Overcoming Common Barriers to Women’s Weight Loss (Part 1)

Embarking on a weight loss journey is a complex and multifaceted endeavor, especially for busy women who juggle numerous responsibilities. There is a conflict between available time and a deep desire or professional need to achieve lasting weight loss. Many busy women have realized that the dieting/calorie counting/exercise approach is far too time-consuming and not sustainable. Thus, many women rightfully perceive that approach as a waste of time.

There is a better, easier, faster, and more sustainable way, and it begins with understanding the real nature of weight issues. Once you understand what’s really going on in your body and subconscious, the choices become obvious, and you no longer need to go from one trial and error to another.

Understanding is the price you have to ‘pay’. Without understanding the entire problem, you don’t have a choice. As long as you believe in the dieting approach, you don’t have a choice but to search for the next better diet. Only once you begin to understand the connection between the subconscious and your current weight do you have a choice. The better you understand the root causes, the better you understand what you really need during your weight loss process, and that’s seldom a diet.

Understanding the common barriers that impede progress and adopting strategies to overcome them can finally empower women to achieve sustainable weight loss, while the diet approach is psychologically disempowering. In this blog post, we will talk about six key challenges—lack of self-compassion, lack of motivation, lack of support, psychological factors, busy schedules, and stress—and provide actionable strategies to address them.

1.  The Importance of Self-Compassion in Sustainable Weight Loss

A weight loss journey is not just a physical endeavor but also an emotional and psychological one. Otherwise it will not be sustainable. A crucial yet often overlooked element in achieving sustainable weight loss is self-compassion. Many women struggle with being kind to themselves, especially when they fall short of their weight loss goals. The way many women talk to themselves, they would not even talk to their dog, and that must stop.

This lack of self-compassion can manifest in various ways, leading to a cycle of negative self-talk, guilt, and discouragement, which ultimately hinders their progress.

Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness, understanding, and support that you would offer to a friend.  Because, your body IS your friend…your oldest and most loyal friend on the planet. It means acknowledging your struggles and imperfections without harsh judgment. And it also means being warm and understanding toward oneself during difficult times rather than being overly critical.

Many women are exceedingly harsh on themselves when they fail to meet their weight loss goals. They engage in negative self-talk, labeling themselves as “failures” or “incompetent.” This self-criticism can lead to feelings of guilt and discouragement, making it difficult to maintain healthy habits. The cycle of setting high expectations, falling short, and then punishing oneself emotionally can be detrimental to every aspect of a woman’s life and every aspect of a woman’s life and prevents you from long-term weight loss.

Negative self-talk is a common issue among women striving for weight loss. Phrases such as “I’m so lazy,” “I’ll never be able to do this,” “Look how fat I am,” or “I’m a failure” (and worse) are very common. This kind of self-dialogue can be damaging for several reasons:

  1. Demotivation: Constant criticism saps your motivation, making it harder to stick to a weight loss plan. When you internalize these negative messages, you are less likely to believe in your ability to succeed, which decreases your motivation to try.
  2. Emotional Eating: Feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism can lead to emotional eating. Many women turn to food as a source of comfort, which will result in overeating and further weight gain…a perfect downward spiral.
  3. Stress and Anxiety: Negative self-talk increases stress and anxiety, which can exacerbate weight gain. Stress triggers the release of cortisol, a hormone that promotes fat storage, particularly around the abdomen.

Worst of all, your subconscious is constantly listening to your thoughts and words and believes everything you think or say to be ‘true’. In previous videos and blog posts, I have already explained how we constantly feed our subconscious with unwanted information through our thoughts, the words we speak and what we believe. Negative self-talk and criticism make it impossible to lose weight for good. Even if you do lose some weight, it will always come back because your subconscious has the information that you’re “overweight and a failure,” and like a loyal servant, it will make sure that this pattern will remain your reality.

It’s on you to change your inner programming before you can even think about losing weight. Weight loss MUST begin in your subconscious.

To cultivate self-compassion and break the cycle of negative self-talk, you can adopt several strategies:

  1. Reframe Negative Thoughts: Challenge and reframe negative thoughts into positive or neutral ones. Instead of thinking, “I failed to stick to my diet,” try thinking, “I have found a better way to lose weight for good, and I give my subconscious new information.”
  2. Practice Self-Kindness: Treat yourself with the same kindness and patience that you would offer a friend. Recognize that everyone makes mistakes and that setbacks are a normal part of the journey. Failing with a diet is not even your fault other than that you chose the diet approach. You simply didn’t know better before.
  3. Seek Support: Join one of our support groups where you can learn new information and sustainable ways of losing weight. Having a supportive network can help you stay compassionate toward yourself.
  4. Watch my Videos: Unlearn the obsolete diet myth and learn how your subconscious works and how you can turn it into a better servant, assisting you in your weight loss process.

Research has shown that self-compassion can lead to healthier behaviors and better mental health. A study published in the Journal of Health Psychology found that individuals with higher levels of self-compassion were more likely to engage in health-promoting behaviors such as regular exercise and healthy eating.

By practicing self-compassion, you can create an easier, faster, healthier, and more sustainable approach to weight loss. Instead of focusing on perfection, you now focus on progress, recognizing that setbacks are a feedback and opportunities for growth rather than failures.

 

2.  Boosting Motivation for a Successful Weight Loss Journey

Motivation is a significant factor in maintaining a weight loss journey. Without a strong motivation, not much gets achieved. Many people start their weight loss efforts with high levels of enthusiasm, driven by the prospect of achieving their goals. However, as time progresses and results are not immediate, this motivation often wanes. Understanding the nature of motivation and employing effective strategies to sustain it can make a substantial difference in achieving long-term weight loss success.

Motivation is a dynamic and multifaceted phenomenon that varies in intensity and direction. It can be intrinsic, driven by internal desires such as health and well-being, or extrinsic, fueled by external factors like social approval or rewards. For sustainable weight loss, intrinsic motivation is more powerful because it aligns with personal values and long-term goals.

Several factors contribute to the decline in motivation over time. These include:

  • Slow Progress: Weight loss is often slower than expected, leading to frustration and a loss of enthusiasm.
  • Plateaus: Hitting a plateau where weight loss stalls can be discouraging.
  • Monotony: Repetitive routines can become boring, reducing the initial excitement.
  • External Stressors: Life stressors such as work, family responsibilities, and personal issues can divert attention and energy away from weight loss efforts.
  • Hunger and Cravings: When you’re hungry or crave certain foods, your body is on survival mode and its entire energy is focused on food. That moment motivation instantly moves to the end of the body’s priorities.

To overcome these challenges and maintain motivation, consider the following strategies:

  1. Set Realistic Goals

Setting realistic and achievable goals is crucial for maintaining motivation. Unrealistic expectations can lead to disappointment and a sense of failure, which quickly diminishes enthusiasm and creates a subconscious programming of failing. Break down your overall weight loss goal into smaller, manageable steps. For example, instead of aiming to lose 50 pounds, set a goal to walk 15 minutes every day or to drink more water. This approach allows for regular achievements, which can keep you motivated.

  1. Stop Dieting and Choose a More Sustainable Method

Diets, particularly those that are restrictive or extreme, are not a sustainable solution for lasting weight loss. One primary reason is that they often lead to a cycle of yo-yo dieting, where individuals lose weight temporarily but then regain it once they return to their regular eating habits. This cycle can be detrimental to both physical and mental health. According to research, restrictive diets can slow down metabolism, reduce muscle mass, and increase cravings, making it harder to maintain weight loss over the long term. Additionally, the psychological impact of dieting can be significant, leading to feelings of deprivation, guilt, and failure when individuals inevitably slip up. This negative relationship with food and self can further hinder the ability to achieve and maintain a healthy weight.

In contrast, weight transformation through the transformation of the root causes, sustainable lifestyle and habit changes is easier, faster, more effortless, and more sustainable. Instead of focusing on what you can’t eat, this approach emphasizes positive, long-term changes in eating habits, physical activity, and mental well-being. By incorporating balanced nutrition, regular exercise, and stress management techniques, you can achieve a healthier weight without the severe restrictions of traditional diets. This holistic approach not only supports weight loss but also improves overall health and well-being. Sustainable weight loss is achieved by creating habits that can be maintained for a lifetime, making it a more effective and enjoyable path to a healthier you.

  1. Build a Support System

Having a support system can significantly impact your motivation. Surround yourself with supportive friends, family members, or join a weight loss group. Sharing your journey with others can provide encouragement, accountability, and inspiration.

Since many women have made rather negative experiences with families and friends, we recommend joining a group of like-minded women who have gotten on the same path of working on their subconscious levels rather than on diet. For that purpose I have created several support groups for different needs. [LINK Pre-registration Support Group]

One of the very big mistakes many busy women make is to believe that they can succeed on their weight loss journey alone. Thus they keep repeating what they already know and what they already have done and failed with. We humans don’t know what we don’t know, and over 90% of overweight women have no idea what can really help them lose weight for good.

If you’re a busy woman who has not time to waste, join me with one of my groups of like minded women and see how much faster and more effortless you can begin to lose weight.

Maintaining motivation throughout a weight loss journey can be challenging, but it is essential for long-term success. Be smart and get a team behind you that understands what you’re going through and that can offer you better solutions.

  1. Focus on Non-Scale Victories

Weight loss is not just about the number on the scale. Non-scale victories, such as improved energy levels, better sleep, and increased fitness, are equally important and can boost your motivation. Often women first lose volume before they lose weight.

Conclusion:

By incorporating self-care practices, positive self-talk, and self-compassion into your daily routine, you can provide the necessary support from within to achieve sustainable weight loss. Nurturing a positive relationship with yourself and improve self-belief will help you develop the resilience needed to navigate the challenges of your weight loss journey. Remember, you are your own best ally, and with the right mindset and self-support, you can achieve your goals and live a healthier, happier life.

This Blog Post will be continued!

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To dive deeper into these topics, watch my video series “How to Achieve Lasting Weight Loss: Overcoming Women’s Unique Challenges.”

Weight Loss Psychology – Your Weight Is Like An Iceberg (80% of the problem is beneath the surface)

Weight Loss Psychology – Your Weight Is Like An Iceberg (80% of the problem is beneath the surface)

Women all around the world have experienced this: they go on a diet, lose some weight and after a while they gain the lost weight back. The harder the diet was, the more frustrating this is.  

Yes, the awareness that diets don’t work is rapidly growing among women all around the world. But what is the alternative to the dieting/exercise approach?

That’s a great question and the answer is not obvious…unfortunately. There are many theories out there, and most of them are quick fixes which really don’t fix anything. This is very confusing for a woman who is looking for serious answers. 

I personally had to grow into my sixties, work with over 10,000 women worldwide, I had to go through decades of struggling with my weight to detect at least 75 possible root causes of weight gain in women. This may sound like an intimidating number but it’s not nearly as hopeless to find your root causes as you may think. As a matter of fact, understanding your root cause will significantly speed up the weight loss process, and in most cases the result is sustainable, unless there is another root cause in effect. 

So let’s first talk about root causes. 

There are five levels on which a cause for weight gain can happen:

  1. Physical pillar: For example. toxic overload, hormonal imbalance, food intolerances, some auto-immune diseases, parasites, stress and many more. Actually, eating too much and a lack of exercise are only two of the 72 causes I have counted so far. So please forget dieting for a moment. 
  2. Your emotions: When there is an emotional imbalance of some sort, this can lead to many behavioral habits. The habits in that case are only the symptom but not the cause. Especially for women, the emotional pillar is a big one when it comes to weight loss. Some of the most common emotional causes are a lack of love, not feeling valued, overwhelm, not being seen, etc. 
  3. Mindset: Although the first two pillars are very important, the probably most important one to look at is the mindset. Especially women have developed a terrible mindset around food, weight and their body. They are often so fixated on what to eat and what to wear on any given day, that they think of their weight all day long. And after a while those thoughts become so automated that they run on autopilot on a more subconscious level. And that is really dangerous because the women are then not even aware of their thinking anymore. Therefore, uprooting a negative mindset is a very important and large part of my work because this is something most women can’t handle by themselves anymore. 
  4. Subconscious Mind: According to psychologists, 80% of the problems are in the subconscious mind, why it is almost impossible for most of the women to understand what the real problem behind their weight issue is. The good news is that 80% of the solution is also on that level, and that’s where my expertise is. The largest part of the work is the digging and the finding. Once we have found the subconscious patterns, it’s easy and fast to transform them. And equally the weight loss process is also fast and relatively effortless. Even transforming past trauma is most of the time a matter of a few weeks or a couple of months. 
  5. Spiritual level: It happens more and more that we can also see some spiritual issues and root causes behind weight problems, for example when there is some karma involved. 

Imagine you never having to worry about your weight ever again!

Go and dig deeper. 

Go look beneath the surface. The problem is not the stomach but the psychology behind the eating. The problem is not what a person eats but why she eats what she eats. Is she bored? Is she lonely? Is she unfulfilled? Does she feel under-valued? Does she feel abandoned? Is she with the wrong partner or at the wrong job? Has she been abused? 

I can tell you that in my 40 years of working with overweight women I have seen and heard hundreds of different stories. Never ever did I recommend any of the over 10,000 participants to do a diet. Develop health eating, yes, but not a weight loss diet.  What we do is learn to apply an overall healthy lifestyle just for the sake of a healthy body. 

How on earth do you want to fix that with gastric surgery?

How on earth does anybody believe that it’s enough to get you on a diet?  

Here are a few examples of women who lost weight simply by transforming their root causes:

  • I lost 54 pounds and kept it off for 14 years after I transformed some childhood trauma. I didn’t do any diet and I did not exercise at that time.  
  • Trudy lost weight after she realized that her root cause was a rape. Once she had transformed that traumatic situation in our coaching, she lost weight without changing her diet or exercise regimen. 
  • Tina wanted to find the love of her life, and after we have transformed her invisible wall which has repelled the right men before, she not only found the love of her life, she also lost weight although this was never her goal or focus. 
  • Giselle lost 45 pounds withing 12 weeks without changing her eating habits nor did she exercise. In her case we had to deal with some family problems, she had to change the job and she too found the love of her life at the age of 55. Check out this blog post: https://www.angelabuhri.com/case-study-giselle-from-a-total-ruin-on-all-levels-to-having-it-all/
  • As a teenager, Mavies found out that she is gay, and being raised in a catholic family she never learned how to deal with her feelings. So she closed up and did not allow anybody into her life and heart. When I met her, she had just survived two heart attacks and breast cancer, and her face seemed lifeless, like hidden behind a thick layer of fog. After we started working together she learned to love unconditionally regardless of the sex of a person. She has accomplished that within the first month of working with me and is still in the transformation process.

For many women, the extra weight serves as a protective shield. In those cases a coach should never take that away from her through a diet, a pill or a gastric surgery. The very first job of a coach in such a situation is to replace that protective layer with another form of protection and through helping their client to set healthy boundaries so that the weight is no longer needed. 

Please, don’t be afraid of looking deeper. It’s so deliberating to break free from these invisible shackles and to find your true, slim you underneath these layers. 

Although it requires a little bit more than changing your eating habits, it’s still the easiest, fastest, most sustainable and quickest way to lose your weight. Why? Because it’s the most direct way. 

Start melting your personal ‘iceberg’!

Happy slimming :-). 

Angela B. 

 

Weight Loss Psychology – How long does it take to form a new habit?

Weight Loss Psychology – How long does it take to form a new habit?

Did you ever hear the saying that once you can ride a bicycle you’ll never forget how to do it? Even if you would not use it for 20 years and then one day decide that you want to take the bicycle instead of the car, you would still do it the right way without having to think about. 

The interesting thing is that it takes a very short time to form a new habit we find pleasurable. On the other hand it can take between 30 and to 254 days to form a new habit that is not so convenient (Study by University College of London performed on 96 people). Of course, more complex behaviors like playing the piano require more time to become a habit. Less complex habits like pealing an apple in a certain way can be formed within a few days. What all habits have in common though is that, once formed they will never go away. Kind of scary, isn’t it?

There are many different kinds of habits, for instance habits that secure our survival like learning how to walk. If we had to decide each time which step to put forward next, we would get crazy. Our brain would constantly be focused on how to do simple, repetitive tasks instead of engaging in new, more important ones.

Since we form new habits by making choices – most choices we make rather serve our lazy self – we have many habits we are not even entirely aware of. Some habits affect our live more than others. Some are beneficial and lead to health, wellness, happiness, great relationships, success and wealth while others lead the opposite way. Some habits have drastic consequences and others only minor consequences in our lives. Some habits such as smoking, consuming too much alcohol or use other drugs can offset or set in motion several less powerful habits. They literally cause a chain reaction of several more habits that are either beneficial or not.

One of these beneficial habits that are followed by other positive ones is exercising, for instance. Once you exercise daily, you need to drink more water. Then you feel less hungry and eat less heavy food. After a while you develop the desire to eat more healthy food so that exercising becomes easier. In the meantime you start losing weight what motivates you to adopt other positive habits and keep that healthy lifestyle.

Improving the quality of sleep and getting enough sleep (7.5 to 8 hours every night) is another such power habit that creates a domino effect. You lose weight easier and faster, you have more stamina during the day, you are more focused and concentrated, and you have more energy to go out and so some exercise.

Smoking on the other hand can negatively offset the benefits of daily exercising and healthy eating. Because of the many toxins cigarettes contain, the body gets a load of toxins it has to deal with what inevitably leads to weight gain.

The trick is to stick to a new habit long enough so that your brain begins to form new neural pathways. If you give up too soon, the brain will quickly and easily force you back into your old habit and all the effort, time, and energy was wasted. The next time you are making another attempt to change that particular habit, it will be even more difficult to eliminate it. It is necessary to stick with your desired habit long enough so that the brain has enough time to form new neural pathways. This is one reason why over 90% give up on their New Year’s resolutions every year. Poor habit is also responsible for the fact that more people want to become rich than actually are rich…they are just not willing to form the habits which are necessary to achieve success.

Another reason is that people don’t really know how to change their habits and are trying to do it with willpower. But willpower is only needed at the beginning to decide on the new habit. What you will need after that is patience, perseverance and consistency. Most people make the mistake to use the little willpower they have left to keep going, not realizing that willpower is only the initial power. After that it requires discipline to show up every day for a certain time, patience, and perseverance until the new habit (be it weight loss habit, success habit, or any other habit) will be formed. These are also qualities we need to develop to be slim, healthy and successful in life.

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What is very important for that part of habit forming is a strong why. If your life depends on, the chances are much bigger that you will succeed with your habit forming process than just being angry at yourself for giving up too soon. For example, if you’re a mom of a 7-year old and your doctor tell you that you’ll within two years if you don’t lose weight, you would turn every stone to get rid of your extra weight ASAP. 

If you’d try to outsmart your bad habits by taking a weight loss pill or by getting a gastric surgery done, for instance, your habits would still be effective and the struggle would go on and on.  Habits don’t just change because you go on a diet, take a weight loss pill or get a gastric band. 

There are much easier ways to change habit than trying to come up with more willpower than you have. One way is to transform them instead of trying to eliminate bad habit. Habits can’t be eliminated anyway. Once the neural pathways are there, the old habit will remain. The only thing you can do is replacing the poor habit with an even stronger positive one. There are some smart ways you can use to fool the brain into collaborating and embracing a new habit. However, if you don’t know how to do that, the chances that you’re going to lose that war are big.

Our body always follows the rules of nature and is most of the time smarter than the person sitting inside of the body. But once we begin to understand the nature of our bodies, how it works, what it needs to accomplish, and how we can rather support our body instead of trying to force something onto it, we become a team and changes will be much easier and more effective. Then you will be the smart leader and your brain and body will become your enthusiastic partners supporting you in your weight loss goals.

As soon as you let your subconscious become your partner, habit change can occur almost instantly. Such an immediate habit change makes your whole life a lot easier and things can begin to change immediately as well.

Weight struggles and plateaus have mainly to do with some poor habits (most of them are unknown to the person), and once these habits have changed, our lives will immediately begin to change as well. Weight loss then becomes much more effortless and better health will be another consequence.

The better you and your body become as a team, the faster and easier you can begin to transform other poor habits as well and your live will drastically improve in any regards.

Happy weight loss!

Causes of Disease (and Weight Gain)

In 2016, a physician from the UK, Dr. Rangan Chatterjee gave a TEDx talk about disease, and the title of his talk was How To Make Disease Disappear,  chronic diseases. He started overthinking his medical knowledge when his 5-year old son nearly died. So he went back to study human health further and learned in the process that he was much more efficient as a doctor when he eliminated the root causes instead of treating the symptoms.

While I was watching the video I always thought, “This is exactly the same like with weight loss.” Being overweight is most of the time a chronic disease as well.

Then he said something that pieked my interest even more – something I have already known for years, but now I got proof for that by a physician. He said that the medical society is quite good at treating acute diseases, but that the problem is that they try to treat chronic diseases the exact same way like they treat acute diseases. He continued saying that chronic and acute diseases are two completely different things and require completely different strategies.

While I was watching I was jumping up and down on my seat and constantly exlaiming, “Yes! Yes! Exactly! Finally a doctor is talking about that important topic! Yeah!”

He then went on talking about the causes, and named things like:

  • eating too much junk food
  • chronic stress
  • sleep deprivation (just one night of sleep deprivation can lead to the same insuline resistance like six months of eating junk food)
  • chronic inflammation
  • physical inactivity
  • a lack of exposure to the sun (lack of Vitamin D)
  • discruptions in the gut microbiom

Does that sound familiar to you? If you’re on my list for longer, it certainly should.

“The problem is that there are many different causes of insuline resistence (for example). And if we don’t address the causes for that particular patient, we will never get rid of the disease.” –Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

Now when he said, “Diseases are the symptom…” he really began to speak my ‘language’. Instead of asking, “What is the cure to this disease?” he began to ask, “What is the root cause? What triggered the disease?” Like I say it regarding weight issues, Dr. Chatterjee also says that when many people have the same disease, they can all still have different root causes which lead to the very same disease. This is exactly the same like with excess weight. Each overweight person has her own individual set of root causes.

The root causes he lists for ANY diseases are:

  • Stress
  • Sleep
  • Physical Activity
  • Gut Health
  • Infections
  • Environmental Toxins
  • Sunlight
  • Diet

Every single chronic disease he was talking about could be associated with one or several of these root causes. And he clearly said that once ALL of the INDIVIDUAL root causes where eliminated, the body could begin to heal and the disease will be reversed.

All these causes plus many more I have been sharing with you for years. But did you take this seriously? Did you believe me? Did you take care of your root causes? If not, it is my hope that you begin to listen now and believe what comes from a doctor’s mouth. 

“We need to update our thinking. Our genetics are NOT our destiny! Our genes load the gun but it’s our environment that pulls the trigger.” –Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

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Although this talk only covers physical causes like sleep, exercise, gut health, etc., it still applies to maintainable weight loss as well. Because extra weight – especially obesity – is nothing else but a chronic disease.

Everything – literally everything – Dr. Chatterjee said in his talk completely and totally applies to our topic weight loss as well. EVERYTHING, with no exception.

Just think about, if you only could start changing these eight physical root causes Dr. Rangan mentioned, how far would you get? Changing the physical root causes is what leads to fast weight loss. Then, once you will be ready to take it a step further, you and I can begin to talk about the impact your emotions, your mindset, your subconscious mind – your psychology – has on your weight and how you can reverse that part of the issue.

Those of you who know me longer and better will not be surprised when I say that I take this further….much further. I firmly believe that we humans are body, mind, and spirit and that we can’t get cut in pieces or slices. We are whole beings and need to be treated as such, on the body, mind and spirit levels. Then you will begin to make your weight loss MAINTAINABLE!

“We need personalized medizine. We need precision medicine. If you actually take a step back, this is preventative medicine in its purest form.” –Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

Likewise we also need a personalized weight loss strategy. Each of us has her individual bunch of possible root causes that need to be addressed to lose weight. That’s why the diet approach is so ridiculous.  Although exercise is very important for good health as well as for a nicely toned body, it still should never be the only tactic, especially for women. 

“We have to stop applying 20th Century thinking to 21st Century problems. We need to take back control, empower ourselves and re-educate ourselves away from our fear of disease and right back down the curve to optimal health.” –Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

For thousands of years people got only fat through crapulousness. Therefore cutting down on the amount was the only way of losing weight back then. But today we live in a complex world with complex problems. We have hormonal problems, we have a toxic overload, we have food intolerances, we live in an overradiated world where our sleep is constantly disturbed. No longer is diet the only cause of weight gain, actually, with so much healthy food we have today it hardly ever is. And therefore it seldom is the solution either. It can sometimes be part of an overall weight loss strategy, but even then you would look behind the eating habit and ask “Why?” Very often overeating has deeper causes, some are of physical nature (i.e. a parasite overgrowth) and other causes are psychological. 

Complex problems call for complex solutions. So let’s start right away by eliminating one cause after the other, like pealing an onion. 

Now allow me to change one of Dr. Chatterjee’s statements and adjust it to the topic weight loss:

If we do that (take back control, empower ourselves and re-educate ourselves away from fear to optimal health) – you and I together – we can not only change our weight and health,  the weight and health of our families, next the weight and health of our communities, and eventually the weight and health of the entire world.

Happy weight loss!

Weight Loss Psychology – Where Do Your Habits Come From?

Weight Loss Psychology – Where Do Your Habits Come From?

Do you agree that bad habit is hard to overcome? In order to make it a little bit easier it’s helpful to understand how habits build.

Every day we make choices in our lives and they are not always helpful or beneficial. We make choices without even realizing that they are not the best for us. And when we get sick and overweight after a while we often wonder why. It may seem like undeserved or without a good reason. But it never is. Every condition in our life we have attracted through thousands and thousands of conscious or subconscious choices we have made in the past.

When we start looking at our habits honestly we suddenly realize that not all of them are good and helpful. But first let us look at how habits can build: the good ones as well as the negative ones.

Whenever we see, hear, experience, say, think, feel or imagine something, our brain immediately registers that information and it will be stored in our subconscious mind as a FACT, no matter whether it’s true or not. The more such information is repeated, the more it becomes a pattern, then a habit and finally reality…without fail. This is true for negative as well as for positive habits.

The way we perceive a life situation or how we feel about and react to, often come from our parents, grandparents, teachers, friends, and mentors, but also through books we read and TV shows we repeatedly watch. The first habits we adopt in life primarily come through our environment. These sources only inspired us to pick up a certain habit, but we were the ones who chose to repeat them.

Later we form habits by making daily poor decisions, mostly in an attempt to stay in our comfort zone and out of laziness. Most of the time these are the poor habits…those habits, which contribute to poor health and weight gain.

Habit is a very important function of the brain, because your brain takes over and does the things you do repeatedly so that it’s free to deal with new and unexpected situations. If we would have to think about everything we do during any given day we would get crazy or at least have a nervous breakdown.

The same is true with our thoughts and feelings. Thought and emotional patterns can become habits as well. When we repeat the same thoughts and feelings over and over again, the subconscious mind will take over after a while and bring the outer results automatically without us realizing how this could happen. This is a great mechanism, but also has consequences for us we do not really want nor appreciate.

For instance, if you think mainly about being overweight, diets, how food can make you fat, how much you hate your body as it is, you will eventually gain more weight. You then think again about being overweight and you will experience the symptoms accordingly. This circle of thinking and feeling and remembering about your weight becomes so automated after a while that you do not even realize what you are actually doing and creating for your life. And the more often you repeat certain thoughts and behaviors, the more your thinking just gets on “auto-pilot” and several aspects are repeated like a CD that is played over and over again without you even noticing because it became so normal.

As a matter of fact overweight people think about their weight all the time. They just have become so used to it that they do not even realize their thinking anymore. And the thinking and feeling about their weight moves to a more subconscious level, and although it’s merely subconscious, these thoughts and emotions are constantly there, bringing more of the results you don’t want. If you think mainly about your weight, you will eventually have weight issues…and more and more of them.

Remember the principle of cause and effect. You can’t sow salad and expect to harvest carrots. Likewise you can’t constantly think about your terrible extra weight and expect to become slim and lean.

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It also works pretty much the same with the food we eat. Our body creates enzymes to digest the food we eat regularly, and it stops creating enzymes for food we never or seldom eat. That’s why we often tend to think that the unhealthy foods we so like were better for our body than the healthy alternatives. Of course, it’s not, but our bodies simply found a way to deal with these unhealthy or toxic substances. And when we change our poor eating habits to healthy eating, it takes our body a while to get used to food it didn’t have in a long time or even never before and start creating those digestive enzymes again.

So we can really say that being overweight in itself is a bad habit as well because of repeated patterns – it has become a complex of habits of our thinking, feeling, acting and dealing with food. That’s one big reason why losing weight and keeping it off can be so darn hard: the problem is so complex. It has become automated. And this on top of all the bad, fattening habits many of us have adopted over the years.

Therefore, the bad habit of being overweight is not only in the eating, drinking and exercising, but also in the thinking, behaving, and feeling. For example, one of my former participants used to enter the gate to her yard side-wise even long after she had lost all her excess weight with WW. That, of course, created a new reality of gaining weight back in order to fit into that old habit of entering the gate side-wise. Only once she realized how she had been creating that reality of being obese through her behavior and by changing that she began to get lasting results. 

Instead of making things more complex than they need to be, it’s very advisable to start your new weight loss process by eliminating and transforming your bad habits so that you can move forward in your progress without constantly sabotaging yourself. 

All that being said I hope that it has become obvious to you how complex the habit topic alone is and why losing your extra weight has been so hard in the past. Your complex of habits has constantly gotten in your way and sabotaged even your most serious attempts to lose that weight. Why did you allow that? You didn’t know better. Nobody told you in the past. Everything you thought you knew was that you needed to eat less and exercise more. That mantra has given you a completely false understanding of the real nature of weight gain and weight loss.

We can make conscious new choices at any point in our lives. The most successful people are good role models for adopting better habits into their lives. Successful people literally depend on good habits. Since inhibiting positive habits helps people to become millionaires, why not also find out how positive habits can help you achieve your weight goal, be healthy and live a longer life?

It’s a matter of making the right choices.

Today choose to take care of your poor habits. Decide which way you want to take: alone (this may take months or even years) or with the help of a coach (takes a few weeks or a couple of months).

Just CHOOSE!

Then set a date in your calendar when you want to begin your habit transformation process, highlighted in yellow.

Happy weight loss!

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How Impatience Can Completely Spoil Your Weight Loss Process

How Impatience Can Completely Spoil Your Weight Loss Process

We are living in a time where everything has to happen on the push of a button. Because of cell phones and WiFi radiation, people’s attention span has drastically been decreased. When people want something, they want it yesterday. They can’t wait, they can’t allow processes to happen, things to grow and look forward to receiving a gift on Christmas instead of today. 

A recent experience with one of my clients has demonstrated this so extremely well that it made me cry for a day. 

Let’s call her Martha. Martha has been doing very well with my system. She showed up every day and went through the daily action steps. And because she was so disciplined, she had great weight loss success immediately. Because she was so happy with my program, she decided to become my affiliate partner – partly because she wanted to finance her attendance in one of my programs and also because she wanted some additional income.

Because she was a new affiliate partner I invited her to a free four week affiliate training program where we are meeting four Saturdays for 90 minutes on Zoom. The purpose of that training is to give my partners a great start and fast income, because especially now where so many people in the USA earn less due to the Covid crisis, many people have to earn a side income pretty soon. 

Now, if you guessed that like losing weight, earning money as an affiliate might take some time, you are right. 

Martha was on the first Saturday call, missed the second one and joined us for the third call. That was before we had even started with the promotion. Monday morning I went online and just wanted to send her the good message that I will get some media appearances in her state to help her earn money faster, when I saw her message. In that message she let me know that she could not commit to more Saturday trainings (four in total) and that therefore she would not want to work as an affiliate. 

Did you ever hear about a new job which does not involv any learning? 

That woman was just one inch away from the success she wanted, and she quit because of her impatience. Over time I have come to know her quite well, and she is the kind of person who does something in a rush and then changes her mind. And I also know that my method is the only chance for her because she already had a gastric surgery and gone through pretty much all diets that exist (according to her own words). 

According to her own words she is a quitter. She would begin something and then quickly give that up and turn to something else. This is the behavior of people who are never successful…neither regarding weight loss nor in live generally. 

I see similar situations regarding weight loss so many times. When I work with people in group or one-on-one coaching sessions I see who is shortly before a major breakthrough. And so often women give up right before such a breakthrough moment just because of their impatience.

They can’t wait. They can’t allow a process to happen. And they will never know how close they had come to their goal. 

Then they go on the next fad diet, take expensive weight loss products or get a gastric surgery done which create tremendous health problems and make matters worse in any regard. And at the end they gain that quickly lost weight back because it was not a sustainable method. Yes, they did have quick success…but at what cost? 

All processes and goals require time. We can’t force things into manifestation…we can work them into manifestation. All things have their own timing, be it weight loss or becoming financially free. 

As a surfer you can’t controle the wave – you can only ride it. 

If you want to lose weight for good, you better develop the habit of being patient, otherwise you will find yourself at the end of your life, frustrated, broke, ill and still overweight, blaming anything and anyone else but yourself. Losing weight for good is very much about letting go: letting go of the causes as well as of the extra fat. By being impatient you constantly disturb and stop the process you have started. Then you have to start all over again and you will never achieve enough momentum to achieve your desired goal. And this is really sad. 

Here is what the typical diet process looks like: 

People go on a diet and then stop. After a while they jump on the next bandwaggon, and when they realize that they don’t achieve their goal as they wished, so they stop again. That way they go from diet to diet and program to program, spending thousands of dollars and at the end they find themselves at the old starting point again, and at some point they simply give up. Nobody has enough willpower and energy for constantly losing and failing over a longer period of time. So dieters are literally forced to give up after a while. 

Because of the nature of the dieting approach, people are FORCED to stop the process after some time, otherwise they would get too much deprived of vital substances and become severally ill. So their weight loss process is a constant stop and go and stop and go without gaining any momentum. But momentum is crucially important for any goal achievement process. That’s why patience is so important.

Without patience…no momentum. Without momentum…no goal achievement. 

Therefore, patience is a necessary, indispensable part of your weight loss success. 

“Patience is a necessary, indispensable part of your weight loss success.” 

Would you ever open a petal so that the flower would bloom sooner? Would you break an egg just because you wanted to see that chicken be born sooner? Would you ever cut the cocoon of a butterfly just to let it fly before its time would have come to spread the wings? 

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Nobody who is reading this article would ever be that stupid. But why can so many women not come up with the same common sense when it comes to their weight loss? 

Please keep in mind that you did not gain that extra fat within a few weeks or months. So why on earth can anybody expect to lose it that quickly? Our body is not a machine…it takes the body time to shift all the functions and make the necessary changes so that it can burn off the extra fat for you.

For your body, there is a lot of “underground” and foundational work required before you can see the results on your scale. Expecting the body to do its job much faster than it really can according to its own nature is simply not fair, it’s not realistic and it’s not sensible at all. 

Here is a simple test whether you are on a fad or on a real cause-transformation weight loss program. If you are new to my system, fads lead to fast weight loss at the beginning but the results are not maintainable; the only maintainable method is to transform or eliminate the root causes so that your body doesn’t have the need to hang on to its extra fat anymore. In other words, you change the problem at the foundation, at its roots and the problem changes itself.

Here is the test: 

If you lose weight immediately and if the weight loss gets slower and harder over time, you’re on a fad and doing something that is against your body’s nature. If it takes a while for the weight loss to show on the scale and weight loss slowly increases more and faster over time, then you’re on a cause transformation program. The first one leads to yo-yo dieting and the latter to lasting results. 

Sheeps running off a cliff (www.freethoughtblogs.com)

The problem is that impatient people are constantly demanding and screaming for the next fad diet. They want immediate results. Of course they then complain for years after the diet failed. But sure enough, as soon as the next “new” diet will be advertised, they jump on that bandwaggon like headless sheeps following one another running off a cliff. 

The lasting, maintainable approach of eliminating and transforming the root causes first is only for the smart, educated and patient kind of women. Unfortunately, many of these women have already gone through so many diets and programs that they have lost faith in their body’s capability to burn off fat. The only way for these women to achieve their desired weight goal is by cultivating patience

Cultivating patience is one of the first things for a successful weight loss process.

Happy slimming!

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How To Rewire Your Brain For Lasting Weight Loss

How To Rewire Your Brain For Lasting Weight Loss

Did it ever happen to you that you started a new diet, totally fired up and motivated. Then a few days into the diet you suddenly realize that you are eating your favorite chips, chocolate or pasta without even realizing? Or maybe you found some “good reason” not to exercise?

As soon as you are trying to change your habits, your subconscious mind will do literally everything to bring you back to your old habits.

Habits are thе brаin’ѕ wау оf engagement so thаt wе dоn’t hаvе tо соnѕсiоuѕlу process аll thе overwhelming ԛuаntitу of infоrmаtiоn it iѕ receiving. Wе live in thе so-called information аgе but our brain keeps doing what it always hаѕ dоnе; dealing with thе constant flоw оf ѕtimuli it gеtѕ whеn we are awake. This hаѕ bееn a full-time job fоr our brain since we wеrе соnсеivеd, and it’s doing that job literally 24/7…365 days year after year. In order to avoid overwhelm and constant nervous breakdowns because of the overload of information, the brain picks out things we do regularly and labels them as “habit”.

Sоmе оf these habits are simply about kеерing our body funсtiоning рrореrlу but a lоt оf habits have to dо with the way wе do things, move, behave, react to people, situations and circumstances; the way we think and perceive our environment. Unlеѕѕ we livе in a ѕоlitаrу wоrld with no intеrасtiоn with thе rеѕt оf thе wоrld оr thе people thеrеin, wе will аlwауѕ bе соnfrоntеd with ѕituаtiоnѕ where wе must mаkе сhоiсеѕ, and these choices often happen within a split second by bypassing our conscious mind. Sоmе are simple, ѕоmе are more соmрlеx like whаt tо еаt оr what not tо еаt, when to exercise and when to relax. Many оf them require nо thought though since our brain is already pre-programmed tо асt in a helpful wау in our body’s terms. We hаvе done something wеll or inappropriately in thе past and our brain hаѕ received fееdbасk (it wеnt wеll, do thаt аgаin; аltеrnаtivеlу thаt wаѕ rubbish, do ѕоmеthing differently). Cоnѕеԛuеntlу the unconscious part of our brain iѕ full of wауѕ of dеаling with situations that wе thоughtlеѕѕlу еmрlоу to make our lives easier.

Hаbit iѕ a learned behavioral response that has bесоmе associated with a раrtiсulаr ѕituаtiоn, еѕресiаllу оnе frеԛuеntlу rереаtеd. This can be things like…

  • what we eat, how we eat, when we eat
  • whether or not we exercise, what kind of exercise, when and how
  • the way we are thinking about ourselves, about food and life in general
  • the way we respond to others, situations and circumstances
  • our sleeping habits
  • how we deal with stress
  • our emotional reactions

Unfortunately, our brain does not distinguish between helpful habits and habits that are negative. When we repeat a certain behavior often enough, our brain turns it into a habit and such a behavior literally gets on autopilot.

It’s no secret, wе do have a severe weight and оbеѕitу problem in the Western world. I dоn’t think thаt wе hаvе a weight loss problem per se…it’s not “losing” extra weight which is the problem. I rather think thаt we have a hаbit problem thаt rеԛuirеѕ uѕ tо dеvеlор mоrе bеnеfiting hаbitѕ that help us make the weight loss process easier, healthier, faster and maintainable.

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These are a few poor hаbitѕ thаt cause wеight gain:

Slеер deficiency

Wоrking ridiculously early оr wоrking late might ѕееm like good habits at first sight, but inѕuffiсiеnt rest can really wreak hаvос оn уоur weight. Both lасk оf ѕlеер and sleep арnеа, combined with nightmаrеѕ, restless nightѕ can change thе hоrmоnе levels in your body, mаking уоu more likely tо gаin wеight. Nоt оnlу that, but it might аlѕо mаkе уоu indulgе in unhealthy eating behaviors. Sоmе diеt ѕtudiеѕ indiсаtе thаt оnе extra hour of ѕlеер might hеlр уоu shed as much as 14 pounds a уеаr!

Cорing with Dерrеѕѕiоn and Low Moods

Whilѕt ѕоmе реорlе might lose thеir appetite whеn fасеd with сhаllеnging situations in their livеѕ, thе орроѕitе thing саn hарреn also. During a depression, many people tend to рау less attention tо thеir diеtаrу hаbitѕ аnd ѕuссumb to еmоtiоnаl еаting because eating certain foods mаkе us fееl bеttеr. We all dо it frоm timе to time when we are feeling low, but еmоtiоnаl еаting iѕ a habit mаnу реорlе аrеn’t aware of…it literally creeps uр оn thеm. Suddеnlу thе bit оf сhосоlаtе саkе оr сhосоlаtе éclair becomes a rеgulаr еаting bingе, leading tо ѕugаr spikes, gluсоѕе аnd inѕulin lеvеlѕ gоing haywire.

 

Mindless Eating

Anоthеr рооr wеight lоѕѕ hаbit iѕ whеn you ѕhоvеl the fооd in your mouth, maybe even without sitting down  inѕtеаd of taking уоur time for a meal. Such an eating habit leads to a lot more problems like stress, poor digestion, over-acidity, etc., all unnecessarily adding up to your weight.

Not Drinking Enough Water

An alarming bad habit is drinking soday pops and bottled juices which contain unbelievable amounts of toxins. Drinking is meant to assist your body in its cleansing and detoxification process. Instead, by drinking anything bottled you are literally adding to the toxic overload the body has alreay to take care of. Drinking pure water is the answer. It’s free and has many benefits that support your weight loss process.

 

These are a just a few of a long, long list of poor habits that lead to weight gain and/or that prevent people from losing extra weight for good.

Habits are such strong components which sabotage our most serious weight loss attempts and can bypass even the strongest motivation, willpower and discipline. There is nothing that destroys hopes, wishes, goals and New Year’s resolutions more and more dramatically than habit. In my Facebook group I can see it EVERY day how people are falling back into their old, poor habits. That’s why a group of like-minded people is very helpful.

You just can’t conquer habit with willpower. The only way to optimally dealing with habit is by understanding the way our subconscious mind works and using it’s own way of forming new habits. By the way, strong willpower is a habit as well. Your ways of aproaching weight loss, your ways of pursuing a goal, your mindset, your motivation (or the lack of it), these are all habits as well and can – need to – be trained.

As you may understand by now is that no matter what you, your poor habits will always get in your way and this is not your fault…it’s how your brain has been wired. And as you may also understand by now is that there is absolutely no sense whatsoever in starting a new weight loss program BEFORE transforming your poor, fattening habits first. Your habits will always set you back to your current status quo….no matter what!

I said that it’s not your fault because your brain is made to work that way and it’s true. Of course you are still responsible because you started these poor habits some day and repeated them long and often enough to form them. Now it’s your responsibility to form new, helpful, slimming habits that give you a real chance to make your next weight loss attempt last. Once your habits will be transformed, weight loss becomes much, much easier and sometimes even effortless.

In my SheSlimEasy 90-Day Habit Transformation program we work on one tiny habit every day over the course of 90 days. This gives you the chance to make small shifts on a daily basis and long enough to rewire your brain for all habits that lead to lasting weight loss.

Happy Slimming!

P.S. More information on how to form new habit will be published in my next blog post. 

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The Weight Loss Lesson I’ve Learned From Flies At The Window

The Weight Loss Lesson I’ve Learned From Flies At The Window

There are people and even animals that can teach us  important life lessons. Some teach us how to do something and others teach us how NOT to do it. Today, I realized that especially flies can teach us how NOT to go about a goal.

Here in Switzerland, when you live in the country near a farm, you always have flies in the home. So do I.

For the thousandth time I was nerved about the flies at the window when I got up this morning and before doing anything else I first I opened the window to release them. Of course, as usual, nothing happened. They had absolutely no inclanation to leave my bath. The flies kept sticking to the glass not realizing that freedom was just a few inches away. Instead, they were stubbornly sticking to the glass, and even when I tried to help them crawl or fly over the window frame towards freedom, they would do everything to stay on the glass. Some even found their way out and instantly came back.

Flies constantly buzz around on the glass just moving millimeters trying to miraculously move through the glass to freedom, and this goes on for days. Sometimes they fly up and then fly very quickly toward the glass in an attempt to break through it. They just never seem to get tired from trying. Of course they are attracted by the light that is on the other side. But they don’t realize that there is no direct way through the glass. All they would have to do is crawling or flying around the window frame and they would be free. But no, even when you help them, they refuse to take that little hurdle around the window frame and then be free.

While I was patiently helping one flie after the other to reach the other side, it suddenly dawned on me that we humans are ofthen like a fly at the window. We see something we want and then we try to get that on the most direct way we can see. Depending on how  much we want something, we try and try and try again. And interestingly, we often try the very same way over and over even though it didn’t work the first time just like the flies.

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” –Albert Einstein

Sadly, this behaviour is not being practiced more often and more frantically than by people who want to lose weight. They try one diet after the other, they join exercise groups and sweat their butts off at the gym without getting really great results, especially women. Then they gain their weight back and after a while they try another diet or regimen. Remember the flies at the window that are just moving millimeters trying to find a way out. Going from one diet to the next is the same approach….millimeters or inches away from what they did before. And when they’re too exhausted from “buzzing” around, they try another short cut – gastric surgeries, for instance – not realizing that this is a dead end with no more way out and that they will be trapped in their forever. Like the fly that refuses to flie a little bit higher to move beyond the window frame they eventually starve to death.

Flies don’t realize that it would just take a short “detour” of a few inches or just a little bit more effort to move beyond the window frame and they would be free what would at the end turn out to be the faster way. Humans are so brainwashed regarding the dieting/exercise approach of losing weight that they don’t realize that simply leaving the dieting path and moving around the obstacle would bring them the desired results. Something that looks like a detour at first sight very quickly turns out to be the fastest way to reach their desired goal. Instead they are like kids standing in front of a shop-window squashing their nose against the window and starring at something they want.

Years ago I had a problem with my teeth no dentist could nor would fix, and the alternatives they offered me were not acceptable to me. One day I talked to a friend about my dilemma and I said, “There is just no solution for my problem.” Then she said something very simple that immediately shifted my mindset. She said, “But what if there is a solution and you just can’t see it? What if…?”

Henceforward my friend’s “What if…?” stuck with me, and each time I felt discouraged I thought, “What if there is a solution I don’t know yet?” One day I received an unsolicited email which described my problem word by word in their headline. Usually I move these emails to my spam folder immediately, but then something stopped my hand with the mouse and I started reading. On their website they explained exactly my problem and shared how they solve the issue (and no, I never discussed this dilemma with anybody by email so that Google could send me the right ads). It was about a method of a group of European dentists who are practicing in Bulgaria no dentist in my own country knew about or was brave enough to try.

My first reaction was, “Bulgaria? An ex-communist developing country!?” I was prejudiced.

Fortunately, my prejudice did not stop me from at least find out more about. Since I had the “What if…?” mantra in my mind I called them just to hear whether or not they thought they could help me. I told them my story and they sayd, “Yes, no problem, we do that kind of work every day.” Then I asked for their price and it turned out to be a third of the work my Swiss dentist offered me for a solution that was not acceptable. After that phone call and after reading some of their testimonials I felt deep in my heart that this was the answer. But then there was another obstacle: I couldn’t afford the flight and the hotel. So I kept that goal in my mind and heart constantly saying, “I found the answer for the right dentist. So what if there is an answer for those obstacles as well?”

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I talked about that possibility with another friend and she said, “I need help with my business. You can work for me and I will pay for your flight.” So the ticket was covered, but what about the hotel (their patients stay in a hotel for an entire week to have enough time to do a good quality job)? That was still beyond my budget. I kept practicing an open mind and said, “What if there is a solution for the hotel as well?” A few days later I received an email from that clinic in Bulgaria telling me that they added my name to a draw and that I had won a week in a hotel near their clinic for the next month. So I called the clinic and made an appointment, booked the flight and the hotel. Two weeks later I was in Bulgaria in a nice little hotel overlooking the Black Ocean and near the most modern dental clinic I had ever seen.

Had I allowed my prejudice to win, I would have missed one of the greatest opportunities. It turned out that just like the Swiss are the best teachers and watch makers, the Austrians are the best confectioners and the Dutch are the best physical therapists, the Bulgarians are the best dentists. Before I went there, I had no idea that they have patients from all around the world, even from Japan.

At the end this turned out to be the perfect solution for me and far better than I had ever dreamed. And all that was only possible because I opened up to solutions that were not apparent to me before and that were far beyond my imagination…just because I remained open and kept asking myself, What if there is a solution?”

Was it a detour? Only at the first sight. At the end it turned out to be much faster than any other solution I knew, and despite of the flight still less than half the price I would have had to pay in Switzerland for a solution that was not acceptable, and way better and more reliable than anything else. That “detour” turned out to be the fastest way possible to my desired goal. On top of that it was a wonderful experience to fly over the Carpatian Mountains and to have a one-week vacation with a view of the Black Ocean.

Most of the time the way to our desired goals is not a straight path, and the straight path often turns out to be a dead end road. Goal achievement often goes in turns and turnoffs.

When you are on the WRONG path, you can run as fast as you want; you can be as disciplined and frantic as you can; you can be totally determined to achieve your goal but you will still NEVER arrive because it’s the wrong road. On the other hand, if you are on the RIGHT road toward your goal, you can walk as slowly as you want, you can take baby steps, you can even crawl and still achieve your destination. Depending on how fast you move forward it will take longer or faster to reach your goal, but it is certain that you will reach it one day because you are on the right road. On the other hand, when you’re on the WRONG route you will just never get there, no matter what.

For the flies at the window buzzing around and sticking to the glass was such a wrong path with no way out. Flies do that because they have a tiny brain and they can’t think.

For me trying to find a dentist in Switzerland who could do what I needed was the wrong path. Flying to Bulgaria – something I would never have dreamed of in my wildest dreams – turned out to be the fastest route to my desired goal.

Too many overweight women are falling for the SHINY OBJECT that promises them how quickly they can lose their weight. They look at all the nice before/after images and are instantly hooked, although they have no idea whether the other woman on that picture could keep her weight off or not. All they see is an image of a single moment – one second in another woman’s life – and pull out their credit card. They are suffering from the shiny object syndrome. In 99% of the time they are on the WRONG route that has no end.

The question now is, are you a fly at the window that is frantically trying to get to the other side of the glass?

Are you prejudiced because I’m not from the USA and because there is no hype on my website?

Are you falling for shiny objects?

Are you on the wrong path that turns out to be a dead end?

Or can you finally open up your mind and ask yourself, “What if there is another, faster, better and healthier solution I just never took into consideration?”

“What IF…?” 

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Why you need to be slim as a business owner, network marketer, freelancer or high executive

Why you need to be slim as a business owner, network marketer, freelancer or high executive

In a country like the USA for instance, where over 70% of the population is overweight and over 50% are obese, it’s easier to be in denial regarding one’s own weight. After all, 80% of the rest of the people are overweight as well, so what!

I have recently had many contacts with obese women in the USA and most of them are self-employed, network marketers or business owners. When I asked them if they knew people who want or need to lose weight they said, “No, I don’t know anybody.” Many of them even said, “I don’t need to lose weight,” although you could see from their pictures that they are morbidly obese.

This puzzled me, to say the least. How can people be so much in denial? Is it because 80% of the population is overweight as well? Does that make being overweight the new “normal”?

Like I said, most of these women are freelancers, network marketers or self-employed and you can see from their facebook profiles that they are working really hard to earn some money. But there is one thing they all forget.

There is a universal truth that says, “You first have to BE before you can HAVE.”

This truth is especially important to understand for business women. We can’t really succeed well with the same business behaviors men have. We can’t duplicate what men do. We can’t (or shouldn’t) work harder than men do just to get the raise. Real success is based on genuineness, authenticity and integrity. And by copying what men do we are none of these.

And there is something else business men differs from women: they can be fat and ugly and still be successful. The only reason is because they feel more sure about themselves. I know it’s not fair, but this is how the world is right now. It’s going to change, but for now we better do what’s necessary in order to be successful in business, and that begins with the BEing.

As an overweight woman you are – hopefully – totally accepted and respected by your family and your friends, and that gives you the feeling of being okay. Although, deep within you probably know that being overweight or obese is not really good for you.

The problem is that people outside of your closest circle think differently. They may not tell you and they may still treat you friendly, but deep within they are prejudiced. Right or wrong, people do judge others by the way they look, especially in business (unless you sell XXXL cloths and weight loss programs).

And it gets much worse.

According to a German study, this is what slim people think and say about overweight people:

  • “They are stupid.”
  • “They are undisciplined.”
  • “They are lazy.”
  • “They are ignorant.”
  • “They are hoggish.”
  • “They are weak-willed.”
  • “They smell badly.”
  • “They are unattractive.”
  • “They’re fat because it’s their own fault.”

Now what do you do when you are negotiating with a slim person who has that subconscious attitude about overweight people? Do you really think that person would buy your product or service? Maybe, but very unlikely. 

What about overweight clients? Wouldn’t you expect them to be more understanding and tolerant?

On the outside, yes. But when it comes to business, no way! Why not? Because deep within they have the believe that they are failing and that being overweight or obese is their fault. And consequently they feel the same about you. 

Just keep this in mind.

As a business owner, freelancer, network marketer or affiliate marketer you help others achieve goals and get what THEY want. But when you are overweight, your customers’ subconscious mind tells them that you are not capable of achieving goals and that therefore you can’t really help them get what THEY want. All this goes on on a subconscious level, no matter how tolerant and understanding they may otherwise be.

No matter what you sell – be it jewelry, supplements, coaching or real estate – you are in a less favorite situation as long as you are overweight or obese. If you want to become wildly successful, you have to DEMONSTRATE that you are not only an expert in your field but that you can also achieve your own goals and that you can also help your clients to get what they want.

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I’m pretty sure that you have tried several diets and more and nothing really worked for you long term. I believe you when you’re telling me that you are a discplined person. I totally believe that you are great in your job.

But you know what? It doesn’t matter what I believe. It doesn’t even matter why you believe. For your success, all that matters is what your clients believe.

Am I trying to encourage you to start another diet and to go through all that hastle again?

God forbid.

Thank goodness there is a far better, easier and faster solution: the 4-Pillar Method.

Right now you have two options. You can download my FREE Report “4 Pillars of Lasting Weight Loss For Women” and begin to get a better understanding of the nature of lasting weight loss. Then I recommend to go to my FREE Facebook group with the same name. Both will get you started for free.

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If you want to learn a process that leads you to constant weight loss success by baby stepping, check out my Facebook group. 

You can get a feeling for the 4 Pillars of Weight Loss process for free. Simply join my closed Facebook group where you can go through the process by taking tiny daily baby steps completely stress free and still make tremendous progress. 

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One MAGIC Ingredient of Your Perfect Weight Loss Strategy & The Perfect Formula

One MAGIC Ingredient of Your Perfect Weight Loss Strategy & The Perfect Formula

Recently I told an aquaintant that I have lost 16 pounds in one month. Her first question was, “Which diet did you do?” Of course, as my follower, you know that I don’t do diets. 

Are you one of those women who are still hoping for a miracle pill to be invented or the perfect weight loss diet to be created before you’ll die?

Then this might be good news for you.

There is something that really works like magic for lasting weight loss. It makes the weight loss process much easier, faster, more enjoyable, more reliable and almost effortless.

Although there is no magic pill and never will be (no matter what they are going to invent in the future) and there will never be a perfect weight loss diet that works for all and without fail plus for good, there IS a way that brings results that can be described as “magical”.

BUT….

You can’t find that “magic bullet” outside of yourself.

In fact, it’s much easier and simpler…and it doesn’t cost you a single penny.

Are you curious what that “magic bullet” is?

It’s something so great and wonderful that I find it hard to find the right words for it.

It’s called MOMENTUM.

If you can’t see the magic behind that word, don’t worry. You’re not alone. It took me years to understand the fantastic POWER of momentum.

Momentum is what provides the wind under your wings. You can also call it snowball effect.

Momentum is a build up of energy that leads to one single point or outcome. It’s behind what business people know as exponentiel effect.

 

This graphic shows linear progress. This is what you can expect from the diet approach at the beginning. But after a while the body slows the fat burning process down and then – if you stick with it long enough – it begins to stop completely. This is what I also call the two-dimensional weight loss tactic and this is what you can expect from a single tactic like dieting.

On the other hand, the exponential progress curve shows little effect at the beginning and then suddenly begins to double and triple quickly. This is the kind of curve that happens when you have momentum. In business the exponential success is preferred from linear success, which is not reliable anyway and hardly brings the real big successes and breakthroughs.

Translated to your weight loss process this would mean that you start with small, daily steps, and from day to day you are building a momentum without taking drastic actions. At the beginning you may not see much progress, but as the momentum grows, the weight loss goes faster and faster.

This also requires that you are not only settling for a single tactic but create your own, personalized weight loss strategy. Working on all levels of your self can then create such an exponential success line throgh momentum.

Taking daily small steps never feels daunting or stressful. But don’t you ever underestimate small daily action steps.

For fast and reliable weight loss success it’s important to gain momentum and momentum can only be built by taking daily actions. 

What is momentum?

This is Britannica’s definition of momentum.

Momentum, product of the mass of a particle and its velocity. Momentum is a vector quantity; i.e., it has both magnitude and direction. Isaac Newton’s second law of motion states that the time rate of change of momentum is equal to the force acting on the particle. See Newton’s laws of motion.”

“From Newton’s second law it follows that, if a constant force acts on a particle for a given time, the product of force and the time interval (the impulse) is equal to the change in the momentum. Conversely, the momentum of a particle is a measure of the time required for a constant force to bring it to rest.“ 

What we can say from that definition is that momentum only happens with motion. The more or faster the motion, the faster momentum will increase. 

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The Power of Momentum

Momentum is very powerful in reaching our highest goals. Wherever there is motion, there is momentum.

The thing to get momentum going is to START. And then, right after the start, the second, third, forth, etc. step has to follow. If you don’t start, your weight loss process, for example, nothing will happen because motion drives actions and actions drive momentum. That means, the more motion you have at the beginning and the more regular that motion happens, the higher the momentum.

As you go through the actions, more and more motion is generated and each of your action steps will get easier. Goals that seemed too impossible to reach, suddenly become more realistic, even easy to reach. 

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How to use momentum to your advantage

First set a realistic goal. Be very clear and specific. The more specific your goal is the better.

For example, if you decide to go for a 30 minute walk or go jogging every day, it will get easier from day to day. And after a while you will not even have to think about. No matter the wheather, you will put on your jogging shoes and your jacket and you go for a walk or a jog. It doesn’t even cost you any energy anymore. 

And as you gain momentum with your exercise routine, you begin to set other goals that support your weight loss, do these steps every day without fail and you will gain a tremendous momentum including several tactics that makes you unstoppable. 

The downside is that when you stop taking these regular action steps, you will quickly lose your momentum and things will become hard and rocky. You will have to force yourself to go out for a walk and also other action steps will get harder. 

The trick is to show up every day at the same time and plan your life around that event. Because, once you have gained momentum, you don’t want to lose it because now you know how much greater and easier it is with momentum. 

To make it easier for you, I have created a Facebook page with daily tiny baby steps that build up on momentum. Each step takes between 5 and 15 minutes. And if you follow these steps every day at the same time, soon your momentum will begin to snow ball and you will experience what one of my members is experience.

Today I talked to one of my members of that group. She joined the group three weeks ago and she jumped both feet in. For the first two weeks not much happened other than a few important insights and an inner shift. Today she told me at the phone that she has lost four pounds within the last five dayse without dieting. On Thanksgiving day she even ate a piece of pumpkin pie without remorse and enjoyed it very much. 

All this could only happen because she took action every single day. 

Believe me, when you can lose weight by building a strong momentum, your weight loss process is going to be real FUN!

You can check out my group here: 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/4pillarsoflastingweightloss

Recently one of my members of my Facebook group left the group because she thought that the daily 5 to 10 minutes was more time than she could spend. The comment of another members was, “When she doesn’t even have 5 to 10 minutes time for her weight loss process per day, then she really, really, really needs you.”

Of course, she is completely right. But this is something every person must have to find out for herself to make it work. As long as an overweight woman believes that she doesn’t have five to fifteen minutes time per day for her weight loss process, she is simply not ready to achieve her goal, or worse, she is even in total denial. 

Daily action is the way to gain momentum. And momentum is the most important requirement for weight loss success, provided that you choose the right method. Of course, by now you understand that gaining momentum with a wrong tactic like dieting will not get you the desired results either. It requires the right method PLUS momentum.

This is the formula to your weight loss success:

S (Strategy) + M (Momentum) = Weight Loss Success

How about you? Do you  think you and your health are worth to take action for 5 to 15 minutes per day? 

Start gaining momentum today and you will never look back! 

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Are your health and weight loss goal worth five to fifteen minutes of your time every day?

If you want to learn a process that leads you to constant weight loss success by baby stepping, check out my Facebook group. 

You can get a feeling for the 4 Pillars of Weight Loss process for free. Simply join my closed Facebook group where you can go through the process by taking tiny daily baby steps completely stress free and still make tremendous progress. 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/4pillarsoflastingweightloss