When you’re overweight, then your body needs healing in some form or another. Healing (weight loss) can and often has to happen on several levels in order to be effective.
One of the strongest healing powers is entirely free and you can get it anywhere and at any time…and it burns fat without exercise. All it takes is a decision of yours. I’m talking about humor.
Did you know…
…that laughter improves our sense of well-being?
…that it reduces tension, depression and anger?
…that it lowers the stress levels?
…that it reduces blood pressure?
…that it’s a great exercise for your heart?
…that it strengthens your immune system?
…and that it reduces pain?
Laughter is safer than any pharma pills and free of harmful side effects. Laughing is one of the easiest things you can do to promote healing and well-being. And well-being supports your weight loss process. It’s a known fact that patients who have a sense of humor and laugh often, tend to heal faster and better than those who don’t.
Dr. Frank Lipman said: “If health and wellness is your goal, skip irony, bypass sarcasm and make the conscious choice to add more joyous laughter into your day.” Isn’t it exactly irony and sarcasm overweight people are so good at? How about replacing this now with genuine humor?
He also shares 10 simple health-enhancing reasons to have a daily laugh:
Laughter helps boost your immune system by increasing T cell activity, those “killer cells” that help our bodies fight viruses and tumors.
Laughter helps lower blood pressure and cortisol levels, decreases pain and can also help stabilize blood sugar.
Laugher stimulates chemical changes in the brain that help buffer our bodies against the cumulative effects of stress.
Laughter burns a few extra calories: according to a recent university study, just 10 -15 minutes worth of chuckles throughout the day can burn up to 40 calories.
Laughter stimulates the release of endorphins, the mood-elevating brain chemicals behind the “runner’s high.”
Laughter helps reduce inflammation throughout the body – good news for your heart, brain and circulatory health.
Laughter “massages” internal organs – which is why it’s sometimes referred to as “internal jogging” – with effects similar to exercise.
Laughter provides a light workout for the heart, lungs, diaphragm and even the abdominal muscles.
Laughter releases tension in the muscles of the face, neck, shoulders and abdomen – all common areas where we tent to hold lots of tension
Laughter is physically and mentally therapeutic – an involuntary response that positively alters mood instantly – what could be better?
The thing is that your brain can never think two contradictory thoughts at the same time. It’s impossible for a negative thought to remain while you’re laughing. And in my last blog posts we talked about the effect negative thoughts have on our belief system and the effect our belief system has on our weight and health.
Laughing is contagious, irresistible and very attractive.
Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, keeps you ground and focused.
Can you laugh your pounds of? I think you can.
So my “prescription” for today is to add laughter and humor into your life. Take life less seriously. Find one humorous thing each day. “Lighten up”.
“The nicest thing about a laugh is that so much of you has a good time.” –Marsha Perlman
You can make it a habit to read in a joke book or watch a funny video every morning to make it a great start of the day.
A good way is to be more around happy people. Children are great to have a lot of fun with.
In one of my last blog posts I talked about the power your words have in your life and how you can use that power for your weight loss. Today I want to take it a step further.
You see, when thoughts and words are used often enough, they eventually become beliefs. And beliefs are something you naturally believe in, whether or not they are based on truth and facts. For you they seem to be true. The more you believe in them, the more you act accordingly. And the more you act as if they were true, the more you create a physical “reality” around your beliefs.
And with every action you take in that direction, and with every “proof” you get for your belief, it becomes stronger and more powerful. So you operate every day based on what you believe were facts. Beliefs can grow so strong that they can completely mentally cripple a person.
Limiting beliefs are sneaky things and they affect you on a deep subconscious level; they can definitely hold you back from achieving your desired weight loss goal.
Yet, they are still nothing else but beliefs that have nothing to do with facts.
These are the top 11 self-limiting beliefs among overweight women:
I have a strong bone structure.
I’m too old
I’m not smart enough
It’s all about the calories
It runs in my family – it’s the genes.
I’m afraid of trying and failing
You have to have money to lose weight
I’ve already tried everything
I don’t feel that I really deserve to be slim and beautiful
I don’t have the willpower
It just doesn’t work for me
Now does one or several of these self-limiting beliefs resonate with you? Does one of these beliefs resonate more strongly with you over the others?
At this point I encourage you to look behind that curtain and put those beliefs under scrutiny. Take a closer look and find out how some of the little beliefs you hardly paid any attention to may be wreaking havoc regarding your health and weight.
Now let’s take a closer look at these self-limiting beliefs:
Fact: having a strong bone structure does not include having excess fat. Bone is bone and fat is fat.
Fact: you may have to take some more aspects into consideration when you’re past menopause, but that doesn’t mean that your body is operating under different “laws”.
Fact: being successful in any field has nothing to do with your IQ. Fact is that very often the less intelligent people have the greater successes because they’re not stopped by the mental concepts intelligent people often have. Besides, there are several forms of intelligence that most can’t be measured through IQ tests.
Fact: there is ample scientific proof that weight gain and weight loss has nothing to do with calories. This is a myth that has been debunked a long time ago. So let’s not go that route anymore. The only calories you really have to worry about are those empty calories. It’s the quality food that matters, not the quantity.
Fact: there is also enough scientific proof that genes can be over-ruled and even changed. Did you ever see families with very skinny kids and very fat kids? Both have the same parents and the same genes, yet some are slim and some are not.
Fact: if you don’t try, you can’t succeed. The biggest failure is not to try and to maintain the current status quo. Fear of failing is a very disempowering life strategy. The best way to fail is not to try. With over 50 possible causes of weight gain you may have to try several strategies (not diets – no matter what diet you choose, they don’t work) until you will find the one that addresses your individual causes.
Fact: the best weight loss strategies are free. Eating healthy costs way less than unhealthy eating. And if you believe that weight loss programs have to be expensive, try my $49 30-Day Triple Power Weight Loss Program where you learn how to eliminate pretty much every stumbling block and bad habit that has been standing in your way. Of course, there are $390 programs out there, but they’re not a bit better than my $49 program. So money can’t really be an issue.
Fact: obviously you haven’t. Try my 30-Day Triple Power Weight Loss Program and then you can probably say that you have tried everything. And if that one doesn’t work for you, then you’re definitely doing something wrong….or you have a cause for weight gain that was not yet found. In that case please stay tuned. I’m regularly publishing content about new-found causes of weight issues.
Fact: you are a child of God, and as such you deserve only the best this universe has to offer. Unfortunately the feeling of not deserving to be slim and beautiful is a very common pattern among women. The original blueprint of your body is slim, healthy and beautiful. And whenever you choose to, you can go back and realize your personal original slim blueprint.
Fact: we humans are very powerful beings…each of us. Just because some people have tried to keep you small in the past because they are small, that doesn’t mean that you can’t become the powerful being you once were or you are meant to be. Maybe what you need more than willpower is just the right support system.
Fact: what used to work one or two decades ago regarding weight loss doesn’t work anymore. Dieting and exercising alone doesn’t work for 90% of overweight people…so you’re not the only one who is struggling with those tactics. Since causes are very individual, the belief that what you have tried didn’t work for you may be partly correct. But that doesn’t mean that there is no solution. The only thing this means is that you have not yet found the right solution for you. There are so many new weight loss strategies on the market that address the weight problem on a deeper level.
Whatever you change in your body – of course, it got to be the right things – can lead to fast weight loss. But these results seldom last.
But what brings the lasting results?
The best, fastest, easiest, and surest way to get the lasting weight loss results you desire is by eliminating the psychological, inner causes.
But where to begin?
How do you know what your individual psychological causes are?
I admit that’s the biggest part and that’s exactly the point why losing weight for good hasn’t been easy for you.
However, the good news is that most weight-struggling women have very similar inner causes. There is a common pattern. One of the very common ones is a hunger for life. This is very likely especially for those women a problem who are hungry a lot.
A hunger for life is very much an issue of many overweight people, especially women. Somehow they have fallen short on experiences in life they wish they could have made. The reason why this can be found more often in women than in men can be found in the fact that despite of the female emancipation for women the family comes first. They often have children, a husband, and a job what keeps them busy almost 24/7. There isn’t much time for self-growth and self-improvement.
If you belong to that group of women you may often feel kind of a hunger without knowing exactly what you’re hungry for or what you’re craving. And instead of feeding the hunger for life you may simply feed your stomach with more food than your stomach can digest.
I hear so often that life is about having fun. That’s not true. Nobody becomes happy simply by having fun all the time.
What life is about is learning and making lots of different experiences. And, yes, some experiences can be really fun, yet we shouldn’t do them for the sole purpose of having fun, but for the purpose of becoming richer in experiences. It’s not about having things. It’s about living life to the fullest with all its facets. It’s about living a balanced life.
If a hunger for life is one of the inner issues for you, something within you may resonate while you’re reading this…either in a positive or a negative way. If the reaction is rather negative, then you can be pretty sure that you’re suppressing your ‘hunger’. You ignore it…you don’t want to see and feed it. There must be a reason why you don’t allow yourself to be aware of your particular hunger for life. Maybe this was something that was ‘forbidden’ as a child, or maybe you’re so caught up in your daily chores that you think there was no time for you.
Whether your resonance is positive or negative, you can do something against and feed your hunger without overeating.
In a first step, ask yourself if there is anything in your life you wish you had done or experienced (i.e. going to college, sky diving, learning to dance, having a child (or more children), meeting with a particular person, to love more, etc.)? Is there something in life that you’re hungering for?
By the way, this isn’t about making a bucket list – it’s the opposite. It’s a list of things that make you feel more alive and more yourself. It’s a list of things that can satiate your hunger for life while you’re still young enough to enjoy it. This list is more about what you’re longing for emotionally or mentally.
Allow yourself to dream.
Allow yourself to be honest about your deepest desires.
Then you rate your dreams between one and ten, number one being least important and number ten being so important that you couldn’t forgive yourself if you didn’t at least try.
The next step is to search for a solution so that you can do the one thing on your list with the highest rate. If you can’t do it now, then plan it and also plan how you want to go about that goal. Visualize yourself having realized that goal and how you will feel that moment once you’ll have achieved or done that.
Feed your hunger for life now, and you will reduce your hunger for food.
There are a quickly growing number of weight-struggling women who realized that diets are not the solution for maintainable weight loss and who are now searching for healthy alternatives. This is quite a process and it’s a necessary first step to healthy and sustainable weight loss success.
The second step is very often not so easy yet even more critical for your slimming progress. That step is to completely turn away from the diet mentality.
The third step is developing a deep desire of slimming in a natural and healthy way.
So let’s assume that you have already gone through that process of fully understanding why diets are not the solution, of completely letting go of the diet mentality, and of developing a deep desire to find healthy alternatives.
If that is you, you are ready to learn healthy ways that really work long term.
So here are 15 healthy and very powerful alternatives to the dieting approach:
Regular cleansing & detoxification – One of the main reasons why your body is forced to create excess fat are toxins. As soon as you begin to cleanse your body strategically, your body can begin to reduce that excess fat. But please be aware that doing it once will not do the job. You have to cleanse one organ after the other in a strategic manner and repeat that cycle until your body has let go of the excess fat.
pH balancing – Just like the body needs to create fat in order to store toxins and other detrimental substances away from vital organs, it deals the same way with acid. An overweight body is always over-acidic. Regular and strategic alkalizing is therefore vitally important.
Juicing – This is a great method to alkalize your body. When you choose that step you have to make your own daily juices fresh, you need organic produce and 80% of the produce should be green-leavy vegetables. However, there are two rules regarding juicing for weight loss. Number 1: don’t use it exclusively, only in combination with other methods. Number 2: if you’re over 30 years old or want to lose more than 10 pounds, do not juice fast. Combine the juicing with healthy eating, drinking a lot of water, and doing some exercise.
Exercise – Exercise alone can let you go a long way, but not all the way down to your ideal weight. It not only burns fat and improves the metabolism, it also shapes the body, if you do it right. For weight loss you need both, aerobic exercise and muscle training.
Eliminate the psychological causes – With all the actions you take on the physical level you can lose a lot of weight, but if you want to keep it off, you also need to eliminate the inner causes.
Increase your water intake – Water is very important for your healthy weight loss. Your body needs water to get rid of waste, toxins, and acid. Plus another bonus of water is that it fills your stomach and you need less food. Very often, when we feel hungry we’re really just thirsty anyway.
Zero sugar – If you cook and bake yourself, then this is an easy one for you. Simply replace sugar with xylitol in the exact same amount and you can enjoy your home-made desserts free of remorse.
Eat gluten free – This one is harder for many women because gluten have become such a major part of our eating habits. For decades we have been told that we need a lot of carbohydrates to stay healthy. Now we know that this was false information. The mean thing is that our body has become so used to starchy carbohydrates that we often act like addicts when it comes to reducing or eliminating gluten. Yet for many of us gluten is a real culprit and eliminating gluten from your diet may be a necessity to lose your extra weight for good. If you want to be sure whether or not gluten is a problem for your body, you can get a blood test done.
Sleep improvement – One of the ‘musts’ for sustainable weight loss is the quality and the quantity of your sleep. In order to stay healthy and lose any excess fat you need seven to nine hours quality sleep per night.
Leading an overall healthy and well-balanced lifestyle – This should be a no-brainer. Instead of dieting it’s much more important to lead a healthy lifestyle in any regard. This includes healthy eating. When it comes to weight, balance is key.
Healthy eating – Instead of dieting learn to imply a healthy way of eating. This includes cooking from scratch (no or very little boxed, canned, bottled, pre-cooked, or packaged food). 70% of your meals should be row vegetables.
Change of focus and mindset – You know the adage that what you focus on you increase. It’s the same with your weight. When you focus on your extra weight, this is what you’ll get more of. Develop a positive mindset regarding food, your weight, and your body.
Visualization – This is a very powerful tool. Visualize yourself being slim, healthy , happy , and wearing the clothes you can once you’ll have reached your ideal weight.
Supplementation – If you have a full-time job and a very busy lifestyle you may want to add some meal-replacement supplements from time to time. But you should only replace one meal per day maximum. And, please keep in mind that once you’ll have lost your extra weight you would have to continue using the meal replacements in order to remain slim. Therefore I only recommend this step for the busiest women. Cooking from scratch doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to cook for hours. I’m a busy entrepreneur with 12 to 15 hour workdays. I cook all my meals from scratch and most of the time it doesn’t take me more than 15 minutes to cook a meal. Or if you have to eat out, you could eat a large plate with a mixed row-food salad. That doesn’t require more time than eating an unhealthy meal.
A combination of all of that – One tactic alone will hardly do a good long-term job. Therefore I recommend combining several of these steps and create your personal healthy weight loss strategy. Then follow through with that no matter what. Follow through with that strategy for at least a year.
And here is a very powerful bonus tip. Change your habits. It’s the habits that make you gain your old weight back. For lasting weight loss you will have to make some lasting changes in your habits. There is no way around.
According to a study at Stanford University only 5% of the people who buy into a concept (for instance about how to lose weight) are also able to implement it. The other 95% don’t succeed. Why? Because they don’t have the resources, they don’t know HOW, says the study.
The resources those 95% of the people would need are things like books, CD’s, videos, a course, a coach…in other words, shared wisdom. But they simply don’t have access to that kind of information. They may have the insight and the understanding, but they don’t get ahead because they lack the full understanding of the How.
Consequently they can’t achieve the success that could be theirs, their motivation suffers and they give up before they even really started.
You don’t belong to those 95% of ignorant people because you’re on my list. You have subscribed to what is hands down the most accomplished weight loss platform, whether you’re aware of it or not.
Now, having access to the right information is in my opinion only half the story. The other half is what you’re doing with that information. No matter how many emails I send, how many articles I publish, and how many free teleclasses I run, they don’t change a bit in your life, if you don’t put that information to work for yourself.
But let me first take a step back and talk about two forms of motivation.
One motivation is internal and the other form is external.
The Biggest Loser is a perfect example for external motivation. The coaches scream at people and make them feel bad in order to get them going. A friend of mine who is a physician specialized in weight-loss in the New York area told me that when the show is over even those who won – the Biggest Losers – consult him to find out how they can keep the weight off. Because as soon as the show is over and thus the external motivator is gone, they gain their lost weight back. This is why psychologists agree that external motivation is not ideal for long-term success.
The other form of motivation – internal motivation – comes from the individual within. It’s an inner urge to accomplish a particular goal. That form of motivation has by far the greatest chance to bring the individual lasting results because you’re not dependent on an outside source for motivation.
Now how you can use internal motivation for highest achievements?
Let me use a quote by Brian Tracy to answer that question:
“One of the marks of superior people is that they are action-oriented. One of the marks of average people is that they are talk-oriented.” — Brian Tracy
In other words, whether you’re superior or average is determined by the actions you take.
Actions bring results and results increase your motivation. This process is actually very simple and works always, at least if you’re taking the right action steps. By taking a series of actions you automatically create ongoing motivation. Again, it has to be the right kind of actions, of course.
Today I want to encourage you to listen to your heart and find a strong WHY, a strong reason why you want to lose weight. This is your internal motivator. It got to be something that really moves you deeply. Many people begin to cry once they find their real WHY for losing weight because it touches them so much. It’s always much more than just because they look nicer and feel better once they’ll be slim. The real WHY often goes along with their real life purpose and goes far beyond their own person.
Then find a strategy that matches the weight you want to lose. The more you want to lose, the more thorough and complex your weight loss strategy has to be. Write down everything that comes to your mind. Then find out if you can get that strategy all in one place or if you need several coaches and experts to achieve your desired goal. No one coach can do everything. Any body, mind and spirit approach is always the better choice because it addresses you as a whole being, not just your body. And that approach has the better chance to bring you the lasting results you want. So don’t be afraid of accepting help.
After you feel confident with your list of action steps you immediately take your first step. Make an appointment with yourself for the second step. Congratulate yourself for every action step you have taken. That way you grow your goal achievement “muscle”, by celebrating even small achievements; and that way you keep your motivation high.
“I don’t have time” is another lie we have come to believe is true. It’s not true and yet, how often do we all use it!? We have all been given 24 hours every day, 7 days a week, 365 days per year. And the greatest gift we were given when we came into this world is the FREEDOM to use these 24 hours as it pleases us. Well, this is not exactly true. Let me put it this way: we have been given the choice of how to make the best of our 24 hours a day. So it is not about time, but about our priorities and how we use our time. It is a CHOICE, not a fact.
Using this gift of time for making money is certainly not a wise choice. I know, we all need money and some of us work so hard and yet make hardly enough to make ends meet. But we cannot use this as an excuse for not making a better and wiser use of our gift of time. The situation we are in is a result of the choices we have made in life, whether or not we like the outcome.
I recently saw a cartoon, about a doctor asking his patient, “What fits your busy schedule better, exercising 1 hour a day or being dead 24 hours a day?” Ouch!
Using the excuse, “I don’t have time” to take care of our health is about the most stupid excuse we can ever make. If we do not take care of our health appropriately – and excess weight is a disease –, we automatically shorten the time we have on this planet – we shorten our life. Ask yourself how much time you could gain if you would stop watching TV for a while. Statistics tell us that an average adult watches television eight years of his or her entire life. Eight years! And I guess it even gets worse with social media. Just imagine what you could accomplish in eight years and how your body would look like if you just used a small part of it to take care of your health, to exercise and move your body.
“I can’t afford it”
Similar to “I don’t have time” or “I can’t,” this is another classic excuse. And still, this is widely BELIEVED by millions of people. I have no doubt that you could show me your bills, your paycheck, your cost of living, and your budget to prove the accuracy of this statement. I was living below the poverty line for years, so I know what it’s like to have more wishes than money.
The quote, “You can either make money or you can make excuses, but you can’t do both” is very much true. The one excludes the other. While some use the excuse “I can’t afford that,” others go out and make the money they want and need. There are always better paying jobs available – even in bad economic times. There are even jobs for chronically sick people who have to work from home. We are living in a Universe of abundance. It is not life that makes us poor, but our own belief system and our excuses.
How about this?
You can either lose weight or you can make excuses, but you can’t do both.
Please ask yourself the following question again:
“Can I afford NOT to take better care of my weight and health?” Let me repeat this:
I cannot answer this question for you. Only you can answer it for yourself.
Do you know how much time you have left? No one knows. And even if you have a lot of time left in this life (although when we come to the end of our lives we suddenly feel that it was never enough), is your current life so good that you would want to go on with it until the end?
Like time, money or the lack of it is not a fact but a matter of priorities. We all do have money, otherwise we would be dead by now. If we cannot earn it, we get it from the government or through some form of social assistance. The truth is that we are making choices every day for what we want to spend our money on. We have our priorities in life and according to these priorities we spend our money. For instance, if your TV broke down today, what would you do to buy a new one? How about your car? Isn’t it interesting that most people find a way to get a new car or a new TV set, but very few go that extra mile to invest in their health?
What would you say if I told you that I have proof that it is not the lack of money that is holding you back from reversing your weight? There is so much evidence of that truth that I do not even know where to begin.
Many, many experiences with people have proven to me over and over again that it is not about the money. And it is not about a lack of time either. 80% of the whole slimming process has to come from within anyway. And this does not cost a dime. How much cheaper than gratis can it get? Keep in mind, you obviously had enough time to become overweight. Reversing this weight won’t take up more time than becoming overweight.
When people ask me how long the weight loss process would take, I usually say that it might take between six months and two years, depending on the weight a person wants to lose. Sometimes it can be done faster, sometimes it takes longer. Sometimes a person can lose her weight within a very short time, but this can only happen when that person has done a lot of inner transformation in the past and is able to let go almost immediately. So, I am not saying that it cannot happen. As a matter of fact, it could happen even as quickly as within a few months. It happened to me. Experience shows that losing weight can take several months and up to a few years.
It depends on numerous factors, such as the ability to let go, the faith, the beliefs, the determination, how easily a person can spot inner blockages, insight into and understanding of their inner causes, etc. It depends on so many things that I have no control over. Only the client alone can determine how soon or fast this will happen. And this is something that cannot be done with the intellect. It must come from the heart. That’s why working with an experienced coach can drastically reduce the time it takes to achieve your final goal.
Now this answer of mine gives many of the weight loss clients another excuse: “It takes too long.” How long do you guess it took the weight to build up? Your excess weight did not appear within a month and it will not go away and stay off within a month.
And here is another provocative question. How long does it take to lose that weight by yo-yoing?
One step forward and two steps back – as this is the normal result of diets – does not get you anywhere but heavier. So you didn’t gain anything by going the fast route.
Just ask yourself this: “Where will I be and how will I feel in a year from now, in two years from now, in five year from now, if things will go on like this?”
Excess weight can only be reversed by you in cooperation with the body in order to make it last. And the reversing process takes time. So let me ask you again, “Where will you be and how will you feel in a year/two years/five years from now if you go on like this?” I can give you the answer: At the very same point where you are right now, if not worse, with a few more pounds accumulated. Face it.
But where will you be in a year from now if you stop the excuses right now, start the weight loss process today using a real weight loss strategy vs. a short-term diet? You certainly will not be at this point anymore, and you will definitely have learned a lot. If you do it right you most likely will have lost dozens and dozens of pounds by then, and enjoying a slimmer body and better health in general. The results will depend on how quickly you allow yourself to get to the core of the problem. If you do it right, most people will have achieved their final weight goal within one year and the very heavy ones within two years.
Just think back how fast the last 12 months went by and imagine where you could be today had you started 12 months earlier. This thought process will immediately get you on the right track and give you the motivation you need to start right away.
So do you think it would be worthwhile to undertake that journey? Would it be worth your while to take some time, to apply some of the things you learn through what I share in blog posts, teleclasses and workshops, to spend some money for your health, to do some exercising, etc.? And most of all, can you afford not to do it?
I wish you good luck on your way to a slimmer body and better health!
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