person’s health, psychology, mindset, and subconscious. 

Now, let’s explore how losing weight the right way, in a sustainable and healthy manner, can transform your inner psychology and consequently, your business success. When you go on a journey towards a sustainable weight loss, you rediscover your power and resilience. You realize that it’s not about quick fixes or crash diets; it’s about transforming you psychology, your story, your subconscious mind, and the root causes. Of course it’s also about leading a healthy lifestyle, about nourishing your body, mind, and soul. Yet it’s mostly about transforming the root causes.

As you shed the pounds the right way, you’ll witness a profound shift in your self-image, self-worth, and self-confidence. You’ll start to see yourself as the capable and deserving businesswoman that you truly are. Your self-confidence and self-worth must come from within, where they already are, maybe still hidden, but they are there. These newfound beliefs will shape your decisions, your actions, and ultimately, your success.

When you embrace your true potential and radiate self-confidence, others will take notice. Your clients, colleagues, and partners will be drawn to your magnetic presence and charisma, recognizing your expertise and leadership. Your business will flourish as you attract new opportunities and build stronger connections.

Like you, I’ve walked the path of self-limiting beliefs, and I’ve learned the truth about weight issues that’s often hidden from us. It’s so hard to feel great and powerful about yourself when you see your wobbly flab in the mirror. But it’s an important part of the process and your self-growth! Your weight is literally forcing you to get out of the status quo and begin to take care of your health. It’s your wake-up call. Hear your body’s cry for help!

Reason #5: the impact of embarrassment

Now let’s have a candid conversation about the impact of embarrassment on your business success. It’s time to break free from this cycle and turn it into a journey of transformation in order to gain back the feeling of empowerment.

Being an overweight or obese businesswoman, high executive, or public figure, can be incredibly embarrassing. Deep down, you know how you want to look and feel. You may have tried to accept your weight, but that nagging voice inside tells you that you could look and feel better. This internal struggle can leave you feeling like a loser, especially when diets and other attempts have failed to bring lasting results. But it’s useless because this is a game you can never win. There is only one way of ending the embarrassment. To take the bull at its horns, take responsibility for the current status quo and start making changes from the inside out. Get down to the brass-tacks with your root causes. And if you need assistance with that, I’m here to assist you. 

So, let’s explore how losing weight the right way can help you shed the cloak of embarrassment and unlock a deep sense of pride and self-love. When you embark on a journey of transformation that addresses the root causes of weight gain, something incredible happens. Your body starts to respond, and you feel a growing sense of love and respect for yourself.

As you begin to make progress on your weight loss journey, something amazing occurs within you. You start to feel proud of the choices you’re making and the changes you’re experiencing. It feels like that weight is falling off of you effortlessly. This newfound sense of pride and self-love spills over into all aspects of your life, including your business.

When you feel proud and confident in your own skin, it impacts how others perceive you. Your clients, colleagues, and partners will be inspired by your transformation, and they’ll recognize your strength and determination. This shift in perception can lead to new opportunities, increased credibility, and ultimately, greater business success.

In my work with clients I’ve learned that real, lasting weight loss comes from addressing the root causes. So it’s time to let go of the shame and embrace a future where you feel proud and confident, regardless of your current weight. The trick is to feel confident about your body before you lose weight. Together, we’ll uncover the root causes and transform them, transform your relationship with your body, and set new causes for even greater success in your business.

It’s time to break free from the chains of embarrassment and step into a life filled with pride and success. It’s time to embrace the love and respect your body deserves, while achieving extraordinary business success.

As one of my former clients recently said, “Now I finally have the life I always wanted!” She lost 48 pounds within three months as a side effect (no diet, no exercise), gained a lot more energy, restored healthy sleeping habits, alleviated daily headaches, developed a deeper relationship with her daughter, found the love of her life at the age of 55, and transitioned from being unemployed and searching for an underpaid job to being self-employed, earning double the income she would have made in a job. Throughout these three months of one-on-one coaching, we exclusively focused on transforming her inner psychology rather than addressing any symptoms. Her weight was never on our radar. 

If that’s the kind of transformation you would like to have as well, then you have come to the right place. What you need to understand is that there is an 80% chance that it was your psychology which led to your current weight. So if you want to lose it, you first have to change your psychology and you will not have to bother about the weight itself any longer.

Please ask yourself honestly: Do I really want just the next diet or do I want it all? If your answer is, “I want the health and life I have always dreamed of”, then you are  ready to take the next step towards your transformation. I’m here to guide you on your weight loss journey. It begins with the first step.

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Weight Loss Psychology – How long does it take to form a new habit?

Weight Loss Psychology – How long does it take to form a new habit?

Did you ever hear the saying that once you can ride a bicycle you’ll never forget how to do it? Even if you would not use it for 20 years and then one day decide that you want to take the bicycle instead of the car, you would still do it the right way without having to think about. 

The interesting thing is that it takes a very short time to form a new habit we find pleasurable. On the other hand it can take between 30 and to 254 days to form a new habit that is not so convenient (Study by University College of London performed on 96 people). Of course, more complex behaviors like playing the piano require more time to become a habit. Less complex habits like pealing an apple in a certain way can be formed within a few days. What all habits have in common though is that, once formed they will never go away. Kind of scary, isn’t it?

There are many different kinds of habits, for instance habits that secure our survival like learning how to walk. If we had to decide each time which step to put forward next, we would get crazy. Our brain would constantly be focused on how to do simple, repetitive tasks instead of engaging in new, more important ones.

Since we form new habits by making choices – most choices we make rather serve our lazy self – we have many habits we are not even entirely aware of. Some habits affect our live more than others. Some are beneficial and lead to health, wellness, happiness, great relationships, success and wealth while others lead the opposite way. Some habits have drastic consequences and others only minor consequences in our lives. Some habits such as smoking, consuming too much alcohol or use other drugs can offset or set in motion several less powerful habits. They literally cause a chain reaction of several more habits that are either beneficial or not.

One of these beneficial habits that are followed by other positive ones is exercising, for instance. Once you exercise daily, you need to drink more water. Then you feel less hungry and eat less heavy food. After a while you develop the desire to eat more healthy food so that exercising becomes easier. In the meantime you start losing weight what motivates you to adopt other positive habits and keep that healthy lifestyle.

Improving the quality of sleep and getting enough sleep (7.5 to 8 hours every night) is another such power habit that creates a domino effect. You lose weight easier and faster, you have more stamina during the day, you are more focused and concentrated, and you have more energy to go out and so some exercise.

Smoking on the other hand can negatively offset the benefits of daily exercising and healthy eating. Because of the many toxins cigarettes contain, the body gets a load of toxins it has to deal with what inevitably leads to weight gain.

The trick is to stick to a new habit long enough so that your brain begins to form new neural pathways. If you give up too soon, the brain will quickly and easily force you back into your old habit and all the effort, time, and energy was wasted. The next time you are making another attempt to change that particular habit, it will be even more difficult to eliminate it. It is necessary to stick with your desired habit long enough so that the brain has enough time to form new neural pathways. This is one reason why over 90% give up on their New Year’s resolutions every year. Poor habit is also responsible for the fact that more people want to become rich than actually are rich…they are just not willing to form the habits which are necessary to achieve success.

Another reason is that people don’t really know how to change their habits and are trying to do it with willpower. But willpower is only needed at the beginning to decide on the new habit. What you will need after that is patience, perseverance and consistency. Most people make the mistake to use the little willpower they have left to keep going, not realizing that willpower is only the initial power. After that it requires discipline to show up every day for a certain time, patience, and perseverance until the new habit (be it weight loss habit, success habit, or any other habit) will be formed. These are also qualities we need to develop to be slim, healthy and successful in life.

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What is very important for that part of habit forming is a strong why. If your life depends on, the chances are much bigger that you will succeed with your habit forming process than just being angry at yourself for giving up too soon. For example, if you’re a mom of a 7-year old and your doctor tell you that you’ll within two years if you don’t lose weight, you would turn every stone to get rid of your extra weight ASAP. 

If you’d try to outsmart your bad habits by taking a weight loss pill or by getting a gastric surgery done, for instance, your habits would still be effective and the struggle would go on and on.  Habits don’t just change because you go on a diet, take a weight loss pill or get a gastric band. 

There are much easier ways to change habit than trying to come up with more willpower than you have. One way is to transform them instead of trying to eliminate bad habit. Habits can’t be eliminated anyway. Once the neural pathways are there, the old habit will remain. The only thing you can do is replacing the poor habit with an even stronger positive one. There are some smart ways you can use to fool the brain into collaborating and embracing a new habit. However, if you don’t know how to do that, the chances that you’re going to lose that war are big.

Our body always follows the rules of nature and is most of the time smarter than the person sitting inside of the body. But once we begin to understand the nature of our bodies, how it works, what it needs to accomplish, and how we can rather support our body instead of trying to force something onto it, we become a team and changes will be much easier and more effective. Then you will be the smart leader and your brain and body will become your enthusiastic partners supporting you in your weight loss goals.

As soon as you let your subconscious become your partner, habit change can occur almost instantly. Such an immediate habit change makes your whole life a lot easier and things can begin to change immediately as well.

Weight struggles and plateaus have mainly to do with some poor habits (most of them are unknown to the person), and once these habits have changed, our lives will immediately begin to change as well. Weight loss then becomes much more effortless and better health will be another consequence.

The better you and your body become as a team, the faster and easier you can begin to transform other poor habits as well and your live will drastically improve in any regards.

Happy weight loss!

7 Weeks to Healthy Drinking Habits for Maintainable Weight Loss

Doctors will tell you that eight glasses of liquidity per day is enough…any liquidity. I disagree. While eight glasses are far too little, many women have a problem drinking even that much water every day. Many clients tell me that they have a problem swallowing the water.

The main reason is because your body is not used to drink plain water. It may take several weeks to get used to drinking water at all and then to get used to drinking up to three liters per day. That’s the amount a slim person needs. Now if you’re overweight, you will even need more than that. But let’s start with three liters per day.

Now why am I saying that it has to be water. In fact, I will even as far as telling you that everything else you drink during the day will not count towards the three liters.

There is something very important to understand about drinking. Water is an information carrier, and your body distinguishes between water and liquid “food”. Anything added to the water is considered to being “food” and not used for cleansing purposes. But the body desperately needs the water for cleansing. Ask yourself, would you ever use coffee, tea, juice, soda pop or a smoothie to clean your house? Rather not. In order to carry out the toxins and acids, your body needs clean water without any additions.

Now to the problem to swallow water (what many people have who are not used to drinking plain water). First of all, you and your bladder will get used to after a while. Start small and add one glass per day every week. One way of making it easier to drink water is to find out what temperature works best for you. My body, for example prefers the water to be almost hot, others want it warm, and still others need it ice-cold. To begin with, drink it at the temperature that works best for you.

Generally speaking, to enhance the metabolism, hot water is best. But don’t heat it in the microwave oven, otherwise you will start another negative and fat-creating chain reaction. Boil the water in a water heater and add as much hot water to the cold water as you can tolerate.

How to Know If You’re Dehydrated

Unfortunately, most people live in a chronic state of dehydration.  This leads to massive health issues. The problem is that most people don’t even recognize the sensation of thirst anymore. When your mouth is feeling dry, you’re already heavily dehydrated.

Other symptoms are dry lips and eyes. If you don’t deal with dehydration ASAP, heavier symptoms will be chronic fatigue, irritability, brain fog, constipation, and rapid pulse.

Why water for better weight loss?

  • You have more energy and being active is easier.
  • Your body can better detoxify what leads to faster weight loss.
  • Your body can better release acid what leads to faster weight loss.
  • Your liver needs the water to better burn fat.
  • Water increases calorie burning.
  • Most people can’t distinguish between hunger and thirst and eat when they’re thirsty what leads to more food intakes than they really need. Thus drinking more water leads to weight loss.
  • It may suppress your appetite.
  • Water boosts your metabolism.
  • Drinking more water make exercise easier and more efficient.
  • Most drinks contain calories. Drinking water could help reduce your overall liquid calorie intake.
  • Water transports nutrients in our bloodstream and aids in digestion. Thus you get less hungry.
  • Water improves the lubrication of your joints.

Additional benefits:

  • You’ll save a lot of money
  • Your over-all health improves.
  • Water may improve motivation and reduce stress
  • Drinking enough water reduces brain fog and increases focus and concentration.
  • Water keeps your skin bright
  • Water regulates blood pressure
  • Water is vital for the function of nearly all of the body’s systems. 

What kind of water should you drink?

The best water would be clean spring water, but many people don’t have access to spring water.

The second best is tap water. If you don’t have good tap water, invest in a good water filter.

I don’t recommend drinking bottled water. But sometimes you just don’t have a choice. In that situation I recommend changing the water brand often and don’t drink any mineral water with carbonic acid.

If you want to speed up your detoxification, you can drink a glass of distilled water per day.

How much water do you need?

Slim people need 3 liters of water per day. Overweight people need 4 to 5 liters of water per day, depending on their weight. You can check the color of your urine. If your kidneys are healthy, your urine will be dark and smelly when you don’t drink enough water. Light yellow is ideal.

The National Academy of Medicine (NAM) in the United States recommends women to drink 2.700ml per day and men to drink 3.700ml per day.

How can you track your water intake? It helps me to keep track on the amount of water by filling four 1-liter glass bottles in the morning. By dinner they have to be empty.

Why salt?

80% of the planet consists of salt water. Likewise our body is made of 80% of salt water. Most of all, you need the salt for the electrolytes. 

Forget about any additives. The only thing your body absolutely needs is a few grains of  salt in every second or third glass of water, but only enough for the water to taste soft and not salty. But please, don’t use any salt. Organic sea salt, Himalayan salt, or organic stone salt is best.

Reasons why you need salt with your water:

  • Because of the electrolytes
  • Because our body consists to 80% of water
  • Our blood is “salt water” as well
  • Your body can better bring the water to every part and transport all the toxins and acid away from your soft tissue
  • It makes the water feel soft and thus it’s easier to drink

How to change your drinking habits step by step

  • Week 1: Replace all other drinks by water – use the same cup or bottle you usually use for your coffee, tea, pop, juice, etc.
  • Week 2: drink a glass of hot water right after getting up in the morning before breakfast
  • Week 3: drink a second glass of water right after the first one in the morning and add a few grains of Himalayan salt, organic sea salt, or organic stone salt
  • Week 4: whatever else you drink, take an additional 2 glasses of water before lunch (500ml)
  • Week 5: whatever else you drink, take an additional 2 glasses of water before dinner (500ml)
  • Week 6: drink an additional 500ml of water between breakfast and lunch
  • Week 7: drink an additional 500ml of water between lunch and dinner

Further tips:

  • Make it a habit to finish a glass of water all at once. Don’t put the glass out of your hands until it’s empty.
  • Fill three to four 1-liter bottles in the morning and make it a habit to drink throughout the day so that all four bottles will be drunk before dinner. Start slowly and increase your daily water intake every week or two. Your body first needs to learn to deal with more water.
  • Stop drinking water three hours before going to bed.

At the beginning you will have to go to the toilet more often. That’s normal. After a few months your body begins to deal with the increased amount of water differently and increase the volume of the bladder. So be prepared that you will need to visit the toilet more often at the beginning. That’s the price you have to pay for faster weight loss and improved overall health.

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What else can you do?

Habits are among the biggest stumbling blocks regarding weight loss and make it close to impossible to move beyond a certain weight. Habits constantly sabotage even your strongest weight loss goals. They can completely bypass your mind and your willpower and make you act without you even being aware of.

Habits can’t be overcome with discipline and willpower. There is no discipline strong enough to over-rule habits.

Habits can’t be eliminated. They’re burned into our brains. For these reasons, habits seem to be very hard to overcome because most people try to overrule them with willpower and discipline. That will never work.

Habits can only be transformed.

Learn how to transform all fattening habits and you’ll start losing weight seemingly automatically. By the way, there are eight groups of habits which contribute to weight gain and the inability to lose it.

Changing your fattening habits will not only make it much easier for you to lose weight, it will also automatically help you improve any other health issues you may have.

 If you want to learn more about improving your drinking habits and other slimming habits, check out my free webinar about Habit Transformation. During this 90-minute webinar you will learn the eight groups of habits that contribute to weight gain and how to transform poor habits vs. trying to fight them with willpower and discipline, among many other important things.

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Weight Loss Psychology – How Your House Can Make You Fat

Weight Loss Psychology – How Your House Can Make You Fat

By now you have learned about several contributing factors and root causes of weight gain and the inability to lose extra fat.

But have you ever heard that your clutter could add to your weight, too?

When I heard that for the first time from my friend and interview partner Linda J.Binns I was not surprised at all. Because stuck energy is stuck energy is stuck energy….

It just began to make so much sense to me.

Did you ever hear the expression “As within so without?” Actually, it’s not an expression but nothing less but one of the seven Universal Laws, just like the Law of Attention is one of them and true for everything and everyone. Whether you like it or not, these Universal Laws just work with or without you believing in them and with or without your active contribution. Your outer body is just a reflection of what’s going on inside of you, and likewise your home is as well a reflection of your inner world. 

When I asked Linda if it could really be that easy to get rid of clutter and lose weight she answered: “Well, it can certainly my be a contributing or helping factor. Now you know what I want to avoid is people thinking that they can go out and get rid of everything and automatically lose weight. What I hope to show through this interview is the connection between the stuff that we accumulate and any weight that we accumulate and help you understand that and to understand what’s going on, what’s the connection there and how from that perspective when you let go of the clutter, it can actually have a positive impact on your weight as well.”

To that I want to add that it’s all about energy and your inner energy. If you just want to proof us wrong and declutter your house without going through the inner process of letting go, not much will happen. You will feel relieved and lighter, but that doesn’t necessarily means that your fat is now going to burn off like crazy. However, it can. It all depends on what is going on within you. You not only have to ready to let go of clutter but also be ready and willing to let go of everything that lead to weight gain and that is keeping you overweight.

The thing is that the more clutter one has, the more it attracts and that by sorting out one’s stuff literally sorts out one’s life.

“When we attract something, when we are attracting the clutter into our lives, clutter is a symptom of something that is going with us. When you think of energy flow, what clutter does is it stops energy flowing and it creates stuck energy around us. So, when we accumulate clutter, it’s a symptom that something is not in alignment within us and so we accumulate stuff as a symptom of something being out of balance inside of us and that can be. You may not be experiencing it yet as health issues but then you may as well. And then the more stuff you have, the more it adds to itself. And when you sort out that stuff, as you sort out that stuff it starts to help you come more into balance energetically and physically. So you know it starts out as a symptom as you start to address it and you sort out the stuff, it could help you to find the solution for whatever is going on with you on a physical level.”

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Dealing with the clutter & letting some things go, can really bring major changes in one’s life. When I asked Linda what of change we might experience by decluttering, she answered, “You can really  expect any kind of change.  I mean it really depends on the person and what’s going on in their life. But as I said, collecting clutter, accumulating stuff is a symptom of something that is not right in your life or something that is not right with you. So, as you start to eliminate the clutter and you start to deal with that, anything can change. And I had people experience all kinds of different changes from suddenly finding the  answer to a problem they have been experiencing for many years, or the right person suddenly showing up to help them, or business owners when  they let go off stuff attracting new clients seemingly out of the blue. You know what it does is … as you let go off the stuff, it opens up the space for things to change, for the things that you do really need to come into your life. And so really anything can happen depending on what’s going on with the person at the time.”

“As you let go off the stuff, it opens up the space for things to change, for the things that you do really need to come into your life.”

Of course, this is very individual.  What happens to one person as a result of her letting go process may not happen to anybody else. You can’t tell in advance what is going to change for you. That’s the beauty of inner processes in general: they are entirely individual and so are the results. And although I’m repeating myself – I have to so that you really understand that from the depth of your heart – this can nor will it ever happen with a diet or exercise program. Healthy eating and exercise always have to be part of a sensible weight loss strategy, but they don’t solve the root causes. And that’s really the most important part about my work – I never know in advance how things are going to work out for any particular client. Still after 38 years of doing this work I often get surprised about the results.

To that Linda adds, “It is really very individual. And yes, it’s different for everybody … all I can tell you is that, if you address this, if you deal with the clutter, things can and will change for you for the better.” And the best about this is, that things will change in the best possible way for you, what is the best for you.

Linda is a Feng Shui expert and was often called to look at people’s houses. So I asked her how common clutter is among overweight people and if she can see a common pattern.

“Yes! It’s very common. Even if it’s not the whole house, there is usually some area, at least one area. Very often it will be the closet. I remember walking with one couple – they didn’t have weight issues but they had health issues –  their house was immaculate, but what they had was a basement and an attic absolutely full to the brim of stuff.  Boxes and boxes of stuff, there was no energy movement at all. So, they were living in a kind of sandwich between this stuck energy. So, it may not be everywhere in your house, but it will be somewhere, and if you have any issue with weight, I can almost guarantee you have issues with clutter somewhere in your home.”

Holly wow! When I heard that I was never more motivated to go through all my stuff and get rid of some clutter.

The interesting thing is that enhancements through Feng Shui can never be fully effective as long as there is clutter and thus the flow of energy is still blocked. So many women who struggle with weight constantly feel kind of stuck in their lives, or even imprisoned. So I asked Linda if the simple act of decluttering could positively affect the energy flow in our bodies; especially weight related energy that may be trapped.

“Yes! Just simply decluttering absolutely affects the energy flow in your body . And you know weight is stuck energy. It means that … it’s not simply a question of diet and exercise for everybody. I know of many women who are overweight because of not eating enough, for example. But the weight issue goes so much deeper than just diet and exercise; and what you have to understand is that your environment is simply a reflection of what is going on with you. It’s a reflection of everything that’s going on in your life and again, the clutter is simply a symptom, it’s a sign of what is going on within you. So, when you deal with that clutter and you start to release and open up the energy, it has a very positive effect on your own personal energy because you are directly connected to your home. It’s a reflection of you. So, as you start to clear out that clutter, it starts to clear out your own energy.”

I am sure that ninety percent of my readers now thank Linda for that statement that being overweight is very often not a matter of eating, and it’s true.

So do you feel that you want to declutter a particular closet or a drawer?

Go do it! You will feel lighter after. Besides, your motivation may not get any higher to declutter than it is right now. So use that positive energy.

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Weight Loss Psychology – Negative Self-Talk & Healing Through Love

I can’t count how many examples of negative self-talk I have heard from women in my 38 years of being a weight loss coach. Many of the things women tell themselves made me even cry. And these were all wonderful, lovely and loveable women. Yet they all found the worst names for themselves….worse names than they would ever call a dog, let alone somebody else.

A lack of self-love in overweight women is almost omni-present. It seems that overweight women very often also have a problem to love themselves because they did not experience to be loved much during their childhood or in a marriage. They just don’t think they’re loveable, no matter how wonderful and lovely they are. And the worst thing is that they are so convinced that nobody can love them, that even when an entire class of 20 other workshop participants are doing everything to convince them how wonderful and beautiful they are, they find it hard to believe it. Their response often is, “You’re only saying this to be nice with me.”

But fact is that the more we love ourselves the more it’s natural that we take care of what we put into our mouth, what we eat, and what we do to our body. For many overweight women this is probably a far-reaching goal because they are not there yet.

For example, one of my interview guests, Oprah-featured author Laura Fenamore, used to call herself “big, fat, ugly drunk.” Despite being obese and an alcoholic, she had to learn to love herself first to heal both, her weight and her addiction.

These negative self-talks are so common among overweight women, yet they are far from being helpful. That way we can’t build a good relationship with our body and promote lasting weight loss. In order to lose extra weight for good, you need to be in a good relationship with your body to get its full collaboration. How would you like if somebody called you the worst names and then expected you to help them do something for them? Your healthy reaction would be to respond, “Since you can’t be friendly to me, why would I waste any time and energy helping you?”  

How did Laura manage to go from being insanely obese and an alcoholic to being slim, sober, and successful? “Well the first thing that I had to do was really wake up to what I was doing. Because so many people are on auto-pilot that they aren’t even aware of their negative self-talk; they are just not aware that they can’t stop eating or that they are obsessed about food. Maybe they feel dissected like ‘there is something wrong with me.’ But often times people don’t walk around saying, Oh! I call myself an ugly person every day. They just do it. But what happens is, when they get somebody like you coming in their life, and you’re here to help people see another way, they all of a sudden start to notice, ‘oh my goodness, maybe I am not talking to myself so nicely.’ And they start to notice and from the place of noticing, then they can make a shift. I mean it’s really the first step. The first step is to really notice what’s happening, and when I notice that, ‘Oh my goodness, how I’ve talked to myself is just horrible.’ And people say this all the time. ‘I wouldn’t talk to a stranger or a dog the way that I talk to myself. I was really, really mean to myself.’ And that is not going to change until we become conscious of it.”

And then, once you become conscious of it, it’s just a process, the same way that all of the inner work is. It’s a process that is needed…not a pill. Although “…we want instant gratification, but instant gratification doesn’t come. It’s really a process to undo those thoughts and feelings and behaviors that we’ve been living with. It just takes one little step at the time…to undo that negative self-talk and to begin to start talking to ourselves with kindness, compassion and love. And even if we find that we’re hanging out with people that are just really talking nasty to us, or they are being just as abusive…a lot of things may need to shift in order for you to move forward,” Laura continued.

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Of course, “…that’s not easy for everybody to hear, but I am saying that I’ve had people walk away from jobs and marriages and all kinds of situations where they really were not there for the right reasons; because they were there because they felt like they had to be there not because they wanted to be there.  And it was actually holding them back from their truth and what they wanted and valued.”

The problem is that when you’re being treated badly by other people – family, a spouse or friends – then it’s much easier to think negatively about yourself. And after a while you begin to believe that they are right…you literally buy into that lie. And the longer you live with such a lie, the more you begin to believe it and the harder you will find it to stop those self-abusive talks, because “…one thing feeds into the other.” It gets you on a proverbial downward spiral.

The really dangerous thing about all that negative self-talk is that it gets on auto-pilot. After a while you don’t even realize what you’re thinking about yourself. And even worse, what you think and how you feel about yourself, create a new reality and makes matters worse. The longer such a pattern lasts, the harder it will be to lose extra weight for good.

If this is you, then I’m urging you to get away from such negative self-talk. Don’t allow yourself or anybody else to talk badly about you. You are a wonderful being and loveable. The first step is really to become aware of your negative self-talk. Then stop it!

Stop it!

Just stop it!

The next step then is to be grateful to your body, to what it’s doing for you every second of the day, for years and decades without ever getting a ‘Thank you’ from you. It just does its job as long as it can, even though you often reject your own body. Just know that your body is an intelligent being and it knows exactly what you are doing. Don’t you ever believe that your body can’t be hurt by what you think or say about it.

After the gratitude comes love. Start with something you like about your body. Maybe you have beautiful eyes, great hair or nicely shaped legs. There is something beautiful in every woman.  

Maintainable weight loss begins with loving yourself. I know you may think, ‘I will love myself once I’ll be slim.’ Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. You have condemned and abused your body so often and for so long, that you first have to stop that and give your body proof that it has a reason to cooperate with you and burn off that extra fat.

To that Laura says, “Well that’s another one of those components. It’s like life is happening now, it’s not a dress-rehearsal, and why would we want to start liking and loving ourselves once the weight is off? I mean, I understand intellectually why people go there. Because they think in their minds, ‘I am not going to love myself until after I get thin or after I stop eating so much.’ But the truth is that you are who you are now, not later. Now. So the love has to be and the self-acceptance has to begin now. And from that place you will stop the war.

Having more self-love means coming from a compassionate place. The negative self-talk may not go away right away. “Again it’s a process, not a pill. It takes a little bit of time, and it’s that place at self-acceptance. Like ‘I appreciate myself now.“

Laura, “It was really another one of those turning points for me. I had to get that, oh my goodness, I have to accept myself as I am in order for me to release this weight and keep it off.  And I really think that that was part of the magic, that I was in a place of self-acceptance and self-love, as I worked myself down the scale. Did I want to be 200 pounds or 220 pounds?  No. absolutely not, and when I say to people ‘you have to accept yourself as you are,’ they are  kinda  like, ‘but I don’t want to look like this, I don’t want to be this way.’  I know.  But if you walk around everyday saying, I hate my body, I hate the way I look, I want to lose weight, I hate to diet,” it’s not going to happen.

What if you’re just going to understand and feel that you can change slowly but surely? Then, while you’re changing, you begin to appreciate your body for what it does and you’re going to do the emotional and mental work that will lead you to feeling good about yourself on all levels. Would that be helpful? How fast do you think things would change for you?

Just try!

Just start somewhere!

It’s a choice. 

I understand that such a process is not easy when you have to go through it alone. For that purpose I have created a closed Facebook group where you can be among like-minded women who have all the same or similar issues like you have. You don’t have to go through this alone. Both, Laura and I had to get help. It would be too big of an ordeal to do it all alone. So let us be in your boat so that we can assist you to lose your extra weight faster. 

Happy slimming!

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Fat-Burning Supplements – Their Advantages and Disadvantages

Recently, there have  some fat-burning supplements hit the market with big claims and promises. Because people often ask me what I think about these products, I tried several for myself. Besides, I knew what I had to look for and how to protect my health. In this article I want to share with you my experiences and conclusions.

First of all, those products I’ve tried didn’t work at all.

I’m sure that some people must have lost some weight, otherwise the manufacturer could not make such big claims like “lose 1 pound a day”. Well, maybe I’m still just too naïve or credulous. I just can’t believe that there are people out there who would lie so shamelessly and take advantage of others. But, of course, they do exist. Althought I have seen many of those, I still prefer to believe in the good in people. 

To gain an understanding of what I want to share with you today, let’s assume that these supplements work at least for some people. And let’s take the extreme example of “lose 1 pound a day”.

Doesn’t that sound tempting? Gosh, if that is true, how fast could we all lose our extra weight!

BUT….

Do we really want to lose it that fast? Is such a fast weight loss healthy? And most of all is it maintainable? Because, who in her right mind wants to lose weight quickly just to gain that lost weight back? So I assume that we are all on the same page here and want to lose weight for good.

To get a better understanding of how much sense such a speedy weight loss would make, we have to take a look into our body. There are two major issues with that.

First of all, when we lose weight in an unnatural way fast – meaning that we use a substance that forces our body to burn fat very quickly – what happens then in our body?

The faster you lose fat, the more your body will be instantly be flooded with toxins and acid. Keep in mind that extra fat serves your body as storage room for toxins and acid in order to keep them safely away from your vital organs and most of all, from your bloodstream.

Why does your body do that?

Because, toxins and acid are lethal already in small dosages. That’s why our body comes with such a fantastic safety system to keep you alive as long as possible. In its wisdom, your body is constantly trying to undo all the damage you and your environment are doing. And it does that 24/7, 365 days a year, every year of your hopefully long life. What an ordeal!

But the moment your body is forced to burn that fat quickly, it will be literally flooded with countless toxic substances and acid; and that can be really dangerous. Even a slight increase of acid in your blood can be lethal. That’s why our body is so adamanent in buildig fat layers upon fat layers to store them away in the least harmful way. 

What would the alternative be? When you lose weight through leading a healthy lifestyle, your body burns a little bit fat, deals with the released acid and toxins small enough so that your system can really deal with without being jeopardized. So it’s burning fat… excreting the released toxins…burning fat…excreting the released toxins…burning fat, etc. On the other hand, if you use a fat-burning supplement, the process is burning fat…burning fat…burning fat…burning fat, and liver and kidneys have no chance to deal with all these newly released toxins. Your system is not prepared to deal with such a sudden load of acid and toxins at once. The consequences are a damage of some organs (liver damage, kidney damage, skin cancer, etc.) and eventually early death. Although then you would not have to worry about your weight anymore, I assume that this is not an option for you.

If this is not fast enough for you – but keep in mind that we are still talking about maintainable weight loss and not about yo-yo dieting – then there is an alternative. It’s excreting toxins first…letting the body burn fat that is no longer needed…excreting toxins…letting the body burn fat that is no longer needed…excreting toxins, and so on. This is what happens when you do a healthy detox or cleansing. Here too, you can either do it the wrong or the right way. [Please see my program SheSlimEasy 90]

Alas, the flood of acid and toxins is just one downside of fat-burning supplements. There is another consequence of quick weight loss. It’s not unhealthy but extremely ugly. I’m talking about the consequence of having lose skin. Lose skin always comes with unnaturally fast weight loss. Natural weight loss, where the body has time to adjust in a natural and healthy manner, hardly leads to saggy skin.

“I can get rid of the excess skin with a plastic surgery,” you may respond. Yes, you can. But I say that you still did not fully consider the consequences.

First of all, each surgery leaves scarves, and scarves derange the functions of the meridians what leads to a variety of health problems. Besides, this would not look nice because then your body would soon look like a map with ugly lines and bumps all over. Thirdly, your body would not look nicely toned and shaped. You may be slim, that’s true, but you will not look attractive because your body would lack a nice shape.

Can you see how the temptation of losing weight quickly leads to new and even more problems? On top of that, quick weight loss is never sustainable. Now you have all these other issues, that is, if you’re still alive; and on top of that you will soon be fat again, now having more problems than ever before.

So why doing this to yourself?

Is that really worth the price?

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Speaking of the price of these supplements, they are quite expensive. A year’s worth costs approximately $780. Yes, you pay monthly and thus it doesn’t hurt so much. Most likely one year of consuming these supplements will not do because the lost weight tends to come back. So you will more likely have to buy these supplements year after year. And, keep in mind what other costs the fast weight loss will bring in terms of health and longevity. I know people who had to spend all their savings in health costs. And instead of enjoying their life after retirement or buying their dream house, they now run from doctor to doctor and spend a ton of money every month, just to function minimally. Believe me, that’s not what I call a good life. Because everything extreme we do to our body can lead to autoimmunity, and any kind of autoimmune diseases are very expensive to treat, not to speak about the destroyed liver and kidneys, and the skin cancer because these organs could no longer deal with such a load of toxins and acid waste material.

Then there is a third problem with that approach. It does not eliminate the root cause. With that approach – be it diet, exercise, pills, or surgery – you either mask or treat the symptom but not the cause. The symptom may go away for a while or be invisible, but some day it will come back. Symptoms will always come back like a boomerang as long as the root cause is still there. Symptoms are your body’s way of communicating with you. And as long as you don’t deal with the real problem and solve it, the symptoms will come back. So what sense does it make to treat the symptom before the root cause will be eliminated or transformed? 

None whatsoever. 

I had clients who thought that my programs were too expensive and that they first wanted to try X and Y. Of course, they turned out to try X, Y, Z, A, B, and C. Then they eventually ended up in one of my workshops. Only, then I had to deal with a lot more issues than they had a couple of years earlier.

So you spend a lot of money.

You lose precious time and waste your energy.

You lose weight fast but you overtax your excretion organs and get yourself in severe danger of becoming severally ill or even die prematurely.

Then you get that ugly, saggy skin.

Both leads to higher health costs.

And when you’ll gain the lost weight back, you will have to keep purchasing these supplements, quickly getting yourself in an endless downward spiral. And some day you will end up at my door again. 

So, may I introduce you to a healthier alternative where you can lose weight fast now (not ultra fast but still fast) while detoxifying in a healthy way, and all that without getting so much excess skin that the body can’t adjust anymore and safe you a lot of money and sorrow?

My SheSlim programs are all about transformation of the root causes. Once the root cause(s) is eliminated, your body has no longer a reason to hold onto the extra fat and can begin to burn it off in its own speed. For example, in my SheSlimEasy program we transform all the habitual root causes – we work on eight habit groups and over 20 poor, fattening habits. In my SheSlimFast program we then take the detoxification to the next level, where the most weight loss can happen. In my SheSlimSmart program, we take care of your mindset and your psychology and use mental techniques for faster and easier weight loss in accord with your body. The SheSlimForever program is then about the transformation of psychological root causes and trauma. The last two workshops are mainly for maintainable weight loss while the first two can lead to fast weight loss in healthy ways. For all these programs the main goal is maintainable weight loss through transformation

That’s the big difference.

The big difference is maintainable weight loss through transformation.

This path is certainly faster than constant yo-yo dieting. It’s safe, healthy, and maintainable. So here you really have it all.

And here is another fantastic benefit most people are not even aware of. With this approach you are creating a nice domino effect. 

By transforming the root causes, they also automatically improve their overall health, their social life, their love and sex life, their professional success, their finances, and their relationships. Many of my former clients have even deepened their spiritual life. These are all very positive and extremely powerful ‘side effects’ you can’t get from a diet, a supplement or a gastric surgery.

So ask yourself, which side effects would you rather have? Illness, burn out, saggy skin, early death?

Or how about a nicely shaped slim body, great health and vitality, and massive improvements in every aspect of your life that may take a little bit longer?

It happens now and then that I meet a former participant on the street or on Facebook. Some of them I have on the phone now and then. And what I hear from them are statements like the following: “Since my parents have followed your workshop, you have often been a topic during our family meals, and what I have learned from you indirectly, I can now pass on to my family and they all have had great successes by following your advice.” That was a statement I recently heard from a young man whose parents attended a weekend workshop more than 30 years ago. He now has children of his own and passes on what his parents shared with him during their family meals to his wife and children. Get that, one couple invested in a weekend workshop with me and now three generations are using what they have learned and all are benefitting tremendously in every aspect of their lives, be it school, job, business, health, relationships, you name it.

That’s what I call great value.

A couple of years ago I met a former client of mine in a mall. She told me that she had lost me out of sight when I moved to another country and that she and her mother (both former workshop participants) have been looking for something similar than my workshops for years. They have attended many workshops since and even enrolled in a class to learn an alternative therapy method. But she told me that they were constantly disappointed because, “nothing came even close to your workshops…not even close,” she said.

Frankly, for many years I had no idea that people were feeling that way because I saw them once or twice and then never again. I had no idea that they never came back for the simple fact that they didn’t need my assistance anymore.

How can that be?

The short answer is: Because my methods are based on natural and universal laws which are true for everybody and everything. You can transfer my methods to any problem that might be ailing or bothering you, not just weight loss. And while transforming the causes of weight issues, at the same time you also transform the causes of other diseases and any kind of problems and issues.

These methods work because they are based on fundamental truths!

Another short answer is: we are talking about quality here. We have to begin to distinguish between quality and quantity or between quality and speed. Whatever you do on one level, automatically has a positive effect on all other levels as well. When you change your mindset, this has an effect on every other aspect of your life as well. The same is true for your emotional patterns, how you interact with people, and most of all, how you are treating yourself. 

Here is another feedback from one of my former clients. She said, “This was much more than a weight loss program…it was a school of life”. 

To sum it  up, we could say that these fat burning supplements might lead to fast weight loss. On the other hand, I have tried them without dieting, and they didn’t deliver on the promise. If they were really so great, then there was no diet needed, otherwise it’s rather the diet that leads to weight loss and not the supplement. And there is another aspect we have to take into consideration. We can never know how much these products help because of the placebo effect, what makes these supplements even more expensive. And if they work as promised, the benefit of losig weight fast is far smaller than all the negative side effects. 

You can take many detours on the way to your ideal weight…or you can take the straight way by showing a little bit of patience. The choice is yours. 

Happy slimming :-).

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Weight Loss Psychology – How To Deal With Emotional Eating

Emotional eating is an issue many overweight women are struggling with. The problem is that they don’t understand the real cause behind emotional eating and thus try to tame the beast with willpower.

This is a completely useless strategy because when you do that, you deal with two completely different levels of your being. Willpower comes from your mind (will) and the emotional eating – as the word implies – has to do with emotions. Emotions can’t be dealt successfully with willpower. And Dr. Carol Solomon, one of the weight loss experts I have interviewed – a specialist in emotional eating – explained why willpower is not a good strategy to overcome emotional eating.

Dr. Solomon, a psychologist, has struggled with the same 20 pounds over and over and over again. She said that she was definitely a compulsive eater and that she was really obsessed with food. It occupied a lot of time and space in her head and it just caused her a lot of angst, a state of mind she didn’t like at all. She kept going up and down in her dieting with a lot of yo-yoing, which caused her a lot of problems.

She said that although many overweight women may think, “Only 20 pounds…lucky her,” that to women it doesn’t really matter whether she is 20 pounds overweight or 50 pounds or 100 pounds. The vicious cycle aspect of feeling that you’re going round and round and round with the same issue over and over is always the same, and so are the struggles.

“That’s the frustrating part that it’s so discouraging for people and I think maybe people with more weight to lose feel even more discouraged. But to me it’s just frustrating, it’s discouraging and it’s demoralizing really,” Dr. Solomon said.

When I asked her what the reason for our obesity epidemic in the Western world might be despite of the fact that we have so much food to choose from, she said, “There is definitely something wrong in the system and there are a lot of factors that contribute to that. I think the whole world is feeling so much stress. People who work in corporate jobs are functioning with so much pressure and so much uncertainty. People are so overwhelmed with their lives; and overcommitted. There are so many demands and responsibilities and less support, and less social interaction; which is one of the keys to happiness. Stress is really equivalent to what smoking was in the 50’s. It’s killing us. One of our favorite responses is to overeat and I think that people just don’t make time for themselves and they just don’t pay attention. There is a lot of unconscious eating going on until something happens and then you say: Okay, I’ve got to do something about it.”

Stress is a huge factor regarding weight issues and a huge trigger. Stress leads to a variety of negative emotions which are mostly ‘undigested’, and we have to do something with them. So food is just a quick and easy answer and comes in handy, although it really creates more problems we can’t deal with.

When I asked her what she thinks about diets, Dr. Solomon answered, “Well, I think that we all know that diets don’t work, and that diets result in a net gain. I think there was a study once that showed that people on diets gain back a 107% of the weight that they lost. So, all the weight that they have lost plus 7%, and yet there is a $50 Billion diet industry out there. That’s a lot of money no matter what currency you are talking about. It just shows how desperate people feel to find an answer.”

“Diets create dependency on something that’s outside of you,” she continued. “Diet programs would have you believe that if you’d relax your guard, you’ll devour everything inside. So if you believe that, then it’s natural to start depriving yourself so that you won’t gain weight. So, it’s either one or the other all the time. You are either devouring or depriving; starving yourself or stuffing yourself.”

I have often discussed why diets are counter-productive from a physical standpoint. Now you also begin to understand why dieting for weight loss is even a bad idea psychologically. I think it’s really time to begin questioning the dieting approach for maintainable weight loss. 

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But what is the answer?

If you want to lose weight, you can do it simply by eating when you’re hungry and stopping when you’re satisfied.

Can it be that easy and simple?

“…that’s frightening to many people, because that means taking responsibility and trusting yourself. So a lot of people believe that they have to have this sort of outside structure, this sort of outside control of a diet but it never really works. To do something different; you are going against all the machinery of the culture especially that $50 billion diet industry.”

And, oh boy, can they fight hard to keep you struggling and silence those weight loss experts who dare to speak out the truth. I could literally fill volumes talking about that subject and what tricks they used to get me out of business and stop talking about the truth. They just don’t want to lose you as a returning customer.

To demonstrate what a dead-end road the dieting approach can be, Dr. Solomon explains:

“A lot of people like the idea of being told what to do when they are frustrated; initially; that’s part of the appeal of the diets. ‘I’m tired of thinking about food; I don’t want to spend one more minute thinking about it; Just tell me what to do and I’ll do it; Just give me a set of rules and I will follow them.’ The problem is that the rules are impossible to follow and then people blame themselves. It also brings up resistance in people. Weight loss issues in general they really bread resistance. There is something inside of us, we don’t like being told what to do, even by ourselves. We all have these little 5 year olds inside of ourselves saying, ‘I’m not going to do it! You can’t make me!’ Like a 5 year old, stomping her feet. So dieting really perpetuates that cycle of making rules and breaking them that leads into those bigger issues of craving nourishments and gratification but not really allowing yourself to have it. So we end up feeling deprived.”

By passing the responsibility over our weight and body on to a false diet ‘expert’, we not only become dependent, we also willing pass the power over ourselves and our lives to someone else. No wonder why millions of overweight women feel so powerless. This is a crazy downward spiral nobody can win.

We’re trying to control something, and yet we feel out of control. That keeps us feeling small and powerless and it’s a real downward spiral which gets worse and worse. Women often don’t see a way out of that situation and start feeling very stuck. It’s easy to get into that situation but hard to find a way out. You eat too much and then you feel like you should deprive yourself the next day. So you eat less because that’s what all the books and doctors are saying: ‘Eat less and exercise more.’ But they never tell you how to do that in a way so that you can really stick to it. The reason is that they are not knowledgeable about the emotional part of it, so they can’t tell you how to address these emotional issues.

At the beginning I said that you can’t deal well with emotions through willpower. Emotions are emotions and will is will. Both happen on a completely different level. And it’s the same with diet. You can’t deal with emotions by eating less. That is simply stupid. When it comes to emotional eating, the real issue is emotions. So you have to deal with those instead of oging on the next diet.

Stress causes emotion, tension, fatigue and a lot more…all reasons that are driving us to the refrigerator. A lot of times you don’t even realize what’s happening there and why you are looking for food.

Diets are so counter intuitive; when we really think about what diets are. We are so used to the dieting approach that we have totally un-learned how to listen to our body, to our common sense, to our own intuition. And that’s what surprises me so much, that we really have lost our common sense in all that. Dr. Solomon said that statistics say that we gain 107% after a diet and I think that everybody reading this would agree. Yet people do it again and again, they do something that doesn’t work that has a 107% to fail! That is simply insane.

So what choices do you have during the Holiday season to deal with food? Give in and eat as much as you can and then jump on the next diet in January? Or depriving yourself while everybody else on the table is enjoying the food?

There is a better way. Mindful eating.

Enjoy the food you eat. Eat a lot of salad first. Drink a glass of water before the meal (you already knew that one). Eat mindfully. Be grateful for the food and the company. You can eat everything on the table as long as you eat slowly and enjoy each and every bite. After such a meal you will feel happy instead of remorseful. 

We have to gain back the trust in ourselves, and this starts by taking responsibility over our own emotions. And it also starts by saying ‘Stop’ to the insanity and by beginning a normal, healthy lifestyle and reducing stress.

Some day in January I’m going to start with my SheSlimEasy Habit Transformation. Since I will only work with 20 participants, the group my fill fast. The last time I offered such a program, I was booked for 2 years in advance, and that within the first two weeks of January. So, if you feel that the SheSlimEasy method might be a good way for you as my subscriber can already register now and start with the program. I promise, it will not interfere with your Holiday feasts. I would like you to first go through my free webinar so that you understand what tis program includes and what you can expect. You can access the recording of the webinar here: https://cdm.weightlossexpertsrevealthetruth.com/webinar-truth-weightloss-registration.

Enjoy your Holidays….and happy slimming!

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