5 Reasons Why Businesswomen (should) Want To Be Slim

5 Reasons Why Businesswomen (should) Want To Be Slim

 

Are you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and trapped in a cycle of stress and excess weight? Do you find yourself nodding in agreement as you read this, knowing all too well the challenges faced by stressed, overweight businesswomen? If so, you’re not alone. In the fast-paced world of business, where success often comes at a price, many ambitious women find themselves grappling with the physical and emotional burdens of excess weight, be it consciously or subconsciously.

As a weight transformation coach who has worked with thousands of stressed businesswomen and businessmen, and as a weight transformation coach for overweight women, I know both worlds, and I have witnessed firsthand the hidden pain points women like you face. Behind the professional façade, there are struggles that often go unnoticed. Today, I want to shine a light on these challenges, to acknowledge them, and to offer a glimmer of hope for a brighter, healthier future. You must know that the world needs you…and the world needs you healthily and productive without exhausting you.

Here are some of the common pain points overweight businesswomen are facing:

The Endless Cycle of Stress: Stressed, overweight businesswomen often find themselves trapped in a relentless cycle of stress. The demanding nature of their careers, combined with juggling personal responsibilities, can leave them feeling mentally and physically drained. This chronic stress not only takes a toll on their overall well-being but also affects their relationship with food, leading to emotional eating and weight gain.

Strained Self-Image and Confidence: Carrying excess weight can significantly impact a woman’s self-image and confidence. The conflict between their professional identity and their physical appearance creates a constant internal struggle. They may doubt their abilities, fear judgment from colleagues and customers, and find it challenging to project confidence in their professional endeavors. This negative self-perception further perpetuates the cycle of stress and weight gain.

Limited Time and Energy for Self-Care: The demanding nature of their careers often leaves stressed, overweight businesswomen with little time and energy to prioritize their own well-being. Long work hours, tight deadlines, and hectic schedules make it challenging to engage in regular exercise, prepare nutritious meals, or practice self-care. This lack of time and self-neglect further contributes to weight gain and a decline in overall health.

Health Complications and Reduced Productivity: Carrying excess weight can have detrimental effects on one’s physical health. Overweight businesswomen may experience fatigue, low energy levels, and increased susceptibility to chronic conditions like heart disease, diabetes, and hypertension. These health challenges not only impact the personal well-being but can also hinder the professional productivity and success.

Emotional Impact and Mental Well-being: The emotional impact of being overweight as a businesswoman cannot be underestimated. The constant pressure to excel professionally, combined with the weight-related stigma and societal expectations, can lead to feelings of shame, low self-esteem, and even depression. This emotional burden further exacerbates the challenges faced by stressed, overweight businesswomen.

Can you relate?

If any of these pain points resonate with you, know that you are not alone. In the USA alone, 70% of women are overweight or even obese. So if you’re an American, being overweight may almost be “normal”, but unfortunely only on the outside.

Countless women in the business world share similar experiences, silently carrying the weight of their challenges. However, it’s crucial to remember that there is hope and a way forward.

It’s time to break free from the shackles of stress and excess weight. It’s time to prioritize your well-being and embark on a transformative journey that will empower you to thrive as a businesswoman. Like I said, you are important for the world. 

First let me share my personal story with you.

I used to be a successful body-mind-spirit weight transformation coach with over 10,000 former participants since 1984. Today, I want to share my story with you—a story of embarrassment, transformation, resilience, and the power of the human spirit. I believe that within my story, you’ll find hope, inspiration, and the realization that change is possible.Maybe you can even relate to my personal weight loss-weight gain story. By reading about my story, you will already learn about several root causes of weight gain. And you may also realize, that lasting weight loss has very little to do with diet, for many women even nothing at all.

As a child, I carried the weight of being overweight. At home, I was the scapegoat, and at school, I felt invisible. During phys ed classes, I was always the last one chosen for a team. These experiences left a lasting mark on my psyche, shaping my understanding of the world and myself for many years.

Then, at the age of 26, I sought the guidance of a therapist to navigate the challenges of a divorce. Little did I know that this journey would lead me to confront the traumas of my childhood—violence and abuse that had long been buried within me. As I worked through these deep-rooted wounds, something incredible happened: I started losing weight effortlessly.

Within just three months, I shed 52 pounds without dieting, exercising, or making any changes to my lifestyle. This unexpected transformation piqued my curiosity and ignited a passion within me. So I went on a journey of education, studying behavioral psychology and clinical hypnotherapy to understand the intricate connection between our minds and weight issues.

For over 14 years, I maintained my ideal weight while indulging in the foods I loved. Dieting or counting calories were just not part of my life anymore. During this time, I had the privilege of working with over 10,000 individuals through workshops and public events, helping them transform their lives and achieve remarkable results as well. This was the most fulfilling time of my entire life.

However, life took an unexpected turn. A back surgery prevented me from speaking on stage, and I was faced with a series of debilitating health conditions: chronic Lyme disease, fibromyalgia, and HPU, all of which alone contribute to weight gain because they have a negative impact on the mitochondria. Suddenly, I found myself walking in your shoes, grappling with my own weight struggles…AGAIN!

In the depths of my embarrassment, I retreated from working with clients, dedicating myself to uncovering the hidden reasons behind my inexplicable and explosive weight gain and finding solutions for me and for my clients. In this quest, I discovered 72 potential causes of weight issues in women so far—topics rarely or not discussed elsewhere. Then I worked through my method again, added more topics and improved it on several levels. 

One day my best friend said to me, “You have such an incredible talent, and I truly believe you’re the best coach I’ve ever encountered. It’s perplexing to see you not utilizing your abilities to assist others. What is holding you back? Why are you denying those who are desperately seeking what you have to offer the chance to benefit from your experience and expertise? It’s time to overcome any lingering embarrassment and embrace the opportunity to empower other women. Get over your ego!” This made me think. So I started coaching one person, then another and then another again.

Through these coaching sessions and witnessing the incredible transformations of others, I realized the true power of my methodology, because from year to year the results came faster. As women embarked on their own journeys of personal growth, they not only achieved weight loss but also experienced extraordinary shifts in every area of their lives. One small miracle after the other unfolded, leading to profound happiness, improved relationships, career advancements, finding the love of their life, and more.

Today, I’m writing this, extending my hand to you. If you believe that I can offer you guidance and transformation like no one else can (because I know both worlds), I invite you to take my hand. Together, we’ll get on a journey side by side, unlocking your weight loss process through habit transformation, mindset shifts, and addressing the root causes.

Now, let me be clear—I don’t promote diets or excessive exercise. My focus is on helping you lead a healthy lifestyle while changing habits and delving deep into the underlying causes that contribute to weight issues. This is where true, lasting change resides: in your subconscious.

Now, enough about me. It’s time to focus on you—your obstacles, your aspirations, your desires, and your journey towards a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life. Together, let’s uncover the incredible potential that lies within you and create a future that exceeds your wildest dreams.

To begin with, let’s talk about why you, as a businesswoman or a woman on stage (should) want to lose your extra weight asap. First we have to get down to brass-tacks. As a businesswoman you must face the utter truth and you can handle the truth, otherwise you would not be in business. Please understand that if you want to experience everything a healthy and slim body has to offer and how much it will change your business life, you first need to understand what root causes you need to uproot first.

Reason #1: Grappling with a conflict between your professional identity and your physical appearance.

As someone who has walked that path and triumphed, then stumbled and learned, I’m here to share what I’ve discovered.

The sad truth is that your extra weight carries more consequences than you might realize. As a businesswoman, your professional success often intertwines with your physical appearance. Excess weight can diminish your self-image, making you doubt your abilities and potential. It can diminish your confidence and hold you back from seizing opportunities. But you know what? It’s time to break free from these chains.

Imagine for a moment the impact of achieving your natural and maintainable weight loss. Picture yourself stepping into meetings with newfound confidence, owning the room with your presence and ideas. Shedding those extra pounds will not only transform your body but also reshape your self-image. Now, embrace the power within you that is already there to redefine your identity as a strong, successful businesswoman, regardless of your current weight. 

When you commit to a natural and maintainable weight loss approach vs. a diet or another quick fix method, your energy levels soar. You can say goodbye to fatigue and sluggishness. You experience more mental clarity and focus that will allow you to tackle even complex challenges head-on, making decisions with precision and efficiency. The reason is because you’re changing things on a much deeper level what has broader consequences on your overall well-being.

And it doesn’t stop there. Your transformation will also radiate throughout your professional life. As you shed the excess weight, you’ll notice your movements becoming more agile and your physical presence more commanding. People will take notice, responding to your newfound confidence and credibility. Your professional opportunities will expand, as others recognize your determination and discipline.

Reason #2: the impact your excess weight has on your physical health

Now let’s talk about a topic that is often talked about but often gets overlooked by the individuals themselves: the impact your excess weight has on your physical health. We humans tend to believe that we can treat our bodies in any way we want without having to face any consequences. Many of us even treat their cars better than their own bodies. It just doesn’t occur to them that their weight could lead to severe health challenges. I am where you are, and I want to share the sad reality, the facts, and the solutions to help you reclaim your health and wellbeing. Believe me when I say that you don’t want to be in my shoes. Don’t allow things to get that far, if you can prevent it. And if you are there, act soon. 

It’s no secret that your extra weight takes a toll on your body, and the consequences are real…and as an intelligent woman you know that. Excess pounds can lead to fatigue, reduced stamina, and a lack of energy to fuel your busy days and a long list of other health issues. But it doesn’t stop there. Being overweight increases your risk of chronic conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, and joint problems, which is my problem, and I can tell you, it’s darn painful. Your health is your wealth, and it’s time to address it head-on.

Unfortunately, that’s still not all. Let’s be real and not forget the monetary costs excess weight and poor health can have. Doctor’s visits, medical bills, and prescription medications can drain your resources and limit your financial freedom. I often hear from overweight women that the costs of their excess weight exceed $10,000 per year. Imagine redirecting those hard-earned dollars towards investing in your business, your dreams, and a future filled with health and vitality. How much could that change your life?

Now, on the other side, let’s explore the impact your natural and maintainable weight loss can have on your health and wellbeing. Imagine waking up every morning with a renewed sense of vitality, ready to conquer the day. As you shed those extra pounds, your energy levels soar, fatigue becomes a distant memory, and your overall well-being improves.

Your body is a temple…literally. It’s the place from where you can act as a successful business woman, therefore it’s your most important success tool. And when you treat it with respect, it rewards you in many ways. A natural and maintainable weight loss journey strengthens your immune system, reduces the risk of chronic diseases, and enhances your overall quality of life. It’s not just about looking great on the outside; it’s about feeling amazing from the inside out. True weight loss is about transforming everything that has contributed to your current weight…LITERALLY everything. Sustainable weight loss involves changing not only your body but also your mind and spirit, and most of all, your subconscious.

Now, let’s talk about the impact your transformed health can have on your business success. When you prioritize your well-being, you become an unstoppable force. Your increased energy levels and mental clarity empower you to tackle challenges with focus and resilience. You’ll find yourself making better decisions, leading your team with confidence, and achieving remarkable results. As you know, success leaves clues. Achieving such a difficult and complex goal like losing weight leaves a strong “message” in your subconscious mind, and henceforward you will walk differently, you will stand taller, and you will talk with more self-confidence. You have given your subconscious mind a new self-image which will radiate through every fiber of your being. You may not realize the difference, but others do.

During my 14 years of being slim, I became a different person. Previously, I was very shy to a point where I could not talk to strangers and even very seldom to people I knew. I could never have imagined that one day I would confidently stand on stage in front of hundreds of people and speak to them about healthy weight loss and transformation of crisis. Suddenly, doors opened that I didn’t even know existed. Everyone wanted to be my friend (remember Angela as a child?), men pursued me, and I received flowers, poems, and songs dedicated to me. The media wanted to work with me, organizations wanted to work with me, fortune 500 companies wanted to work with me. The best part was that I could work from home, be there for my child most of the time, and still have a significant income and a successful coaching business. I led a completely different life from before – a happy, interesting, and fulfilling life that I absolutely loved. And I had no idea how, where, and when my life shifted in such a big way. It just did. 

Now, to be totally upfront, you may have such experiences simply by following a diet, if you have no psychological issues at all. But as we all have our wounds, only by transforming drama, trauma and your inner psychology and mindset will experience this kind of transformation. While those who lose weight through a diet are cranky all the time because they’re chronically starved, you will experience how not only your outer weight is falling off of you but also your inner burdens.

Reason #3: Our customers’ (or bosses) subconscious minds

Now, let’s talk about a topic that affects us deeply, (whether we realize or not) especially as businesswomen: how others perceive us when we carry excess weight. We tend to underestimate the impact it can have on our reputation and business success. So, let’s address it head-on. As business women we have to be totally clear about what’s going on in our customers’ subconscious mind when they interact with us. I think that as a businesswomen we must face the truth. 

It’s disheartening to know that many slim individuals hold negative perceptions about those who are overweight. Words like ‘stupid,’ ‘undisciplined,’ ‘smelly’, and ‘lazy’ are thrown around, contributing to unfair judgments and biases (most of the time behind our back). But we must remember that these beliefs stem from ignorance, stereotypes, and societal pressures. Recently I was in a store on Sunday morning and wanted to buy some French croissants because I had a long work day ahead of me and I knew that my next meal would be eight hours later. So I needed something that could get me through the entire day, but the basket was empty. So I grabbed a banana, already knowing that this would not get me through to 3pm. So I asked the sales woman if she had some new croissants in the oven. With a glance at me, she said, “No, that banana is better for you anyway.”

It’s important to recognize that these negative perceptions don’t define who we are. Besides, we just have to get away from the misconception that all overweight people are chronic and undisciplined over-eaters. For most of us, the root causes are somewhere else. Besides, your worth as a businesswoman extends far beyond your physical appearance. Your skills, talents, and determination can and will speak louder than any preconceived notions, once you have gotten over your own perceptions. The more self-confident you feel in your body, the less others will see it as a problem when working with you. It’s time to rewrite your story and let your accomplishments shine. Besides, you don’t want to lose your extra weight for others, but for YOURSELF and for the sake of your health only.

Now, let’s explore the impact your natural and maintainable weight loss can have on your reputation and business success. Shedding those extra pounds is not just about conforming to societal standards; it’s about reclaiming your confidence and proving to yourself and others that you CAN help your clients achieve what they want.

Here are just a few perceptions, people have about ex overweight people who have lost weight.

  1. Many people perceive weight loss as an admirable accomplishment. They appreciate the effort, discipline, and dedication it takes to achieve weight loss goals and view it as a positive change for overall health and well-being.
  2. Weight loss is often associated with improved physical health. People view women who have successfully slimmed as individuals who have taken proactive steps to enhance their overall health and well-being. This perception is often accompanied by positive regard and support.
  3. Weight loss can lead to increased self-confidence for individuals who have achieved their desired results. Others may perceive women who have slimmed down as more self-assured and empowered, which can positively influence how they are perceived in various social settings.
  4. People have more respect for others who have achieved a big personal goal. They become kind of magnetic to others. People have more respect for those who have accomplished significant personal goals, finding them inspiring and admirable. The want what you have. 

When you embark on a journey towards a healthier you, you demonstrate resilience, discipline, and self-care (even though with my method you don’t need a lot of discipline and no willpower). You demonstrate that you CAN achieve goals for you as well as for your clients or bosses. People will notice your commitment and dedication, and they’ll be drawn to your renewed sense of confidence. Your reputation will soar as you become an inspiration to others, showing them what’s possible.

Maybe by now you’re getting a sense of how your current weight might even be a blessing in disguise.

I’ve walked in your shoes, and I understand the struggles and challenges you face. For me, my weight gain was really a blessing in disguise because, as a result I found 72 possible causes of weight gain and developed an even better program. And as you will find out shortly, it may also be a blessing for you as well. Because since I have walked that path, you don’t have to.

Reason #4: self-limiting beliefs

Now, let’s have an honest conversation about self-limiting beliefs and their impact on your business success. Self-limiting beliefs are so common among overweight women. I’ve been where you are, and I can also tell you with my utmost confidence that it’s time to break free and unlock your true potential.

Now, when you carry extra weight, it’s easy to internalize self-limiting beliefs. By going from diet to diet and losing and gaining and losing and gaining, you may have lost faith in yourself, thinking that your inability to succeed with diets is a reflection of your worth. You may believe that it’s your fault and your lack of discipline. These beliefs can and actually do damage your inner psychology, robbing you of your self-image and even impact your business success, and even worse, rob you of your joy of living. So let me tell you, it’s not you—it’s the diets. They do a tremendous damage to a person’s health, psychology, mindset, and subconscious. 

Now, let’s explore how losing weight the right way, in a sustainable and healthy manner, can transform your inner psychology and consequently, your business success. When you go on a journey towards a sustainable weight loss, you rediscover your power and resilience. You realize that it’s not about quick fixes or crash diets; it’s about transforming you psychology, your story, your subconscious mind, and the root causes. Of course it’s also about leading a healthy lifestyle, about nourishing your body, mind, and soul. Yet it’s mostly about transforming the root causes.

As you shed the pounds the right way, you’ll witness a profound shift in your self-image, self-worth, and self-confidence. You’ll start to see yourself as the capable and deserving businesswoman that you truly are. Your self-confidence and self-worth must come from within, where they already are, maybe still hidden, but they are there. These newfound beliefs will shape your decisions, your actions, and ultimately, your success.

When you embrace your true potential and radiate self-confidence, others will take notice. Your clients, colleagues, and partners will be drawn to your magnetic presence and charisma, recognizing your expertise and leadership. Your business will flourish as you attract new opportunities and build stronger connections.

Like you, I’ve walked the path of self-limiting beliefs, and I’ve learned the truth about weight issues that’s often hidden from us. It’s so hard to feel great and powerful about yourself when you see your wobbly flab in the mirror. But it’s an important part of the process and your self-growth! Your weight is literally forcing you to get out of the status quo and begin to take care of your health. It’s a wake-up call.

Reason #5: the impact of embarrassment

Now let’s have a candid conversation about the impact of embarrassment on your business success. I’ve been in your shoes for many years, lost all the excess weight and have been in the shoes of a happy and successful business woman for 14 years. Then I gained a lot of weight again through a combination of three chronic diseases. And now I’m walking in your shoes again, so I really understand the pain and desperation it can cause. So, tell me about embarrassment. But, it’s time to break free from this cycle and embrace a journey of transformation in order to gain back the feeling of empowerment.

Being an overweight or obese businesswoman, high executive, or public figure, can be incredibly embarrassing. Deep down, you know how you want to look and feel. You may have tried to accept your weight, but that nagging voice inside tells you that you could look and feel better. This internal struggle can leave you feeling like a loser, especially when diets and other attempts have failed to bring lasting results. It’s a game you can never win. There is only one way of ending the embarrassment. To take the bull at its horns, take responsibility for the current status quo and start making changes from the inside out. Get down to the brass-tacks with your root causes.  

So, let’s explore how losing weight the right way can help you shed the cloak of embarrassment and unlock a deep sense of pride and self-love. When you embark on a journey of transformation that addresses the root causes of weight gain, something incredible happens. Your body starts to respond, and you feel a growing sense of love and respect for yourself.

As you begin to make progress on your weight loss journey, something amazing occurs within you. You start to feel proud of the choices you’re making and the changes you’re experiencing. It feels like that weight is falling off of you effortlessly. This newfound sense of pride and self-love spills over into all aspects of your life, including your business.

When you feel proud and confident in your own skin, it impacts how others perceive you. Your clients, colleagues, and partners will be inspired by your transformation, and they’ll recognize your strength and determination. This shift in perception can lead to new opportunities, increased credibility, and ultimately, greater business success.

As a formerly slim weight loss coach with such an excess weight now, I can truly and honestly say that I’ve walked the path of embarrassment. However, in my work with clients I’ve learned that real, lasting weight loss comes from addressing the root causes, and that gives me hope as well, hope that one day I will find a physician who has an answer for my diseases. Deep within I know that there is such a doctor somewhere and that I’ll find him or her, and it is my hope that you feel the same way about yourself. So it’s time to let go of the shame and embrace a future where you and I feel proud and confident, regardless of our current weight. The trick is to feel confident about our body before we lose weight. Together, we’ll uncover the root causes and transform them, transform your relationship with your body, and set new causes for even greater success in your business.

It’s time to break free from the chains of embarrassment and step into a life filled with pride and success. It’s time to embrace the love and respect your body deserves, while achieving extraordinary business success.

As one of my former clients recently said, “Now I finally have the life I always wanted!” She lost 48 pounds within three months as a side effect (no diet, no exercise), gained a lot more energy, restored healthy sleeping habits, alleviated pain, developed a deeper relationship with her daughter, found the love of her life at the age of 55, and transitioned from being unemployed and searching for an underpaid job to being self-employed, earning double the income she would have made in a job. Throughout these three months of one-on-one coaching, we exclusively focused on transforming her inner psychology rather than addressing any symptoms. Her weight was never on our radar. 

If that’s the kind of transformation you would like to have as well, then you have come to the right place. What you need to understand is that there is an 80% chance that it was your psychology which led to your current weight. So if you want to lose it, you first have to change your psychology and you will not have to bother about the weight itself any longer.

Please ask yourself honestly: Do I really want just the next diet or do I want it all? If your answer is, “I want the health and life I have always dreamed of”, then you are  ready to take the next step towards your transformation. I’m here to guide you on your weight loss journey. It begins with the first step.

When you are ready to find out what your next step could be and shed those extra pounds for good without dieting, I invite you to a FREE one-on-one Weight Transformation Coaching Call  where you will walk away with a personalized weight loss strategy. To qualify, please fill out the following 2-minute questionnaire: 

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Happy slimming 🙂 

Unlocking Success: How Body-Mind-Spirit Weight Loss Empowers Businesswomen

In the fast-paced world of business, where demands are endless and responsibilities are overwhelming, the journey to success often comes at a price, and for women, that price is often even higher. For many busy, and stressed businesswomen, that price is their health and well-being, often even the harmony in their families, and eventually also weight gain. As the demands of work mount, health tends to become a lower priority, leading to weight gain and a range of associated health, mindset and psychological issues. However, the power of weight loss extends far beyond the numbers on a scale. Here I’m not talking about weight loss through diets which are known to be very unhealthy. I’m talking about the only sensible way of losing weight: the body-mind-spirit approach. That approach comes with an endless list of positive side effects. 

After I lost 24 kilograms, my life changed almost overnight. It was like I had been reborn into a new and better life. Those who know my story may recall that I was invisible until then. I had no friends, no lasting relationships – I had just gone through a divorce, and I didn’t really have a life. The only precious part of my life was my 2-year-old daughter.

After shedding the weight, I encountered people who supported me in building my coaching and speaking business, which turned out to be one of my greatest successes. Suddenly, everyone wanted to be my friend, and my apartment was regularly filled with people who wanted to be around me. Men pursued me (although I was still me), sent me flowers, and even wrote poems and songs dedicated to me. Frankly, I had no idea how to deal with such sudden attention, and it felt like there was something wrong. But there was nothing wrong, and it only got better.

After posting just three tiny $10 ads in a free newspaper, my coaching business exploded through word-of-mouth ‘advertising’ and referrals. I never aspired to appear in the media (remember, I was extremely shy), but suddenly, I found myself in the spotlight. One media channel after another contacted me, asking for radio interviews or to write about my work. Some magazines even organized regular weekend workshops for their readers with me. Things were literally overwhelming, and I felt like a bystander, wondering what was happening. It wasn’t a dream; it was my dream life.

How could that happen? The answer is simple. I didn’t lose weight through a diet. I shed the weight by letting go of the burdens of my childhood, filled with violence and abuse. By transforming those situations, I found my freedom, and the shadows fell away from me. This transformation didn’t just change my outer appearance (like diets do), but also my energy, vibes, and charisma. I became a happy person people liked to be around.

This is precisely what can happen when you lose weight through a body-mind-spirit approach that addresses the root causes. No diet or exercise program can achieve that for you, but the transformation of the things that don’t go well in your life can!

In this article, I want to delve into how shedding excess weight with a body-mind-spirit approach can profoundly enhance your self-confidence, self-worth, inner psychology, mindset, and ultimately fuel more business success. It’s unbelievable what women can accomplish with such a holistic method, and the results my customer experience never fail to surprise and excite me. 

A Holistic Transformation: Beyond the Physical

Losing weight isn’t just about fitting into a smaller dress size. It’s a holistic transformation that touches and impacts every facet of a person’s life, especially for women in the business world. As the body becomes leaner, self-confidence receives a boost. Shedding excess weight leads to improved body image and enhanced self-esteem, both of which are crucial for presenting yourself confidently in the corporate arena. As the effects of negative experiences are falling off of you, you literally become a better version of yourself…a freer version of yourself. And as this happens, your inner light can shine through you. 

The Confidence Ripple Effect

Imagine walking into a boardroom with a naturally renewed confidence, knowing that you look and feel your best and that your strength comes from within. This boost in self-assuredness has a ripple effect that extends beyond your appearances. It’s called charisma (show me one diet that increases your charisma!). With such newfound confidence, businesswomen are more likely to take risks, voice their opinions, and negotiate deals with confidence and authority. A confident individual radiates credibility, making it easier to win the trust of clients, partners, and colleagues.

Empowering the Inner Mindset

This is the most important part of a sound body-mind-spirit approach and another one, no diet can do for you. Weight loss isn’t just a physical achievement; it’s a testament to the power of your mind and the person you are within. The discipline, determination, and resilience required for weight loss mirror the qualities needed for business success. As businesswomen overcome their weight struggles, their mindset transforms and vice versa. They realize that they can conquer challenges rather through transforming negative experiences and situations rather than through persistence and strategic thinking. The changes are real, genuine and authentic. When it comes to a body-mind-spirit approach, you need much less willpower and discipline than with a diet. You literally transform your body and life from within, all starting with a shift of your mindset and by freeing you from negative experiences in the past.

A Paradigm Shift in Self-Worth

Weight loss often triggers a profound shift in how you perceive your self-worth. Businesswomen who embark on a body-mind-spirit weight loss journey gain a deeper understanding of their own potential because they begin to realize what a tremendous and unlimited potential really lays within them. As long as the shadows of your past are still there, your true You is always hidden behind kind of a fog. Now you break free from the shackles of self-doubt that might have held you back in the past, what is so typical for us women, even successful women. This shift in self-worth fuels a stronger belief in your abilities, setting the stage for unprecedented achievements in your career.

Enhanced Productivity and Focus

Weight loss isn’t just about shedding physical weight; it’s about releasing mental and psychological burdens as well. As you shed pounds, you experience increased energy levels and heightened mental clarity because you’re getting free from all that past garbage that has held you back for years or even decades. This surge in vitality translates to your improved productivity and focus at work. You are better equipped to tackle challenges head-on, make strategic decisions, and lead your teams with vigor.

Elevating Business Success

The benefits of body-mind-spirit weight loss extend to business outcomes in more ways than one. Alas, most women are not aware of that tremendous benefit of this holistic weight loss approach, otherwise every businesswoman would be on that path. A healthier body means fewer sick days and increased resilience against stress, allowing you to stay at the top of your game consistently. Additionally, the habits cultivated during your body-mind-spirit weight loss journey spill over into every aspect of your life, including your professional life. The process works from within to without. 

Unleashing Leadership Potential

Whether you are aware of or not, body-mind-spirit weight loss ignites leadership potential in profound ways. As you witness your ability to transform your body and mind, you realize your power to influence others in a more authentic and congruent way as well. This transformational journey enables you to empathize with colleagues facing challenges, making you a more relatable and effective leader. 

A Wellness-Centric Work Culture

When you, as a businesswoman, prioritize your health and well-being, you inadvertently contribute to fostering a wellness-centric work culture in your family and company. People always like to model those they admire. Your transformation will not go unnoticed. Simply by achieving such a ‘difficult’ goal (only ‘difficult’ if approached incorrectly, yet still perceived as ‘difficult’ in the minds of others), you become a role model for your peers and your family. People will notice the changes you’re making, how you’re giving higher priority to your health, and upon witnessing the results, they may start to shift their own perspectives. This shift in culture enhances camaraderie, boosts morale, and overall workplace satisfaction, resulting in increased collaboration and productivity. For instance, some of the company leaders in Europe whom I’ve coached have incorporated regular, methodical relaxation into their business culture for all staff, resulting in fewer sick days and heightened productivity, focus, and concentration during work hours.

A Confident Future: Embrace the Transformation

In the realm of business, every tool that enhances self-confidence, self-worth, mindset, and inner psychology is invaluable. Body-mind spirit weight loss isn’t just a physical endeavor; it’s a profound transformation on all levels that amplifies these attributes, which can lead to monumental changes in both your personal and professional life. The journey to a healthier body equips you with the skills, beliefs, and mindset necessary to thrive in your career even more. Thus, when done correctly, the physical weight loss becomes a nice side-effect. 

Now, let’s look at the science of body-mind-spirit weight loss success.

The Science of Body-Mind-Spirit Weight Loss Success

Behind the scenes, there’s a scientific explanation for how body-mind-spirit weight loss transforms mindset and self-worth.

“Body-mind-spirit weight loss” refers to a holistic approach to weight loss that takes into account not only the physical aspect but also the emotional, mental, psychological and even spiritual dimensions of a person. This approach recognizes that weight struggles are often influenced by factors beyond just diet and exercise, including emotions, mindset, and even deeper aspects of one’s being, and most importantly, the uprooting of possible root causes.

The scientific explanation for how this holistic approach can transform mindset and self-worth is rooted in several psychological and physiological mechanisms:

Neuroplasticity: The brain’s ability to rewire itself in response to new experiences and thoughts is known as neuroplasticity. When you engage in a holistic weight loss process that involves not just changing eating habits but also working on their thoughts, beliefs, and emotional patterns, they are essentially rewiring your neural pathways. This can lead to a more positive mindset, increased self-worth, and a stronger sense of control over your behaviors.

Emotional Regulation: Emotional eating and weight struggles are often intertwined. By addressing emotional patterns through techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, emotional awareness, and transformation of the root causes you can develop healthier coping mechanisms for stress and emotions. This can lead to a reduction in impulsive eating and a more balanced emotional state, contributing to improved self-worth.

Self-Compassion: Holistic weight loss practices often emphasize self-compassion and self-care. Research has shown that self-compassion is linked to improved mental well-being and a more positive self-image. When you learn to treat yourself with kindness and understanding, you are more likely to develop a healthier self-esteem and a positive mindset.

Hormonal Balance: Stress and negative emotions can lead to hormonal imbalances that affect appetite and metabolism and eventually lead to stubborn weight issues. Techniques such as relaxation exercises and meditation can help regulate stress hormones like cortisol. This, in turn, can lead to better appetite control and weight management, positively influencing your weight management.

Mind-Body Connection: Scientific studies have demonstrated the intricate connection between the mind and the body. Positive psychological states have been linked to improved immune function, reduced inflammation, and better cardiovascular health. As you work on your mindset and self-worth, these physical improvements can contribute to an overall sense of well-being and confidence. Nothing happens on one level without influencing all the other levels. We are whole beings. 

The brain releases dopamine, the “feel-good” neurotransmitter, in response to positive changes. When you witness your body’s transforming, you experience a surge of dopamine, reinforcing the connection between effort and reward. This neurological mechanism ingrains the belief that you can achieve anything you set your mind to, in both weight loss and business endeavors.

In summary, the scientific explanation for how body-mind-spirit weight loss transforms mindset and self-worth lies in the intricate interplay between the brain, emotions, hormones, and the body’s physiological responses. By addressing these aspects in a holistic manner, you can create positive feedback loops that lead to improved self-perception, increased confidence, and a more empowered mindset. This, in turn, can have a profound impact on your overall well-being and success in various aspects of life, including your business endeavors.

Conclusion

One of the remarkable outcomes of body-mind-spirit weight loss for busy businesswomen is the profound boost in self-confidence. Imagine striding into a boardroom, shoulders back, head held high, and a renewed sense of self-assuredness. As the numbers on the scale decrease, the burdens of self-doubt and insecurity dissipate as well. This transformation isn’t just about fitting into smaller sizes; it’s about owning your presence and showcasing an unshakable belief in yourself.

Businesswomen who get on the journey of body-mind-spirit weight loss find that their entire posture changes. The physical weight they shed is mirrored in the metaphorical weight they release from their minds. With each milestone achieved, a sense of accomplishment takes root, allowing you to exude confidence in every step. This newfound confidence isn’t solely based on appearances—it’s also a manifestation of the resilience, discipline, and determination required to achieve such a goal.

Walking taller is more than just a physical adjustment; it’s a manifestation of inner strength. As the journey progresses, you experience a shift in how you perceive yourself. The once-perceived limitations are shattered, replaced by the realization that you possess the power to overcome challenges and achieve your goals. This internal transformation reflects in your gait, your gestures, and the way you command space in a natural way. No longer is it your physical weight which commands space but your vibes. Walking taller becomes symbolic of embracing your worth and embracing the spotlight, both of which are integral to navigating the complex landscape of the business world.

Confidence is magnetic—it draws people in and commands attention. As you shed the layers of self-doubt, you radiate an aura of success that’s hard to ignore. This newfound self-assuredness isn’t just visible in your physical appearance; it permeates your interactions, presentations, and negotiations. A confident individual is better poised to seize opportunities, make bold decisions, and lead with natural authority. This transformative shift doesn’t just empower you—it captivates and influences everyone you interact with, including your children. Thus, you give them an important lesson for life, one which will transform their lives to the better as well. 

The time has come to put your health first. Join me in embracing the journey to improved self-confidence and business success. Take that first step toward transformation and witness the ripple effects it creates in every aspect of your life. Remember, the empowerment you seek is within your grasp. It all starts with a decision—to prioritize your health, seize your potential, and pave the way for a healthier, better, easier and more fulfilled future.

When you’re prepared to take the next step and learn more about the SheSlimForever weight loss approach and schedule a FREE one-on-one Weight Transformation Strategy coaching call with me, kindly complete the brief two-minute questionnaire to determine your eligibility for my complimentary coaching.

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What overweight women believe to need for their weight loss success

There is often a significant disparity between what overweight women desire for weight loss and what they truly need. People often struggle to identify their true needs in solving a problem, primarily because it falls outside their area of expertise. Their wants often align with the outdated belief of eating less and exercising more. However, what they genuinely need to achieve long-lasting weight loss is often something entirely different. What women truly require is a transformation of the old paradigm.

Now, let’s explore three lists that outline what overweight women typically desire when it comes to their weight loss journey.

Things overweight women believe to need which are inherently wrong

“I need to learn how to count calories to make better food choices.”

While counting calories can be a useful tool for some individuals in certain situations, it is not the most effective or sustainable approach for long-term weight management. First of all, it’s a flawed system which has nothing to do with what’s going on in human bodies. The calorie myth has long been debunked, yet it stubbornly remains in people’s heads. Secondly, the quality of food: is much more important than the quantity. Counting calories alone does not take into account the nutritional value and quality of the food you consume. Not all calories are created equal, and focusing solely on calorie counting can lead to neglecting essential nutrients your body needs for overall health. A balanced and nutritious diet, consisting of whole, unprocessed foods, is essential for sustainable weight loss and optimal well-being. And here we are talking about a healthy lifestyle and not about a weight loss diet. 

It’s not the calorie counting you need to learn but to find out WHY you eat too much. What is behind the eating. Once you have that figured out and transformed, eating too much will no longer be an issue. 

“I need a structured meal plan to help me make healthier choices.”

Although this statement is not entirely wrong, it is based on food, seeing food as the sole root cause of weight problems. This is something your intellect tells you that you need, but  for most people it’s  nonsense. 90 percent of weight loss coaches give you this kind of advice because this is what they understand or believe to know about weight issues, but they’re completely oblivious about the real causes of weight gain. The choices you make regarding food are just symptoms of a deeper rooted problem. While there is nothing wrong about making healthy choices, the root problem is why you’re not making healthier choices and not your meal plan per se. Once you have uprooted the underlying causes, making a healthy meal plan will be the most natural thing to you. In other words, you have to tackle the problem from the other side, not at the food plan. 

“I need guidance on portion control.”

The same is true here. Unless your eating habits are completely out of control – and even then – what you need more than control is finding and eliminating the root cause. If you feel that your portions are out of control, then this is a sign of a deeper problem, a psychological problem, maybe even a health problem. 

“I need a workout routine that fits into my busy schedule.”

This statement is also based on the false and outdated paradigm of eating less and exercise more. On top of that the problem is seen in the person’s busy schedule, and that is a false mindset of setting the life priorities wrong. If you add such a tactic into your weight loss strategy, you’re going to fail with it because it’s not based on the truth and on your needs. It’s something which has to get squeezed in, and thus you will never have fun with your exercise/workout routine. Of course there is nothing wrong about working out, and it should always be part of a healthy lifestyle. But if your schedule is so busy that you can’t fit a minimum of exercise into it, then you have a priority problem, not a time problem. 

“I need practical tips for eating healthy while traveling for business.”

If you feel that you need practical tips for eating healthily while traveling for business, then you’re on a fad diet and not on a healthy, sustainable weight loss strategy . Here too, if you need tips for eating healthy…regardless where in the world you are…then the problem is not the eating but what’s behind your eating habits. Maybe you are not aware of what’s healthy and what not. You’re focusing on outside solutions instead of what your body really needs. Again, you have to tackle the problem from the other side, at the root cause or simply learn to listen to your body’s needs. When traveling, ask your body what it needs. It may be something very different from what it needs at home. Meat, fish, salads and vegetables are always available in every country of the world. If you stick to those, you can’t do much wrong. 

“I need guidance on how to read food labels and make informed choices.”

Well, if you have a lot of time and understanding food labels is your passion, that’s certainly an interesting hobby. But if you only need guidance with that for the purpose of weight loss, if you have lost contact with your body and your common sense, then the problem is not the food labels. The real problem then is that you’re eating the wrong foods in the first place. The simplest guidance I can give you is, stay away from any foods which HAVE labels. You may live under the false assumption that you don’t have time to cook from scratch and hence you need pre-cooked food. And, don’t get me wrong, I can fully appreciate that you feel that way because of your demanding schedule. Here too, the problem lays deeper. First of all, it has something to do with your life priorities, you’re not prioritizing your health. Secondly, it says a lot about what you believe to deserve (labeled foods are no better than any dog or cat food). Thirdly, by eating foods with a label , of which we know that they contain toxins, does notsave you time but takes precious time away from your life…you win nothing. therefore, may I suggest to make your health a priority and see where you can free up some time? Maybe you could stop counting calories what is very time consuming. Cooking from scratch does not necessarily mean that you need a lot of time. You can make a healthy meal in as little as five to ten minutes. 

“I need strategies to navigate social events and parties without derailing my progress.”

If you have a healthy, sensible weight loss strategy and a good relationship with your body, you don’t have to care about food during social events or while travelling. You can only spoil the weight loss process when you’re on a restrictive  fad diet, which as we know, lead to yo-yoing . I have clients who lost weight during Thanksgiving week while eating everything they had on the table  (including pies) and enjoyed the time with their loved ones. It all begins with your mindset and your inner paradigm .THAT’S where the change has to begin and not with your diet . Once you have accomplished that, neither social events nor travelling will ever be a problem for you anymore. Eating has always to be a natural process because your life depends on it. As soon as something so simple like eating becomes complicated, there is something wrong about your approach. 

“I need to address my lack of knowledge about nutrition and healthy eating.”

Again, this implies that food is the enemy. It’s not. It’s a false paradigm. It’s the reason why you eat what you eat and why you overeat which is the problem, not the food itself. It’s your inner world that leads to weight gain, not your food. Overweight people naturally tend to give food way too much power over their body and weight, while the real master over our health and body is within us. 

“I need practical tips for meal prepping and planning ahead.”

If you are so used to feed on prepared meals – which is, by the way, one of the root causes for being overweight – then you may never have learned how to cook a healthy meal. In that case I highly recommend to take a few cooking classes and find joy in the cooking process. It’s such a great feeling to take care of your body by cooking a delicious meal. It instantly increases your feeling of self-worth. For example, how about a cooking class for mediterranean cooking, Italian cooking, French cooking, Chinese cooking, etc. These are all healthy ways of eating. Just add a lot of fresh produce. 

“I need to find ways to incorporate movement and exercise during my busy work hours.”

Statements like that make me really sad . They reflect lives which are based on wrong priority setting. It’s all about outer circumstances. People who feel that way have completely lost touch to their inner self and to what’s really important to them. They’re running amok on a job just for the money while often only small shifts would give them a better income with much less stress and more free time for their health and families . Yet, this is exactly how we are being manipulated to live our lives. This is a form of brainwashing us into leading an unhealthy lifestyle where we have to earn more in order to consume more, what consequently makes us sick what then forces us to buy more drugs to stretch our lifetime. That’s not a quality life, it’s a rut. If you WANT to exercise but can’t fit it into your schedule, the problem is not the schedule but your life priorities. Just ask yourself, if your doctor would tell you that you have a terminal disease and that you will die within the next 12 months if you don’t change your lifestyle immediately, would you then find time for a daily walk, for example? 

“I need resources on creating a healthy and supportive environment at home and at work.”

This too is a matter of  setting healthy life priorities. Yes, a healthy and supportive environment at home and at work are crucial for your health. If one of your highest priorities is health for you and your loved ones, then you’d do everything in your power to create a healthy and supportive environment, be it at home and at work. Only you can tell what a “healthy” environment means for you. Besides, you have to feel comfy and at home. Nobody is holding you back except of yourself. If you feel that way, you’re living in kind of a prison of an old paradigm which has led you to create the environment you currently have. Then it’s your paradigm which is holding you back, not the environment. The real resources are not somewhere out there, out of your control . They are inside of yourself. 

“I need resources on how to handle food-related triggers and temptations at work.”

Everything else I have said in this chapter is also true for this paradigm. It just doesn’t work that way. You don’t need resources but a deeper understanding of what’s going on within you. What you need is transformation of some emotional response patterns you have at work. You see, I understand that you have been told that you need something to handle food-related triggers. You did not wake up one morning and said to yourself, “Goshk, I need to find something that helps me handle food-related triggers.” This is an information which comes from some false weight loss coaches who do not understand that habit transformation is an inside job and not based on some “resources”. Therefore, I can’t blame you for feeling that way. 

“I need help in breaking the cycle of emotional eating and finding healthier coping mechanisms.”

Although I agree that you need help in breaking that cycle (nobody can do that by herself because we can’t see our inner patterns), it’s not so much about “coping mechanisms”. This too is one of these false weight loss tips 90% of weight loss coaches would give you, simply because they don’t understand the truth about emotions and emotional eating. It’s not about “coping” but about taking responsibility and shifting your emotions instead of applying a coping mechanism. If you know how, you can instantly shift any emotions within seconds. 

“I need guidance on managing my time effectively to prioritize my health goals.”

It’s one of the biggest illusions mankind has that we could “manage” time. Time is nothing real  although it often feels that way. The planet earth is probably the only place in the entire universe where something like “time” exists. The prioritizing part is correct, though. It’s all about setting or changing life priorities, which have nothing to do with time. This topic is too complex to talk about in a short paragraph. That’s something I’m going to work on intensively with a small group of people very soon. Once you understand the real issue, your will never have a stress or time problem ever again. 

“I can’t control my eating habits anymore. The only thing that can help me lose weight is a gastric bypass.” 

These beliefs stem from a flawed comprehension of genuine weight loss success and the necessary steps involved. They are rooted in an outdated, erroneous paradigm that misguides women in their weight loss efforts. As long as you adhere to this misleading paradigm, achieving lasting fat loss will remain elusive. In such cases, a significant mindset shift becomes imparative. If your situation has gone so far astray that you feel you need a gastric surgery, then I highly recommend to join me in my free webinar  Sustainable Weight Loss For Women Through Habit Transformation. This will give you a good idea of what really works regarding eating and other fattening habits. Try that first before getting yourself ‘under the knife’.  And, speaking of gastric surgeries, they never solve the real, underlying root cause, which is the reason why surgeons are so perplexed when they’re patients gain the lost weight back after 10 years. Before you make such a decison, please check with me what healthier possibilities you have to  lose weight for good instead of doing something so threatful with questionable results. 

Things overweight women believe to need that are partly correct:

“I need to find healthy alternatives to my favorite comfort foods.”

Healthy food is good, but a healthy lifestyle does not necessarily mean that you have to be without your favorite foods all the time. And it neither means that comfort can only come from foods, healthy or not. In my courses I teach women what they can do to lose weight even while occasionally eating some comfort foods . If you forbid yourself all the foods you like, your diet is not going to work and it will not be sustainable because you will regularly fall back into your old habits. Why not start with a sustainable method right from the beginning? 

“I need strategies to overcome my cravings for sugary and processed foods.”

I highly recommend to leave out sugary and processed foods as much as possible because with them, losing weight is close to impossible.  I know it sounds conflicting what I have just said before. But both is true. You can eat comfort foods without or little sugar. And it’s not only the sugar alone. The worst thing is the toxins in those foods. However, what you call “overcoming your cravings” will not work either. You’ll have to tackle the problem on a deeper level. You see, there are about a dozen reasons why we crave things. It can be a physical problem (i.e. parasites) or a psychological issue. So before you work on your cravings, it would be helpful to find out what the real cause is. Once you have that, it’s easy to overcome such cravings. Nevertheless, it still does not mean that you can’t enjoy desserts. There is a number of natural sweeteners (not the artificial kinds) you can consume without any restrictions. 

“I need assistance in setting realistic and achievable weight loss goals.”

I agree that most overweight women have extremely unrealistic weight loss goals, and we all need assistance from time to time. It’s a wise thing to reach out for help. The biggest reason for such unrealistic goals is being mislead by unrealistic testimonials from people who went through a crash diet. Real, lasting weight loss never goes linear, and since we never know what else is going on in our body and subconscious, it’s impossible to say how quickly you can lose weight with any given method. The results are very individual . Therefore, realistic goals should not include a time frame within which you want to achieve a certain weight. Besides, it puts pressure on you, and that’s something which is not helpful for a successful weight loss process either. The body does what it can without the time frame it needs to burn that extra fat, and each body is unique. And, once the pressure is gone and the real root causes detected and transformed, the weight loss process can really be fast, like in my case (52 pounds in three months without dieting and exercising). 

“I need strategies to overcome my late-night snacking habits.”

Although late-night snacking is not optimal, I disagree that you need a strategy. What you need is a paradigm shift, a new mindset regarding healthy eating habits. Then the question is, why do you eat late at night? Are you hungry? Are you stressed? Didn’t you eat enough during the day? Are you bored? Are you tired? Are you thirsty? Do you need a 10-minute hug? What you can do is replacing the old unwanted habit with a new one which is more appealing to you. Eating before going to bed is not the only way to calm down. 

“I need to learn how to listen to my body’s hunger and fullness cues.”

Yes, this is basically true, but it sounds like this requires a lot of discipline and strength (“I need,” “I must….”). Actually, it’s rather the other way around. It requires stillness and letting go. And there is something else that is required to master this: a very good relationship with your body, which has been buillt over years so that your body knows that it can fully trust you. That trust got lost through countless diets and other fad methods. The goal is to learn once again to cooperate with your body, and that takes time. So, it’s not really ‘learning’ what you need but trusting the wisdom of your body and start communicating with it.

“I need help managing my time better to prioritize healthy habits.”

Prioritizing healthy habits? Yes, absolutely! Managing your time better? No, that’s the wrong approach (see chapter 1). It’s the other way around. You first prioritize your health, and then you make time by eliminating less important things (i.e. watching TV, constantly checking your messages, chatting, etc.). 

“I need to find ways to incorporate physical activity into my workday.”

This too sounds like a stretch, something that is difficult . The reason why you find this to be difficult can be found – again – in your life priorities. Once you change those, finding time and ways to do what’s healthy for you will not be an issue anymore. Besides, most people who say something like that, use time as an excuse. Therefore you want to tackle the problem from the other side. Make your health and physical activity (= longevity) a higher priority. 

“I need guidance on creating a balanced and nutritious grocery shopping list.”

Nutritious food, yes. Guidance?  I believe that you know better than anybody else what’s healthy for your body. Please keep in mind that what is healthy for one person is toxic for another person. What you really need is listening to your body’s needs  and learning to trust your body. If you do that, you will find a healthy balance after a while. What I would recommend to get guidance on, though, is on working on your relationship with your body . That doesn’t come natural to most of us. For far too long we have been trained to ignore our body. It takes a while to restore a healthy relationship with our body. Once that works again, your grocery shopping will become a pleasure. In my SheSlimEasy program we continuously work on that over the course of 12 weeks. 

“I need strategies to manage my cravings for sugary drinks and beverages.”

Cravings for sugary drinks often come from a parasite overgrowth because parasites feed on sugar and carbohydrates. In that case it’s the parasite which wants the sugar, not your body. By going on a sugar detox you can usually get a handle on your sugar cravings. If that’s not the issue, you want to get a coach or counsellor who is familiar with the correlation between emotion and sugar. Therefore, it’s not really a strategy you need to manage your cravings but and understanding what causes them. That then will become an integrated part of your overall personalized weight loss strategy. In a little bit more than a week from now I’m going to launch a new program of which this is part of. So, if this is an important topic for you, keep your eyes open.  

“I need to prioritize my health and well-being as a fundamental aspect of my success.”

Absolutely. Go for it. You’re spot on. Your health simply must have a very high priority otherwise you’ll find yourself spending a lot of time and money to fix an ever increasing number of health issues. 

“I need strategies to overcome emotional eating triggers during high-stress periods.”

What you really need is learning how to respond to stress differently. Then emotional eating will no longer be an issue. In other words, take care of stress, and you don’t have to take care of your emotional eating. If this is a serious concern of yours, let me know so that I can get you on the early bird list of a program for stress relief which I’m going to launch in about a month. 

“I need help in creating a realistic exercise plan that doesn’t feel overwhelming.”

A good, realistic exercise plan should never feel overwhelming. You can start very small and increase over time. My clients often start with a daily walk of about 5 to 10 minutes and increase the time with 5-minute increments from week to week. Depending on your current weight you don’t want to start heavily anyway. Please never, ever go the path of The Biggest Loser. That’s simply dangerous. 

“I need support in dealing with body image comparisons and unrealistic societal standards.”

Yes, you’re right. That shows a childhood issue which needs to be transformed. This, again is something you can’t just attack directly by saying, “I’m not going to compare myself with other women.”  There is a hidden root cause why you’re doing that, and that’s an issue many, many women have. These are behaviors going as far back as 2,000 years and can’t be changed by the snip of a finger. 

While these beliefs contain elements of truth by addressing the fundamental issue at hand, they remain grounded in an outdated paradigm and a limited comprehension of the genuine root causes. Many of the statements merely touch on the surface-level symptoms rather than delving into the underlying, substantive problem.

Please listen closely to these statements. They all say, “I need, I need, I need.” That shows that most people are searching for outside solutions instead of looking for ways of transforming their inside issues. Your questions determine the answers you get. If you’re asking the wrong questions, you will keep getting the wrong answers. 

Things overweight women believe to need which are absolutely correct:

“I need support and accountability to stay motivated on my weight loss journey.”

“I need help managing my stress and emotional eating triggers.”

“I need to learn how to prioritize self-care and make time for myself.”

“I need to address the underlying emotional issues that contribute to my weight gain.”

“I need a positive and supportive community to share my challenges and successes.” This is on the way. So keep your eyes open. 

“I need to establish a consistent exercise routine that I enjoy.”

“I need to find healthy ways to cope with work-related stress.”

“I need help overcoming my fear of judgment at the gym or fitness classes.”

“I need to break the cycle of yo-yo dieting and find a sustainable approach.”

“I need to improve my self-confidence and body image.”

“I need to learn how to listen to my body’s hunger and fullness cues.”

“I need to develop a positive relationship with exercise and view it as enjoyable.”

“I need to address my lack of motivation and find ways to stay inspired.”

“I need to learn how to overcome my negative self-talk and practice self-compassion.”

“I need resources on stress management techniques and relaxation exercises.” This will be the topic of my new program called SheSlimStressFree, which will be launched next month. 

“I need to find healthier alternatives to cope with work-related pressures.”

“I need strategies to stay motivated when I hit a weight loss plateau.”

“I need to address my emotional attachment to food and find healthier coping mechanisms.”

“I need support in dealing with unsupportive or negative influences in my life.”

“I need resources on building a positive body image and cultivating self-acceptance.”

“I need to improve my sleep habits and address any sleep-related issues.”

“I need help overcoming my emotional attachment to food as a source of comfort.”

“I need to address any underlying medical conditions that may be contributing to my weight gain.”

“I need support in finding the right balance between work and personal life for self-care.”

“I need to develop a positive mindset and believe in my ability to make lasting changes.”

“I need to find ways to stay motivated and committed to my weight loss goals long-term.”

“I need support in managing my emotional well-being and finding healthier outlets.”

“I need resources on understanding the importance of hydration and staying adequately hydrated.”

“I need strategies to overcome the ‘all-or-nothing’ mindset and embrace progress over perfection.”

“I need guidance on building healthy habits that can be sustained for the long term.”

“I need resources on stress reduction techniques that don’t involve food.”

“I need strategies to overcome the guilt and shame associated with my weight.”

“I need to learn how to navigate and overcome setbacks without giving up.”

“I need guidance on finding a healthy work-life balance that prioritizes self-care.”

“I need support in addressing any underlying emotional issues that contribute to my weight struggles.”

“I need to address my mindset around food and shift towards a more positive relationship.”

“I need strategies to combat fatigue and low energy levels throughout the day.”

“I need resources on understanding the importance of self-compassion in my weight loss journey.”

“I need support in building a strong support network that understands my challenges.”

“I need strategies to overcome negative body image thoughts and build self-confidence.”

“I need resources on understanding the impact of sleep deprivation on weight and overall health.”

“I need guidance on navigating social pressure and comments related to my weight loss journey.”

“I need strategies to maintain a positive mindset during plateaus or slower weight loss periods.”

“I need to address any underlying issues with self-worth that contribute to my weight struggles.”

Indeed, when grappling with excess weight, it becomes crucial to seek support for these various issues. The underlying root causes are complex, making it challenging to identify them independently. I’m a behavioral therapist and even I can’t do it all by myself. Even if you manage to uncover them, transforming them permanently requires professional assistance. This transformation is vital for achieving sustainable weight loss. Alas, there are only very few people on the planet who understand what transformation really is. We are not talking about going through a 10-year psychotherapy or psychoanalysis. We are talking about a few weeks or months the most for the transformation of the root causes. 

If any of the above statements resonate with you or reflect your thoughts and beliefs, then you are on the right path and you have come to the right place. This signifies that your chances of achieving long-term weight loss success are significantly higher compared to the majority of individuals still searching for the perfect diet or quick-fix solution.

The problem lies within your psyche, not in external circumstances. Consequently, the solution also lies within yourself, and that is the only place where the problem can be effectively resolved in a sustainable manner. Thank goodness, I have to add. Because that way you can tackle them much quicker and faster. Would they be tooted in some external circumstances, they would be almost impossible to overcome. We can easily and quite fast change ourselves, but we can never change others and seldom circumstances which involve other people. And if we can, it can easily last years to change outer circumstances.

Congratulations on reaching this point! You have arrived at the right destination. I firmly believe that, together we can accomplish your goals. Please review the information below to learn how I can assist you. Let me know in the comments which topics are most pertinent to you, so I can guide you in the right direction.

For these topics you will find answers in my work and programs:

  1. Stress Management
  2. Emotional Eating
  3. Setting healthy life priorities
  4. Finding and transforming the underlying root causes of weight issues
  5. Finding a positive, supportive community of like-minded women you can share your challenges and successes with
  6. Find out which exercise routine you can enjoy and is best for you – the answer is within
  7. Learn to deal with any kind of stress on several levels
  8. Gain self-confidence and stop judging your body – instead of fearing what others could think about your body, use your energy to apply a sensible, healthy weight loss strategy through which you can transform your fears of being insignificant or not as good as others – feel confidently anywhere, be it at the beach or at the gym
  9. Break the cycle of yo-yo dieting and apply a sustainable approach. You can find that here.
  10. Improve your self-confidence and body image.
  11. Learn how to listen to your body’s hunger and fullness cues.
  12. Develop a positive relationship with exercise and feel how enjoyable it really is.
  13. Find ways to stay motivated and inspired through your entire weight loss process.
  14. Learn how to overcome negative self-talk and practice self-compassion.
  15. Learn easy and simple stress management techniques and relaxation exercises.
  16. Apply healthier alternatives to cope with work-related pressures.
  17. Develop a simple strategy to stay motivated when you hit a weight loss plateau.
  18. Address and transform your emotional attachment to food.
  19. Get support in dealing with unsupportive or negative influences in your life. Detoxifying your life from toxic people is crucial for your lasting weight loss success.
  20. Build a positive body image and cultivate self-acceptance.
  21. Improve your sleep habits and eliminate sleep-related issues.
  22. Overcome your emotional attachment to food as a source of comfort and find comfort within yourself.
  23. Address any underlying medical conditions that may be contributing to my weight gain and find the right help.
  24. Get support in finding the right balance between work and personal life for self-care.
  25. Learn how to develop a positive mindset and believe in your ability to make lasting changes.
  26. Find ways to stay motivated and committed to your weight loss goals throughout the entire process.
  27. Get support in managing your emotional well-being.
  28. Learn to understand the importance of hydration and staying adequately hydrated for your business success.
  29. Learn strategies to overcome the ‘all-or-nothing’ mindset and embrace progress over perfection.
  30. Get guidance on building healthy habits that can be sustained for the long term.”
  31. Learn the most effective stress reduction techniques that don’t involve food.
  32. Learn strategies to overcome the guilt and shame associated with your weight.
  33. Learn how to navigate and overcome setbacks without giving up.
  34. Get guidance on finding a healthy work-life balance that prioritizes self-care.
  35. Get support in addressing any underlying emotional issues that contribute to your weight struggles.
  36. Learn how to shift your mindset around food and shift towards a more positive relationship.
  37. Learn strategies to combat fatigue and low energy levels throughout the day.
  38. Get support in understanding the importance of self-compassion in your weight loss journey.”
  39. Here you can find a strong support network that understands your challenges and which can give you the support you need.
  40. Learn strategies to overcome negative body image thoughts and build self-confidence.
  41. Understand the impact of sleep deprivation on weight and overall health and learn how to develop healthy sleeping habits.
  42. Get guidance on navigating social pressure and comments related to your weight loss journey. One tip I can give you here. My clients never talk about their weight loss goal outside of our support group.
  43. Learn strategies to maintain a positive mindset during plateaus or slower weight loss periods.
  44. Learn to find and address any underlying issues with self-worth that contribute to your weight struggles and how to transform them.

We will achieve that and much more by applying my SheSlimForever system and the 4 Pillar System to maintainable weight loss for women.

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7 Weeks to Healthy Drinking Habits for Maintainable Weight Loss

Doctors will tell you that eight glasses of liquidity per day is enough…any liquidity. I disagree. While eight glasses are far too little, many women have a problem drinking even that much water every day. Many clients tell me that they have a problem swallowing the water.

The main reason is because your body is not used to drink plain water. It may take several weeks to get used to drinking water at all and then to get used to drinking up to three liters per day. That’s the amount a slim person needs. Now if you’re overweight, you will even need more than that. But let’s start with three liters per day.

Now why am I saying that it has to be water. In fact, I will even as far as telling you that everything else you drink during the day will not count towards the three liters.

There is something very important to understand about drinking. Water is an information carrier, and your body distinguishes between water and liquid “food”. Anything added to the water is considered to being “food” and not used for cleansing purposes. But the body desperately needs the water for cleansing. Ask yourself, would you ever use coffee, tea, juice, soda pop or a smoothie to clean your house? Rather not. In order to carry out the toxins and acids, your body needs clean water without any additions.

Now to the problem to swallow water (what many people have who are not used to drinking plain water). First of all, you and your bladder will get used to after a while. Start small and add one glass per day every week. One way of making it easier to drink water is to find out what temperature works best for you. My body, for example prefers the water to be almost hot, others want it warm, and still others need it ice-cold. To begin with, drink it at the temperature that works best for you.

Generally speaking, to enhance the metabolism, hot water is best. But don’t heat it in the microwave oven, otherwise you will start another negative and fat-creating chain reaction. Boil the water in a water heater and add as much hot water to the cold water as you can tolerate.

How to Know If You’re Dehydrated

Unfortunately, most people live in a chronic state of dehydration.  This leads to massive health issues. The problem is that most people don’t even recognize the sensation of thirst anymore. When your mouth is feeling dry, you’re already heavily dehydrated.

Other symptoms are dry lips and eyes. If you don’t deal with dehydration ASAP, heavier symptoms will be chronic fatigue, irritability, brain fog, constipation, and rapid pulse.

Why water for better weight loss?

  • You have more energy and being active is easier.
  • Your body can better detoxify what leads to faster weight loss.
  • Your body can better release acid what leads to faster weight loss.
  • Your liver needs the water to better burn fat.
  • Water increases calorie burning.
  • Most people can’t distinguish between hunger and thirst and eat when they’re thirsty what leads to more food intakes than they really need. Thus drinking more water leads to weight loss.
  • It may suppress your appetite.
  • Water boosts your metabolism.
  • Drinking more water make exercise easier and more efficient.
  • Most drinks contain calories. Drinking water could help reduce your overall liquid calorie intake.
  • Water transports nutrients in our bloodstream and aids in digestion. Thus you get less hungry.
  • Water improves the lubrication of your joints.

Additional benefits:

  • You’ll save a lot of money
  • Your over-all health improves.
  • Water may improve motivation and reduce stress
  • Drinking enough water reduces brain fog and increases focus and concentration.
  • Water keeps your skin bright
  • Water regulates blood pressure
  • Water is vital for the function of nearly all of the body’s systems. 

What kind of water should you drink?

The best water would be clean spring water, but many people don’t have access to spring water.

The second best is tap water. If you don’t have good tap water, invest in a good water filter.

I don’t recommend drinking bottled water. But sometimes you just don’t have a choice. In that situation I recommend changing the water brand often and don’t drink any mineral water with carbonic acid.

If you want to speed up your detoxification, you can drink a glass of distilled water per day.

How much water do you need?

Slim people need 3 liters of water per day. Overweight people need 4 to 5 liters of water per day, depending on their weight. You can check the color of your urine. If your kidneys are healthy, your urine will be dark and smelly when you don’t drink enough water. Light yellow is ideal.

The National Academy of Medicine (NAM) in the United States recommends women to drink 2.700ml per day and men to drink 3.700ml per day.

How can you track your water intake? It helps me to keep track on the amount of water by filling four 1-liter glass bottles in the morning. By dinner they have to be empty.

Why salt?

80% of the planet consists of salt water. Likewise our body is made of 80% of salt water. Most of all, you need the salt for the electrolytes. 

Forget about any additives. The only thing your body absolutely needs is a few grains of  salt in every second or third glass of water, but only enough for the water to taste soft and not salty. But please, don’t use any salt. Organic sea salt, Himalayan salt, or organic stone salt is best.

Reasons why you need salt with your water:

  • Because of the electrolytes
  • Because our body consists to 80% of water
  • Our blood is “salt water” as well
  • Your body can better bring the water to every part and transport all the toxins and acid away from your soft tissue
  • It makes the water feel soft and thus it’s easier to drink

How to change your drinking habits step by step

  • Week 1: Replace all other drinks by water – use the same cup or bottle you usually use for your coffee, tea, pop, juice, etc.
  • Week 2: drink a glass of hot water right after getting up in the morning before breakfast
  • Week 3: drink a second glass of water right after the first one in the morning and add a few grains of Himalayan salt, organic sea salt, or organic stone salt
  • Week 4: whatever else you drink, take an additional 2 glasses of water before lunch (500ml)
  • Week 5: whatever else you drink, take an additional 2 glasses of water before dinner (500ml)
  • Week 6: drink an additional 500ml of water between breakfast and lunch
  • Week 7: drink an additional 500ml of water between lunch and dinner

Further tips:

  • Make it a habit to finish a glass of water all at once. Don’t put the glass out of your hands until it’s empty.
  • Fill three to four 1-liter bottles in the morning and make it a habit to drink throughout the day so that all four bottles will be drunk before dinner. Start slowly and increase your daily water intake every week or two. Your body first needs to learn to deal with more water.
  • Stop drinking water three hours before going to bed.

At the beginning you will have to go to the toilet more often. That’s normal. After a few months your body begins to deal with the increased amount of water differently and increase the volume of the bladder. So be prepared that you will need to visit the toilet more often at the beginning. That’s the price you have to pay for faster weight loss and improved overall health.

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What else can you do?

Habits are among the biggest stumbling blocks regarding weight loss and make it close to impossible to move beyond a certain weight. Habits constantly sabotage even your strongest weight loss goals. They can completely bypass your mind and your willpower and make you act without you even being aware of.

Habits can’t be overcome with discipline and willpower. There is no discipline strong enough to over-rule habits.

Habits can’t be eliminated. They’re burned into our brains. For these reasons, habits seem to be very hard to overcome because most people try to overrule them with willpower and discipline. That will never work.

Habits can only be transformed.

Learn how to transform all fattening habits and you’ll start losing weight seemingly automatically. By the way, there are eight groups of habits which contribute to weight gain and the inability to lose it.

Changing your fattening habits will not only make it much easier for you to lose weight, it will also automatically help you improve any other health issues you may have.

 If you want to learn more about improving your drinking habits and other slimming habits, check out my free webinar about Habit Transformation. During this 90-minute webinar you will learn the eight groups of habits that contribute to weight gain and how to transform poor habits vs. trying to fight them with willpower and discipline, among many other important things.

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Happy slimming!

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How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions The Right Way

How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions The Right Way

We are still in the first half of the month of January, and I have already seen so much crap so-called “experts” and coaches recommend to their readers regarding achieving their New Year’s resolutions that I have to say, “Enough is enough! Stop wasting my time.”

These days every wimp and every henpecked jerk can raise their voice and utter their BS on the internet (none of their friends ever wanted to hear) and have their 2 minutes of fame.

No wonder you are confused. No wonder you don’t have the endurance to move past January. No wonder you can’t achieve your resolutions.

The stupidest recommendation I have heard so far is not to focus on the goal but on the obstacles that might get in your way and solve those. Deer me! Since statements like that come from “respected” coaches, thousands of people get on the wrong patch each and every year (paying thousands of dollars), and when they don’t succeed (what they can’t with such tactic), they tend to blame themselves for failing. And once again they feel a little bit smaller, a little bit less significant, a little bit more like a big failure.

And one day there will come the time when they will just give up because they are exhausted and have lost all the hope and faith in themselves. They have just given up. New Year’s resolutions require a special way of achievement. It’s more than just about do A to achieve B, or even worse, simply stop doing XYZ or do ABC. With that approach, your subconscious will always pull the breaks. What is required is a deep understanding of the human nature.

What is required to achieve your New Year’s resolutions is a deep understanding of the human nature.

You know, what puzzles me the most is that people just don’t seem to understand how New Year’s resolutions are done the right way. We have access to technologies my parents couldn’t even imagine that something like that would ever exist only a few years later. Humanity has accomplished such great things, but we seem not to be able to understand our human nature enough to achieve a few simple goals.

As a matter of fact, most people still don’t really understand their own psychology. That would be an interesting world to discover. But, of course it’s more lucrative to build rockets to fly to Mars and make billions with 5G satellites to ‘cook’ the planet with microwaves from above and call that progress than to look on the inside and become a better version of oneself.

So let me share a few principles of how to achieve your New Year’s resolutions this year PLUS lose your extra weight for good:

  • First and foremost, know exactly what you want to achieve and have a strong focus on your final weight goal.
  • Then take care of your poor habits because they are the biggest saboteurs – WHILE keeping your focus on the goal. I have created a 90-day habit transformation program for that purpose because it’s that important for weight loss success. People go about that the wrong way year after year and keep failing year after year wondering why. Check it out here: https://www.sheslimeasy.com/habit-transformation-ever-webinar9rsp8kyw, or go directly to the registration page at https://www.sheslimeasy.com/she_slim_easy_oto.
  • Next, change your environment. Your environment has been created based on your poor habits in the past. So you want to turn it into an environment of a person who can easily achieve her weight loss goals.
  • Now change your strategy. Obviously, what you have done in the past didn’t work or worked only to a point. If you have the wrong or an incomplete strategy, it’s not going to work. A sensible strategy must address all aspects of your weight situation. In other words, it must address your body, your emotions, your mind, and your psychology. And it must include a way to transform the root causes. That’s a solid weight loss strategy which will work.

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  • Then, change your story. Most likely, your story has been so far, “I just can’t lose weight.” “Even if I look at a dish of spaghetti, I’m gaining weight.” “I’m a big fat failure.” “Why can’t I lose my extra weight for good just like anybody else?” “I look like a Michelin man in those jeans.” “Everybody in my family is overweight, so it’s in my genes.” “I’ve always had a strong bone structure.” You get the idea. Your story has to be changed before you can achieve your goal.
  • Join a group of like-minded women who have the same goal, who can cheer you up and who will hold you accountable. A group of women who are happy with you each time you achieve a milestone and who applaud you. Women who give you honest feedback and who realize your blind spots and help you to see and address them and who you can help likewise. Women with the same body-mind-spirit approach like yours. If you would like to join such a group, here is a group on Facebook with exactly that purpose: https://www.facebook.com/groups/4pillarsoflastingweightloss.
  • If things get really tough (there will always come such a moment), hire a coach who can see those root causes you can’t see and help you eliminate or transform them right away. Book a free qualification call at https://calendly.com/sheslimforever/15min  (these calls are for you and me to find out whether we’d be a good match for one-on-one coaching and they’re free.)

And here is a very special tip, something I recently stumbled upon.

When I’m tired, I find it sometimes hard to motivate myself to do the work that needs to be done. So one day about two weeks ago I thought, you know what, I’m not going to do that work because I should, ought or must do it. I do it out of love for myself. Not only could I work for 8 hours straight without tiredness that day; the next day I received a message from an editor-in-chief of a magazine telling me that an angel had sent me and that she would like to publish one of my articles in her magazine. Now, that was a first. And on top of that, suddenly the open rates of my emails doubled and tripled.

That moment I realized what a strong power love really is and that it reaches far beyond our own little universe. Not only did I benefit but also the world around me.

So, instead of giving up on your New Year’s resolutions because it’s too hard, too time consuming, too this and too that, just say to yourself that you’re not going to do it because you should, ought or must do it…for whatever reason…but out of love for yourself. And then let’s see what miracles are going to happen to you. Please post them below so that I can be happy with and for you and join you in your celebration.

A breakthrough is a moment in time where suddenly the impossible becomes possible. You see your circumstances in a new way and everything changes.” –Tony Robbins

That’s exactly what will happen. The formerly ‘impossible’ suddenly not only becomes possible but reality. At that point you will kick yourself that you haven’t realized that earlier. But don’t be harsh on yourself. Each person has her time to realize the truth. If you have reached that point now, congratulations and welcome to my world. If it’s not your time now, then maybe we’ll see us again this time next year.

Happy slimming :-). 

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Weight Loss Psychology – How Your House Can Make You Fat

Weight Loss Psychology – How Your House Can Make You Fat

By now you have learned about several contributing factors and root causes of weight gain and the inability to lose extra fat.

But have you ever heard that your clutter could add to your weight, too?

When I heard that for the first time from my friend and interview partner Linda J.Binns I was not surprised at all. Because stuck energy is stuck energy is stuck energy….

It just began to make so much sense to me.

Did you ever hear the expression “As within so without?” Actually, it’s not an expression but nothing less but one of the seven Universal Laws, just like the Law of Attention is one of them and true for everything and everyone. Whether you like it or not, these Universal Laws just work with or without you believing in them and with or without your active contribution. Your outer body is just a reflection of what’s going on inside of you, and likewise your home is as well a reflection of your inner world. 

When I asked Linda if it could really be that easy to get rid of clutter and lose weight she answered: “Well, it can certainly my be a contributing or helping factor. Now you know what I want to avoid is people thinking that they can go out and get rid of everything and automatically lose weight. What I hope to show through this interview is the connection between the stuff that we accumulate and any weight that we accumulate and help you understand that and to understand what’s going on, what’s the connection there and how from that perspective when you let go of the clutter, it can actually have a positive impact on your weight as well.”

To that I want to add that it’s all about energy and your inner energy. If you just want to proof us wrong and declutter your house without going through the inner process of letting go, not much will happen. You will feel relieved and lighter, but that doesn’t necessarily means that your fat is now going to burn off like crazy. However, it can. It all depends on what is going on within you. You not only have to ready to let go of clutter but also be ready and willing to let go of everything that lead to weight gain and that is keeping you overweight.

The thing is that the more clutter one has, the more it attracts and that by sorting out one’s stuff literally sorts out one’s life.

“When we attract something, when we are attracting the clutter into our lives, clutter is a symptom of something that is going with us. When you think of energy flow, what clutter does is it stops energy flowing and it creates stuck energy around us. So, when we accumulate clutter, it’s a symptom that something is not in alignment within us and so we accumulate stuff as a symptom of something being out of balance inside of us and that can be. You may not be experiencing it yet as health issues but then you may as well. And then the more stuff you have, the more it adds to itself. And when you sort out that stuff, as you sort out that stuff it starts to help you come more into balance energetically and physically. So you know it starts out as a symptom as you start to address it and you sort out the stuff, it could help you to find the solution for whatever is going on with you on a physical level.”

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Dealing with the clutter & letting some things go, can really bring major changes in one’s life. When I asked Linda what of change we might experience by decluttering, she answered, “You can really  expect any kind of change.  I mean it really depends on the person and what’s going on in their life. But as I said, collecting clutter, accumulating stuff is a symptom of something that is not right in your life or something that is not right with you. So, as you start to eliminate the clutter and you start to deal with that, anything can change. And I had people experience all kinds of different changes from suddenly finding the  answer to a problem they have been experiencing for many years, or the right person suddenly showing up to help them, or business owners when  they let go off stuff attracting new clients seemingly out of the blue. You know what it does is … as you let go off the stuff, it opens up the space for things to change, for the things that you do really need to come into your life. And so really anything can happen depending on what’s going on with the person at the time.”

“As you let go off the stuff, it opens up the space for things to change, for the things that you do really need to come into your life.”

Of course, this is very individual.  What happens to one person as a result of her letting go process may not happen to anybody else. You can’t tell in advance what is going to change for you. That’s the beauty of inner processes in general: they are entirely individual and so are the results. And although I’m repeating myself – I have to so that you really understand that from the depth of your heart – this can nor will it ever happen with a diet or exercise program. Healthy eating and exercise always have to be part of a sensible weight loss strategy, but they don’t solve the root causes. And that’s really the most important part about my work – I never know in advance how things are going to work out for any particular client. Still after 38 years of doing this work I often get surprised about the results.

To that Linda adds, “It is really very individual. And yes, it’s different for everybody … all I can tell you is that, if you address this, if you deal with the clutter, things can and will change for you for the better.” And the best about this is, that things will change in the best possible way for you, what is the best for you.

Linda is a Feng Shui expert and was often called to look at people’s houses. So I asked her how common clutter is among overweight people and if she can see a common pattern.

“Yes! It’s very common. Even if it’s not the whole house, there is usually some area, at least one area. Very often it will be the closet. I remember walking with one couple – they didn’t have weight issues but they had health issues –  their house was immaculate, but what they had was a basement and an attic absolutely full to the brim of stuff.  Boxes and boxes of stuff, there was no energy movement at all. So, they were living in a kind of sandwich between this stuck energy. So, it may not be everywhere in your house, but it will be somewhere, and if you have any issue with weight, I can almost guarantee you have issues with clutter somewhere in your home.”

Holly wow! When I heard that I was never more motivated to go through all my stuff and get rid of some clutter.

The interesting thing is that enhancements through Feng Shui can never be fully effective as long as there is clutter and thus the flow of energy is still blocked. So many women who struggle with weight constantly feel kind of stuck in their lives, or even imprisoned. So I asked Linda if the simple act of decluttering could positively affect the energy flow in our bodies; especially weight related energy that may be trapped.

“Yes! Just simply decluttering absolutely affects the energy flow in your body . And you know weight is stuck energy. It means that … it’s not simply a question of diet and exercise for everybody. I know of many women who are overweight because of not eating enough, for example. But the weight issue goes so much deeper than just diet and exercise; and what you have to understand is that your environment is simply a reflection of what is going on with you. It’s a reflection of everything that’s going on in your life and again, the clutter is simply a symptom, it’s a sign of what is going on within you. So, when you deal with that clutter and you start to release and open up the energy, it has a very positive effect on your own personal energy because you are directly connected to your home. It’s a reflection of you. So, as you start to clear out that clutter, it starts to clear out your own energy.”

I am sure that ninety percent of my readers now thank Linda for that statement that being overweight is very often not a matter of eating, and it’s true.

So do you feel that you want to declutter a particular closet or a drawer?

Go do it! You will feel lighter after. Besides, your motivation may not get any higher to declutter than it is right now. So use that positive energy.

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Weight Loss Psychology – Negative Self-Talk & Healing Through Love

I can’t count how many examples of negative self-talk I have heard from women in my 38 years of being a weight loss coach. Many of the things women tell themselves made me even cry. And these were all wonderful, lovely and loveable women. Yet they all found the worst names for themselves….worse names than they would ever call a dog, let alone somebody else.

A lack of self-love in overweight women is almost omni-present. It seems that overweight women very often also have a problem to love themselves because they did not experience to be loved much during their childhood or in a marriage. They just don’t think they’re loveable, no matter how wonderful and lovely they are. And the worst thing is that they are so convinced that nobody can love them, that even when an entire class of 20 other workshop participants are doing everything to convince them how wonderful and beautiful they are, they find it hard to believe it. Their response often is, “You’re only saying this to be nice with me.”

But fact is that the more we love ourselves the more it’s natural that we take care of what we put into our mouth, what we eat, and what we do to our body. For many overweight women this is probably a far-reaching goal because they are not there yet.

For example, one of my interview guests, Oprah-featured author Laura Fenamore, used to call herself “big, fat, ugly drunk.” Despite being obese and an alcoholic, she had to learn to love herself first to heal both, her weight and her addiction.

These negative self-talks are so common among overweight women, yet they are far from being helpful. That way we can’t build a good relationship with our body and promote lasting weight loss. In order to lose extra weight for good, you need to be in a good relationship with your body to get its full collaboration. How would you like if somebody called you the worst names and then expected you to help them do something for them? Your healthy reaction would be to respond, “Since you can’t be friendly to me, why would I waste any time and energy helping you?”  

How did Laura manage to go from being insanely obese and an alcoholic to being slim, sober, and successful? “Well the first thing that I had to do was really wake up to what I was doing. Because so many people are on auto-pilot that they aren’t even aware of their negative self-talk; they are just not aware that they can’t stop eating or that they are obsessed about food. Maybe they feel dissected like ‘there is something wrong with me.’ But often times people don’t walk around saying, Oh! I call myself an ugly person every day. They just do it. But what happens is, when they get somebody like you coming in their life, and you’re here to help people see another way, they all of a sudden start to notice, ‘oh my goodness, maybe I am not talking to myself so nicely.’ And they start to notice and from the place of noticing, then they can make a shift. I mean it’s really the first step. The first step is to really notice what’s happening, and when I notice that, ‘Oh my goodness, how I’ve talked to myself is just horrible.’ And people say this all the time. ‘I wouldn’t talk to a stranger or a dog the way that I talk to myself. I was really, really mean to myself.’ And that is not going to change until we become conscious of it.”

And then, once you become conscious of it, it’s just a process, the same way that all of the inner work is. It’s a process that is needed…not a pill. Although “…we want instant gratification, but instant gratification doesn’t come. It’s really a process to undo those thoughts and feelings and behaviors that we’ve been living with. It just takes one little step at the time…to undo that negative self-talk and to begin to start talking to ourselves with kindness, compassion and love. And even if we find that we’re hanging out with people that are just really talking nasty to us, or they are being just as abusive…a lot of things may need to shift in order for you to move forward,” Laura continued.

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Of course, “…that’s not easy for everybody to hear, but I am saying that I’ve had people walk away from jobs and marriages and all kinds of situations where they really were not there for the right reasons; because they were there because they felt like they had to be there not because they wanted to be there.  And it was actually holding them back from their truth and what they wanted and valued.”

The problem is that when you’re being treated badly by other people – family, a spouse or friends – then it’s much easier to think negatively about yourself. And after a while you begin to believe that they are right…you literally buy into that lie. And the longer you live with such a lie, the more you begin to believe it and the harder you will find it to stop those self-abusive talks, because “…one thing feeds into the other.” It gets you on a proverbial downward spiral.

The really dangerous thing about all that negative self-talk is that it gets on auto-pilot. After a while you don’t even realize what you’re thinking about yourself. And even worse, what you think and how you feel about yourself, create a new reality and makes matters worse. The longer such a pattern lasts, the harder it will be to lose extra weight for good.

If this is you, then I’m urging you to get away from such negative self-talk. Don’t allow yourself or anybody else to talk badly about you. You are a wonderful being and loveable. The first step is really to become aware of your negative self-talk. Then stop it!

Stop it!

Just stop it!

The next step then is to be grateful to your body, to what it’s doing for you every second of the day, for years and decades without ever getting a ‘Thank you’ from you. It just does its job as long as it can, even though you often reject your own body. Just know that your body is an intelligent being and it knows exactly what you are doing. Don’t you ever believe that your body can’t be hurt by what you think or say about it.

After the gratitude comes love. Start with something you like about your body. Maybe you have beautiful eyes, great hair or nicely shaped legs. There is something beautiful in every woman.  

Maintainable weight loss begins with loving yourself. I know you may think, ‘I will love myself once I’ll be slim.’ Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. You have condemned and abused your body so often and for so long, that you first have to stop that and give your body proof that it has a reason to cooperate with you and burn off that extra fat.

To that Laura says, “Well that’s another one of those components. It’s like life is happening now, it’s not a dress-rehearsal, and why would we want to start liking and loving ourselves once the weight is off? I mean, I understand intellectually why people go there. Because they think in their minds, ‘I am not going to love myself until after I get thin or after I stop eating so much.’ But the truth is that you are who you are now, not later. Now. So the love has to be and the self-acceptance has to begin now. And from that place you will stop the war.

Having more self-love means coming from a compassionate place. The negative self-talk may not go away right away. “Again it’s a process, not a pill. It takes a little bit of time, and it’s that place at self-acceptance. Like ‘I appreciate myself now.“

Laura, “It was really another one of those turning points for me. I had to get that, oh my goodness, I have to accept myself as I am in order for me to release this weight and keep it off.  And I really think that that was part of the magic, that I was in a place of self-acceptance and self-love, as I worked myself down the scale. Did I want to be 200 pounds or 220 pounds?  No. absolutely not, and when I say to people ‘you have to accept yourself as you are,’ they are  kinda  like, ‘but I don’t want to look like this, I don’t want to be this way.’  I know.  But if you walk around everyday saying, I hate my body, I hate the way I look, I want to lose weight, I hate to diet,” it’s not going to happen.

What if you’re just going to understand and feel that you can change slowly but surely? Then, while you’re changing, you begin to appreciate your body for what it does and you’re going to do the emotional and mental work that will lead you to feeling good about yourself on all levels. Would that be helpful? How fast do you think things would change for you?

Just try!

Just start somewhere!

It’s a choice. 

I understand that such a process is not easy when you have to go through it alone. For that purpose I have created a closed Facebook group where you can be among like-minded women who have all the same or similar issues like you have. You don’t have to go through this alone. Both, Laura and I had to get help. It would be too big of an ordeal to do it all alone. So let us be in your boat so that we can assist you to lose your extra weight faster. 

Happy slimming!

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Fat-Burning Supplements – Their Advantages and Disadvantages

Recently, there have  some fat-burning supplements hit the market with big claims and promises. Because people often ask me what I think about these products, I tried several for myself. Besides, I knew what I had to look for and how to protect my health. In this article I want to share with you my experiences and conclusions.

First of all, those products I’ve tried didn’t work at all.

I’m sure that some people must have lost some weight, otherwise the manufacturer could not make such big claims like “lose 1 pound a day”. Well, maybe I’m still just too naïve or credulous. I just can’t believe that there are people out there who would lie so shamelessly and take advantage of others. But, of course, they do exist. Althought I have seen many of those, I still prefer to believe in the good in people. 

To gain an understanding of what I want to share with you today, let’s assume that these supplements work at least for some people. And let’s take the extreme example of “lose 1 pound a day”.

Doesn’t that sound tempting? Gosh, if that is true, how fast could we all lose our extra weight!

BUT….

Do we really want to lose it that fast? Is such a fast weight loss healthy? And most of all is it maintainable? Because, who in her right mind wants to lose weight quickly just to gain that lost weight back? So I assume that we are all on the same page here and want to lose weight for good.

To get a better understanding of how much sense such a speedy weight loss would make, we have to take a look into our body. There are two major issues with that.

First of all, when we lose weight in an unnatural way fast – meaning that we use a substance that forces our body to burn fat very quickly – what happens then in our body?

The faster you lose fat, the more your body will be instantly be flooded with toxins and acid. Keep in mind that extra fat serves your body as storage room for toxins and acid in order to keep them safely away from your vital organs and most of all, from your bloodstream.

Why does your body do that?

Because, toxins and acid are lethal already in small dosages. That’s why our body comes with such a fantastic safety system to keep you alive as long as possible. In its wisdom, your body is constantly trying to undo all the damage you and your environment are doing. And it does that 24/7, 365 days a year, every year of your hopefully long life. What an ordeal!

But the moment your body is forced to burn that fat quickly, it will be literally flooded with countless toxic substances and acid; and that can be really dangerous. Even a slight increase of acid in your blood can be lethal. That’s why our body is so adamanent in buildig fat layers upon fat layers to store them away in the least harmful way. 

What would the alternative be? When you lose weight through leading a healthy lifestyle, your body burns a little bit fat, deals with the released acid and toxins small enough so that your system can really deal with without being jeopardized. So it’s burning fat… excreting the released toxins…burning fat…excreting the released toxins…burning fat, etc. On the other hand, if you use a fat-burning supplement, the process is burning fat…burning fat…burning fat…burning fat, and liver and kidneys have no chance to deal with all these newly released toxins. Your system is not prepared to deal with such a sudden load of acid and toxins at once. The consequences are a damage of some organs (liver damage, kidney damage, skin cancer, etc.) and eventually early death. Although then you would not have to worry about your weight anymore, I assume that this is not an option for you.

If this is not fast enough for you – but keep in mind that we are still talking about maintainable weight loss and not about yo-yo dieting – then there is an alternative. It’s excreting toxins first…letting the body burn fat that is no longer needed…excreting toxins…letting the body burn fat that is no longer needed…excreting toxins, and so on. This is what happens when you do a healthy detox or cleansing. Here too, you can either do it the wrong or the right way. [Please see my program SheSlimEasy 90]

Alas, the flood of acid and toxins is just one downside of fat-burning supplements. There is another consequence of quick weight loss. It’s not unhealthy but extremely ugly. I’m talking about the consequence of having lose skin. Lose skin always comes with unnaturally fast weight loss. Natural weight loss, where the body has time to adjust in a natural and healthy manner, hardly leads to saggy skin.

“I can get rid of the excess skin with a plastic surgery,” you may respond. Yes, you can. But I say that you still did not fully consider the consequences.

First of all, each surgery leaves scarves, and scarves derange the functions of the meridians what leads to a variety of health problems. Besides, this would not look nice because then your body would soon look like a map with ugly lines and bumps all over. Thirdly, your body would not look nicely toned and shaped. You may be slim, that’s true, but you will not look attractive because your body would lack a nice shape.

Can you see how the temptation of losing weight quickly leads to new and even more problems? On top of that, quick weight loss is never sustainable. Now you have all these other issues, that is, if you’re still alive; and on top of that you will soon be fat again, now having more problems than ever before.

So why doing this to yourself?

Is that really worth the price?

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Speaking of the price of these supplements, they are quite expensive. A year’s worth costs approximately $780. Yes, you pay monthly and thus it doesn’t hurt so much. Most likely one year of consuming these supplements will not do because the lost weight tends to come back. So you will more likely have to buy these supplements year after year. And, keep in mind what other costs the fast weight loss will bring in terms of health and longevity. I know people who had to spend all their savings in health costs. And instead of enjoying their life after retirement or buying their dream house, they now run from doctor to doctor and spend a ton of money every month, just to function minimally. Believe me, that’s not what I call a good life. Because everything extreme we do to our body can lead to autoimmunity, and any kind of autoimmune diseases are very expensive to treat, not to speak about the destroyed liver and kidneys, and the skin cancer because these organs could no longer deal with such a load of toxins and acid waste material.

Then there is a third problem with that approach. It does not eliminate the root cause. With that approach – be it diet, exercise, pills, or surgery – you either mask or treat the symptom but not the cause. The symptom may go away for a while or be invisible, but some day it will come back. Symptoms will always come back like a boomerang as long as the root cause is still there. Symptoms are your body’s way of communicating with you. And as long as you don’t deal with the real problem and solve it, the symptoms will come back. So what sense does it make to treat the symptom before the root cause will be eliminated or transformed? 

None whatsoever. 

I had clients who thought that my programs were too expensive and that they first wanted to try X and Y. Of course, they turned out to try X, Y, Z, A, B, and C. Then they eventually ended up in one of my workshops. Only, then I had to deal with a lot more issues than they had a couple of years earlier.

So you spend a lot of money.

You lose precious time and waste your energy.

You lose weight fast but you overtax your excretion organs and get yourself in severe danger of becoming severally ill or even die prematurely.

Then you get that ugly, saggy skin.

Both leads to higher health costs.

And when you’ll gain the lost weight back, you will have to keep purchasing these supplements, quickly getting yourself in an endless downward spiral. And some day you will end up at my door again. 

So, may I introduce you to a healthier alternative where you can lose weight fast now (not ultra fast but still fast) while detoxifying in a healthy way, and all that without getting so much excess skin that the body can’t adjust anymore and safe you a lot of money and sorrow?

My SheSlim programs are all about transformation of the root causes. Once the root cause(s) is eliminated, your body has no longer a reason to hold onto the extra fat and can begin to burn it off in its own speed. For example, in my SheSlimEasy program we transform all the habitual root causes – we work on eight habit groups and over 20 poor, fattening habits. In my SheSlimFast program we then take the detoxification to the next level, where the most weight loss can happen. In my SheSlimSmart program, we take care of your mindset and your psychology and use mental techniques for faster and easier weight loss in accord with your body. The SheSlimForever program is then about the transformation of psychological root causes and trauma. The last two workshops are mainly for maintainable weight loss while the first two can lead to fast weight loss in healthy ways. For all these programs the main goal is maintainable weight loss through transformation

That’s the big difference.

The big difference is maintainable weight loss through transformation.

This path is certainly faster than constant yo-yo dieting. It’s safe, healthy, and maintainable. So here you really have it all.

And here is another fantastic benefit most people are not even aware of. With this approach you are creating a nice domino effect. 

By transforming the root causes, they also automatically improve their overall health, their social life, their love and sex life, their professional success, their finances, and their relationships. Many of my former clients have even deepened their spiritual life. These are all very positive and extremely powerful ‘side effects’ you can’t get from a diet, a supplement or a gastric surgery.

So ask yourself, which side effects would you rather have? Illness, burn out, saggy skin, early death?

Or how about a nicely shaped slim body, great health and vitality, and massive improvements in every aspect of your life that may take a little bit longer?

It happens now and then that I meet a former participant on the street or on Facebook. Some of them I have on the phone now and then. And what I hear from them are statements like the following: “Since my parents have followed your workshop, you have often been a topic during our family meals, and what I have learned from you indirectly, I can now pass on to my family and they all have had great successes by following your advice.” That was a statement I recently heard from a young man whose parents attended a weekend workshop more than 30 years ago. He now has children of his own and passes on what his parents shared with him during their family meals to his wife and children. Get that, one couple invested in a weekend workshop with me and now three generations are using what they have learned and all are benefitting tremendously in every aspect of their lives, be it school, job, business, health, relationships, you name it.

That’s what I call great value.

A couple of years ago I met a former client of mine in a mall. She told me that she had lost me out of sight when I moved to another country and that she and her mother (both former workshop participants) have been looking for something similar than my workshops for years. They have attended many workshops since and even enrolled in a class to learn an alternative therapy method. But she told me that they were constantly disappointed because, “nothing came even close to your workshops…not even close,” she said.

Frankly, for many years I had no idea that people were feeling that way because I saw them once or twice and then never again. I had no idea that they never came back for the simple fact that they didn’t need my assistance anymore.

How can that be?

The short answer is: Because my methods are based on natural and universal laws which are true for everybody and everything. You can transfer my methods to any problem that might be ailing or bothering you, not just weight loss. And while transforming the causes of weight issues, at the same time you also transform the causes of other diseases and any kind of problems and issues.

These methods work because they are based on fundamental truths!

Another short answer is: we are talking about quality here. We have to begin to distinguish between quality and quantity or between quality and speed. Whatever you do on one level, automatically has a positive effect on all other levels as well. When you change your mindset, this has an effect on every other aspect of your life as well. The same is true for your emotional patterns, how you interact with people, and most of all, how you are treating yourself. 

Here is another feedback from one of my former clients. She said, “This was much more than a weight loss program…it was a school of life”. 

To sum it  up, we could say that these fat burning supplements might lead to fast weight loss. On the other hand, I have tried them without dieting, and they didn’t deliver on the promise. If they were really so great, then there was no diet needed, otherwise it’s rather the diet that leads to weight loss and not the supplement. And there is another aspect we have to take into consideration. We can never know how much these products help because of the placebo effect, what makes these supplements even more expensive. And if they work as promised, the benefit of losig weight fast is far smaller than all the negative side effects. 

You can take many detours on the way to your ideal weight…or you can take the straight way by showing a little bit of patience. The choice is yours. 

Happy slimming :-).

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Weight Loss Psychology – How To Deal With Emotional Eating

Emotional eating is an issue many overweight women are struggling with. The problem is that they don’t understand the real cause behind emotional eating and thus try to tame the beast with willpower.

This is a completely useless strategy because when you do that, you deal with two completely different levels of your being. Willpower comes from your mind (will) and the emotional eating – as the word implies – has to do with emotions. Emotions can’t be dealt successfully with willpower. And Dr. Carol Solomon, one of the weight loss experts I have interviewed – a specialist in emotional eating – explained why willpower is not a good strategy to overcome emotional eating.

Dr. Solomon, a psychologist, has struggled with the same 20 pounds over and over and over again. She said that she was definitely a compulsive eater and that she was really obsessed with food. It occupied a lot of time and space in her head and it just caused her a lot of angst, a state of mind she didn’t like at all. She kept going up and down in her dieting with a lot of yo-yoing, which caused her a lot of problems.

She said that although many overweight women may think, “Only 20 pounds…lucky her,” that to women it doesn’t really matter whether she is 20 pounds overweight or 50 pounds or 100 pounds. The vicious cycle aspect of feeling that you’re going round and round and round with the same issue over and over is always the same, and so are the struggles.

“That’s the frustrating part that it’s so discouraging for people and I think maybe people with more weight to lose feel even more discouraged. But to me it’s just frustrating, it’s discouraging and it’s demoralizing really,” Dr. Solomon said.

When I asked her what the reason for our obesity epidemic in the Western world might be despite of the fact that we have so much food to choose from, she said, “There is definitely something wrong in the system and there are a lot of factors that contribute to that. I think the whole world is feeling so much stress. People who work in corporate jobs are functioning with so much pressure and so much uncertainty. People are so overwhelmed with their lives; and overcommitted. There are so many demands and responsibilities and less support, and less social interaction; which is one of the keys to happiness. Stress is really equivalent to what smoking was in the 50’s. It’s killing us. One of our favorite responses is to overeat and I think that people just don’t make time for themselves and they just don’t pay attention. There is a lot of unconscious eating going on until something happens and then you say: Okay, I’ve got to do something about it.”

Stress is a huge factor regarding weight issues and a huge trigger. Stress leads to a variety of negative emotions which are mostly ‘undigested’, and we have to do something with them. So food is just a quick and easy answer and comes in handy, although it really creates more problems we can’t deal with.

When I asked her what she thinks about diets, Dr. Solomon answered, “Well, I think that we all know that diets don’t work, and that diets result in a net gain. I think there was a study once that showed that people on diets gain back a 107% of the weight that they lost. So, all the weight that they have lost plus 7%, and yet there is a $50 Billion diet industry out there. That’s a lot of money no matter what currency you are talking about. It just shows how desperate people feel to find an answer.”

“Diets create dependency on something that’s outside of you,” she continued. “Diet programs would have you believe that if you’d relax your guard, you’ll devour everything inside. So if you believe that, then it’s natural to start depriving yourself so that you won’t gain weight. So, it’s either one or the other all the time. You are either devouring or depriving; starving yourself or stuffing yourself.”

I have often discussed why diets are counter-productive from a physical standpoint. Now you also begin to understand why dieting for weight loss is even a bad idea psychologically. I think it’s really time to begin questioning the dieting approach for maintainable weight loss. 

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But what is the answer?

If you want to lose weight, you can do it simply by eating when you’re hungry and stopping when you’re satisfied.

Can it be that easy and simple?

“…that’s frightening to many people, because that means taking responsibility and trusting yourself. So a lot of people believe that they have to have this sort of outside structure, this sort of outside control of a diet but it never really works. To do something different; you are going against all the machinery of the culture especially that $50 billion diet industry.”

And, oh boy, can they fight hard to keep you struggling and silence those weight loss experts who dare to speak out the truth. I could literally fill volumes talking about that subject and what tricks they used to get me out of business and stop talking about the truth. They just don’t want to lose you as a returning customer.

To demonstrate what a dead-end road the dieting approach can be, Dr. Solomon explains:

“A lot of people like the idea of being told what to do when they are frustrated; initially; that’s part of the appeal of the diets. ‘I’m tired of thinking about food; I don’t want to spend one more minute thinking about it; Just tell me what to do and I’ll do it; Just give me a set of rules and I will follow them.’ The problem is that the rules are impossible to follow and then people blame themselves. It also brings up resistance in people. Weight loss issues in general they really bread resistance. There is something inside of us, we don’t like being told what to do, even by ourselves. We all have these little 5 year olds inside of ourselves saying, ‘I’m not going to do it! You can’t make me!’ Like a 5 year old, stomping her feet. So dieting really perpetuates that cycle of making rules and breaking them that leads into those bigger issues of craving nourishments and gratification but not really allowing yourself to have it. So we end up feeling deprived.”

By passing the responsibility over our weight and body on to a false diet ‘expert’, we not only become dependent, we also willing pass the power over ourselves and our lives to someone else. No wonder why millions of overweight women feel so powerless. This is a crazy downward spiral nobody can win.

We’re trying to control something, and yet we feel out of control. That keeps us feeling small and powerless and it’s a real downward spiral which gets worse and worse. Women often don’t see a way out of that situation and start feeling very stuck. It’s easy to get into that situation but hard to find a way out. You eat too much and then you feel like you should deprive yourself the next day. So you eat less because that’s what all the books and doctors are saying: ‘Eat less and exercise more.’ But they never tell you how to do that in a way so that you can really stick to it. The reason is that they are not knowledgeable about the emotional part of it, so they can’t tell you how to address these emotional issues.

At the beginning I said that you can’t deal well with emotions through willpower. Emotions are emotions and will is will. Both happen on a completely different level. And it’s the same with diet. You can’t deal with emotions by eating less. That is simply stupid. When it comes to emotional eating, the real issue is emotions. So you have to deal with those instead of oging on the next diet.

Stress causes emotion, tension, fatigue and a lot more…all reasons that are driving us to the refrigerator. A lot of times you don’t even realize what’s happening there and why you are looking for food.

Diets are so counter intuitive; when we really think about what diets are. We are so used to the dieting approach that we have totally un-learned how to listen to our body, to our common sense, to our own intuition. And that’s what surprises me so much, that we really have lost our common sense in all that. Dr. Solomon said that statistics say that we gain 107% after a diet and I think that everybody reading this would agree. Yet people do it again and again, they do something that doesn’t work that has a 107% to fail! That is simply insane.

So what choices do you have during the Holiday season to deal with food? Give in and eat as much as you can and then jump on the next diet in January? Or depriving yourself while everybody else on the table is enjoying the food?

There is a better way. Mindful eating.

Enjoy the food you eat. Eat a lot of salad first. Drink a glass of water before the meal (you already knew that one). Eat mindfully. Be grateful for the food and the company. You can eat everything on the table as long as you eat slowly and enjoy each and every bite. After such a meal you will feel happy instead of remorseful. 

We have to gain back the trust in ourselves, and this starts by taking responsibility over our own emotions. And it also starts by saying ‘Stop’ to the insanity and by beginning a normal, healthy lifestyle and reducing stress.

Some day in January I’m going to start with my SheSlimEasy Habit Transformation. Since I will only work with 20 participants, the group my fill fast. The last time I offered such a program, I was booked for 2 years in advance, and that within the first two weeks of January. So, if you feel that the SheSlimEasy method might be a good way for you as my subscriber can already register now and start with the program. I promise, it will not interfere with your Holiday feasts. I would like you to first go through my free webinar so that you understand what tis program includes and what you can expect. You can access the recording of the webinar here: https://cdm.weightlossexpertsrevealthetruth.com/webinar-truth-weightloss-registration.

Enjoy your Holidays….and happy slimming!

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Are You Following The Masses Or Are You Losing Weight?

Can you believe it? There are only five more weeks left to the end of this year. This is the time when people begin to think about their goals they wanted to achieve this year but didn’t. Millions of women are beginning to realize that, once again, they did not achieve their weight loss goal. And once again they blame themselves.

And at the same time they say, “Well, the year is almost over anyway. So let’s enjoy the holiday season and eat whatever I like. I can start again in January.” And so it goes from year to year.

There is something about that pattern that puzzled me for many years and I just didn’t understand why millions of women are following a path that has no chance to bring the desired results.

I believed them when they said that they are serious about their weight loss. So why would they go and just jump on the next diet although they never had a real chance of getting lasting results? Like sheep in a herd they are following the newest weight loss hype, although their common senses have warned them at the very beginning.

It took me quite a while to understand that the problem is the ‘herd’ mentality. The herd gives people a false sense of safety and security. It’s the herd mentality we humans have.

When you set a goal, you know that you want to achieve it, and you are willing and ready to do whatever it takes. But there is also another level that has a word: your subconscious mind, and that’s a whole different story.

What’s going on subconsciously is – unfortunately – much stronger than your mind. Your subconscious mind wants to keep the status quo. It wants you to do what is known. It wants the safe route. It wants to do what all the other people are doing. It wants to do what you have always done.

Something new? Go away!

Something I have never heard of before? No way!

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.

So your mind goes, “Yes, that body-mind-spirit theory makes total sense. I get that a weight loss strategy has to meet individual needs. I want to lose my weight for good, not just lose a few pounds and then gain them back. I understand that weight loss diets have an opposite effect and lead to yo-yoing. It makes sense that I first have to eliminate the root cause before I can achieve my final goal.”

But then you see an ad or an article about a new program with just a slight twist but not really anything new or anything you haven’t already tried before. Or you hear Oprah talk excitedly about an new diet, and your subconscious mind goes, “Well, so many women had success with that method, so it must be good. Since Oprah or Dr. Oz says it, it must be true. Maybe that dietitian or expert has just found the right twist that finally works. Those before-after pictures look so great and I want to look like that woman as well. Hundreds of clients can’t be wrong. Dr. Oz can’t be wrong. Oprah can’t be wrong. So let’s take the safe route and give that diet another try.”

The thing is that neither Dr. Oz nor Oprah or any other person who publically talks about a new weight loss program is wrong per se. Some tactics actually do work for some people for some time. That’s why they come across as so credible – because they truly believe what they are saying. But they are not the ones who work with clients for years and decades to see the long-term results.

NO tactic works for everybody all the time. 

Behind that mentality is a two-dimensional thinking. Recently a member of my Facebook group commented on one of my posts that weight loss ALWAYS has to begin with a liver cleanse and that she is having some great results. That’s two-dimensional thinking. Do A and you will get B. Some experts really say that about liver cleanse and it’s not entirely wrong. But it’s not entirely correct either.

So let’s take that example with the liver cleanse because it’s a great one.

There are many overweight people with a liver problem, and for them the liver cleanse early in the weight loss process is, indeed, very important. But, in order for the liver to deal with that cleanse, you have to prepare it, for example with a colon cleanse or with an increased water intake. Or maybe the liver needs some supplements to do a better job. But then, what about the kidneys? Or, or, or….Our body is just not a machine and we all are very individual. That’s another reason why neiter diets nor any weight loss supplements make any sense. They simply don’t address the root cause. 

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8 Weight Loss Experts reveail the truth about maintainable weight loss for women and share valuable tips. 

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There are so many variables, so many individuals, and so many shifts and changes we have to make in our weight loss strategy to make it work personally and individually.

A + B = C is not true for every woman when it comes to weight loss. Again, this is tactical, two-dimensional thinking. A few hundred years ago people believed that the earth was a disc and they had great proof of that theory: they could not see beyond the horizon. Again, two-dimensional thinking.

For even the stupidest diet in the world you can find some proof that it works. But is it healthy? Does it work for everybody? Will the results last? No, no, and absolutely no.

I usually do classes of 20 participants, and in over 38 years of working as a weight loss coach, the causes we detect together never fail so surprise me. Recently one of my participants found out that one of her causes was something her father said when she was a young teenager in early puberty, not feeling like a child anymore but not feeling comfortable in the body of a woman either. Henceforward she was ashamed to become and be a woman and subconsciously tried to hide her body behind the fat. Would she ever have found her root cause alone? Maybe, but not likely.

In a class of 20 I usually have at least 20 different causes. Jessica, for example has found cause A, B and E to be effective for her; Mary’s causes are A, C and F, while Freeda found out that the causes C, G, L and N are a problem in her case.

Just think about, seen in that light, how much sense does any tactical advice “Do A to get B” make? It’s like the follower who tried to convince me that for everybody the first step had to be a liver cleanse. But what if your root cause is a psychological one? What if one of your causes is a hormonal problem? What if it’s a lack of sleep? Yes, cleansing the liver is always a good idea early in the process, but it’s not the only tactic and it’s certainly not for every woman to use it as a first step. This is just an example. You can take every recommendation regarding weight loss you have ever heard and use that same logic.

It’s that tactical, two-dimensional thinking that makes people believe that what works for them must also work for the rest of the world, which is not only arrogant but also quite ignorant. Here again it shows that a little bit of knowledge can be more dangerous than no knowledge at all.

Let’s assume that you had been molested, raped or abused in any way and your extra fat serves as a protective shield; and let’s assume that I’d come and say, “The first step has to be a liver cleanse,” or, “Go on that banana diet, it worked great for me.” Or let’s assume that you have some real bad habits and I’d tell you, “The first step has to be a liver cleanse”. Rightfully you would shake your head and think, “Stupid woman”. Yet this is exactly what’s going on in the weight loss market place for decades. Women are being sold to the most stupid tactics and vastly taken advantage of. Believing all that misleading information is not better than believing our earth was a disc. 

There are some basic things I recommend every overweight woman to add to their weight loss strategy, and cleansing and detoxification is a part of it. Did you hear me? A PART, not the solution, and not always the first step. 

Regarding maintainable weight loss, we have to understand the difference between a tactic and a strategy. A tactic is one single method (i.e. a diet, or a liver cleanse, or exercise, or a weight loss pill, or gastric surgery, for example) while a strategy contains several steps and methods (i.e a healthy lifestyle, and overall cleansing, and detoxification, and mindset changes, and transformation of the psychological causes,etc.) . A tactic may win a battle or two, but it’s the strategy that wins the war. A diet (= tactic) can help lyou lose some weight, but it you want to get slim for good, you need a strategy (a group of several methods). 

A tactic may win a battle or two, but it’s the strategy that wins the war.

This means that we first find some root causes and then we create a personal strategy for each individual.

Again, there are a few things that should always be included, and that’s a healthy lifestyle and the transformation of some poor habits. Without a healthy lifestyle and supportive habits even the best strategy has not a good chance to bring maintainable results. In my eyes, regular overall cleansing and detoxification (not just liver cleansing) is part of a healthy lifestyle. That is something we can generalize. But all the rest is very individual.

The really, really good news about this is that when you use a great strategy that includes your body, your mind, your emotions, your habits, and your psychology, you will not only lose weight for good, but in the process you will improve every other aspect of your life: your love life, your relationships, your professional or business success, your overall health, your financial situation, even your spiritual life will deepen, if you want that. As soon as you’re happy in your own body, the world around you will change in many positive ways. 

So what can you do right now?

You have the choice. You can keep following the masses, what is okay as long as you are okay with the results. Or you can sit down, take a few minutes and make a decision:

  1. Do I want to keep yo-yo dieting or do I want to find a solution that brings lasting results?
  2. Do I want to follow the masses/the herd or am I willing to discover a new path that is best for me?
  3. Am I willing to leave the beaten track and to make new experiences, even though this may mean that I can’t follow a “Do A and you will get B” advice anymore?
  4. Do I want to begin 2022 with another diet or do I want to get down to brass tacks with my weight and release it for good, no matter what, no matter how?
  5. Am I okay with temporary results or am I ready to kiss my extra fat goodbye forever?
  6. Does remaining in the current status quo feel so safe to me that I want to stay in this state for another year or am I at the point where I can finally let go of my extra weight?

As soon as you come to the point where you are ready to leave the diet path and make new and better experiences, I’m here for you and I can’t wait to work with you. I promise this is going to be an exciting journey and you will love it.

Now is the right time to think about what you really want. In January it might be too late, because then you will be inundated with messages about the newest XYZ diet and weight loss program. Yes, I will be there and ready to offer you my program as well, but my voice will not be the loudest. The question is, will you hear my voice or will all the noise out there speak louder to you?

The choice is yours.

Happy slimming :-).