How Impatience Can Completely Spoil Your Weight Loss Process

How Impatience Can Completely Spoil Your Weight Loss Process

We are living in a time where everything has to happen on the push of a button. Because of cell phones and WiFi radiation, people’s attention span has drastically been decreased. When people want something, they want it yesterday. They can’t wait, they can’t allow processes to happen, things to grow and look forward to receiving a gift on Christmas instead of today. 

A recent experience with one of my clients has demonstrated this so extremely well that it made me cry for a day. 

Let’s call her Martha. Martha has been doing very well with my system. She showed up every day and went through the daily action steps. And because she was so disciplined, she had great weight loss success immediately. Because she was so happy with my program, she decided to become my affiliate partner – partly because she wanted to finance her attendance in one of my programs and also because she wanted some additional income.

Because she was a new affiliate partner I invited her to a free four week affiliate training program where we are meeting four Saturdays for 90 minutes on Zoom. The purpose of that training is to give my partners a great start and fast income, because especially now where so many people in the USA earn less due to the Covid crisis, many people have to earn a side income pretty soon. 

Now, if you guessed that like losing weight, earning money as an affiliate might take some time, you are right. 

Martha was on the first Saturday call, missed the second one and joined us for the third call. That was before we had even started with the promotion. Monday morning I went online and just wanted to send her the good message that I will get some media appearances in her state to help her earn money faster, when I saw her message. In that message she let me know that she could not commit to more Saturday trainings (four in total) and that therefore she would not want to work as an affiliate. 

Did you ever hear about a new job which does not involv any learning? 

That woman was just one inch away from the success she wanted, and she quit because of her impatience. Over time I have come to know her quite well, and she is the kind of person who does something in a rush and then changes her mind. And I also know that my method is the only chance for her because she already had a gastric surgery and gone through pretty much all diets that exist (according to her own words). 

According to her own words she is a quitter. She would begin something and then quickly give that up and turn to something else. This is the behavior of people who are never successful…neither regarding weight loss nor in live generally. 

I see similar situations regarding weight loss so many times. When I work with people in group or one-on-one coaching sessions I see who is shortly before a major breakthrough. And so often women give up right before such a breakthrough moment just because of their impatience.

They can’t wait. They can’t allow a process to happen. And they will never know how close they had come to their goal. 

Then they go on the next fad diet, take expensive weight loss products or get a gastric surgery done which create tremendous health problems and make matters worse in any regard. And at the end they gain that quickly lost weight back because it was not a sustainable method. Yes, they did have quick success…but at what cost? 

All processes and goals require time. We can’t force things into manifestation…we can work them into manifestation. All things have their own timing, be it weight loss or becoming financially free. 

As a surfer you can’t controle the wave – you can only ride it. 

If you want to lose weight for good, you better develop the habit of being patient, otherwise you will find yourself at the end of your life, frustrated, broke, ill and still overweight, blaming anything and anyone else but yourself. Losing weight for good is very much about letting go: letting go of the causes as well as of the extra fat. By being impatient you constantly disturb and stop the process you have started. Then you have to start all over again and you will never achieve enough momentum to achieve your desired goal. And this is really sad. 

Here is what the typical diet process looks like: 

People go on a diet and then stop. After a while they jump on the next bandwaggon, and when they realize that they don’t achieve their goal as they wished, so they stop again. That way they go from diet to diet and program to program, spending thousands of dollars and at the end they find themselves at the old starting point again, and at some point they simply give up. Nobody has enough willpower and energy for constantly losing and failing over a longer period of time. So dieters are literally forced to give up after a while. 

Because of the nature of the dieting approach, people are FORCED to stop the process after some time, otherwise they would get too much deprived of vital substances and become severally ill. So their weight loss process is a constant stop and go and stop and go without gaining any momentum. But momentum is crucially important for any goal achievement process. That’s why patience is so important.

Without patience…no momentum. Without momentum…no goal achievement. 

Therefore, patience is a necessary, indispensable part of your weight loss success. 

“Patience is a necessary, indispensable part of your weight loss success.” 

Would you ever open a petal so that the flower would bloom sooner? Would you break an egg just because you wanted to see that chicken be born sooner? Would you ever cut the cocoon of a butterfly just to let it fly before its time would have come to spread the wings? 

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Nobody who is reading this article would ever be that stupid. But why can so many women not come up with the same common sense when it comes to their weight loss? 

Please keep in mind that you did not gain that extra fat within a few weeks or months. So why on earth can anybody expect to lose it that quickly? Our body is not a machine…it takes the body time to shift all the functions and make the necessary changes so that it can burn off the extra fat for you.

For your body, there is a lot of “underground” and foundational work required before you can see the results on your scale. Expecting the body to do its job much faster than it really can according to its own nature is simply not fair, it’s not realistic and it’s not sensible at all. 

Here is a simple test whether you are on a fad or on a real cause-transformation weight loss program. If you are new to my system, fads lead to fast weight loss at the beginning but the results are not maintainable; the only maintainable method is to transform or eliminate the root causes so that your body doesn’t have the need to hang on to its extra fat anymore. In other words, you change the problem at the foundation, at its roots and the problem changes itself.

Here is the test: 

If you lose weight immediately and if the weight loss gets slower and harder over time, you’re on a fad and doing something that is against your body’s nature. If it takes a while for the weight loss to show on the scale and weight loss slowly increases more and faster over time, then you’re on a cause transformation program. The first one leads to yo-yo dieting and the latter to lasting results. 

Sheeps running off a cliff (www.freethoughtblogs.com)

The problem is that impatient people are constantly demanding and screaming for the next fad diet. They want immediate results. Of course they then complain for years after the diet failed. But sure enough, as soon as the next “new” diet will be advertised, they jump on that bandwaggon like headless sheeps following one another running off a cliff. 

The lasting, maintainable approach of eliminating and transforming the root causes first is only for the smart, educated and patient kind of women. Unfortunately, many of these women have already gone through so many diets and programs that they have lost faith in their body’s capability to burn off fat. The only way for these women to achieve their desired weight goal is by cultivating patience

Cultivating patience is one of the first things for a successful weight loss process.

Happy slimming!

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How To Rewire Your Brain For Lasting Weight Loss

How To Rewire Your Brain For Lasting Weight Loss

Did it ever happen to you that you started a new diet, totally fired up and motivated. Then a few days into the diet you suddenly realize that you are eating your favorite chips, chocolate or pasta without even realizing? Or maybe you found some “good reason” not to exercise?

As soon as you are trying to change your habits, your subconscious mind will do literally everything to bring you back to your old habits.

Habits are thе brаin’ѕ wау оf engagement so thаt wе dоn’t hаvе tо соnѕсiоuѕlу process аll thе overwhelming ԛuаntitу of infоrmаtiоn it iѕ receiving. Wе live in thе so-called information аgе but our brain keeps doing what it always hаѕ dоnе; dealing with thе constant flоw оf ѕtimuli it gеtѕ whеn we are awake. This hаѕ bееn a full-time job fоr our brain since we wеrе соnсеivеd, and it’s doing that job literally 24/7…365 days year after year. In order to avoid overwhelm and constant nervous breakdowns because of the overload of information, the brain picks out things we do regularly and labels them as “habit”.

Sоmе оf these habits are simply about kеерing our body funсtiоning рrореrlу but a lоt оf habits have to dо with the way wе do things, move, behave, react to people, situations and circumstances; the way we think and perceive our environment. Unlеѕѕ we livе in a ѕоlitаrу wоrld with no intеrасtiоn with thе rеѕt оf thе wоrld оr thе people thеrеin, wе will аlwауѕ bе соnfrоntеd with ѕituаtiоnѕ where wе must mаkе сhоiсеѕ, and these choices often happen within a split second by bypassing our conscious mind. Sоmе are simple, ѕоmе are more соmрlеx like whаt tо еаt оr what not tо еаt, when to exercise and when to relax. Many оf them require nо thought though since our brain is already pre-programmed tо асt in a helpful wау in our body’s terms. We hаvе done something wеll or inappropriately in thе past and our brain hаѕ received fееdbасk (it wеnt wеll, do thаt аgаin; аltеrnаtivеlу thаt wаѕ rubbish, do ѕоmеthing differently). Cоnѕеԛuеntlу the unconscious part of our brain iѕ full of wауѕ of dеаling with situations that wе thоughtlеѕѕlу еmрlоу to make our lives easier.

Hаbit iѕ a learned behavioral response that has bесоmе associated with a раrtiсulаr ѕituаtiоn, еѕресiаllу оnе frеԛuеntlу rереаtеd. This can be things like…

  • what we eat, how we eat, when we eat
  • whether or not we exercise, what kind of exercise, when and how
  • the way we are thinking about ourselves, about food and life in general
  • the way we respond to others, situations and circumstances
  • our sleeping habits
  • how we deal with stress
  • our emotional reactions

Unfortunately, our brain does not distinguish between helpful habits and habits that are negative. When we repeat a certain behavior often enough, our brain turns it into a habit and such a behavior literally gets on autopilot.

It’s no secret, wе do have a severe weight and оbеѕitу problem in the Western world. I dоn’t think thаt wе hаvе a weight loss problem per se…it’s not “losing” extra weight which is the problem. I rather think thаt we have a hаbit problem thаt rеԛuirеѕ uѕ tо dеvеlор mоrе bеnеfiting hаbitѕ that help us make the weight loss process easier, healthier, faster and maintainable.

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These are a few poor hаbitѕ thаt cause wеight gain:

Slеер deficiency

Wоrking ridiculously early оr wоrking late might ѕееm like good habits at first sight, but inѕuffiсiеnt rest can really wreak hаvос оn уоur weight. Both lасk оf ѕlеер and sleep арnеа, combined with nightmаrеѕ, restless nightѕ can change thе hоrmоnе levels in your body, mаking уоu more likely tо gаin wеight. Nоt оnlу that, but it might аlѕо mаkе уоu indulgе in unhealthy eating behaviors. Sоmе diеt ѕtudiеѕ indiсаtе thаt оnе extra hour of ѕlеер might hеlр уоu shed as much as 14 pounds a уеаr!

Cорing with Dерrеѕѕiоn and Low Moods

Whilѕt ѕоmе реорlе might lose thеir appetite whеn fасеd with сhаllеnging situations in their livеѕ, thе орроѕitе thing саn hарреn also. During a depression, many people tend to рау less attention tо thеir diеtаrу hаbitѕ аnd ѕuссumb to еmоtiоnаl еаting because eating certain foods mаkе us fееl bеttеr. We all dо it frоm timе to time when we are feeling low, but еmоtiоnаl еаting iѕ a habit mаnу реорlе аrеn’t aware of…it literally creeps uр оn thеm. Suddеnlу thе bit оf сhосоlаtе саkе оr сhосоlаtе éclair becomes a rеgulаr еаting bingе, leading tо ѕugаr spikes, gluсоѕе аnd inѕulin lеvеlѕ gоing haywire.

 

Mindless Eating

Anоthеr рооr wеight lоѕѕ hаbit iѕ whеn you ѕhоvеl the fооd in your mouth, maybe even without sitting down  inѕtеаd of taking уоur time for a meal. Such an eating habit leads to a lot more problems like stress, poor digestion, over-acidity, etc., all unnecessarily adding up to your weight.

Not Drinking Enough Water

An alarming bad habit is drinking soday pops and bottled juices which contain unbelievable amounts of toxins. Drinking is meant to assist your body in its cleansing and detoxification process. Instead, by drinking anything bottled you are literally adding to the toxic overload the body has alreay to take care of. Drinking pure water is the answer. It’s free and has many benefits that support your weight loss process.

 

These are a just a few of a long, long list of poor habits that lead to weight gain and/or that prevent people from losing extra weight for good.

Habits are such strong components which sabotage our most serious weight loss attempts and can bypass even the strongest motivation, willpower and discipline. There is nothing that destroys hopes, wishes, goals and New Year’s resolutions more and more dramatically than habit. In my Facebook group I can see it EVERY day how people are falling back into their old, poor habits. That’s why a group of like-minded people is very helpful.

You just can’t conquer habit with willpower. The only way to optimally dealing with habit is by understanding the way our subconscious mind works and using it’s own way of forming new habits. By the way, strong willpower is a habit as well. Your ways of aproaching weight loss, your ways of pursuing a goal, your mindset, your motivation (or the lack of it), these are all habits as well and can – need to – be trained.

As you may understand by now is that no matter what you, your poor habits will always get in your way and this is not your fault…it’s how your brain has been wired. And as you may also understand by now is that there is absolutely no sense whatsoever in starting a new weight loss program BEFORE transforming your poor, fattening habits first. Your habits will always set you back to your current status quo….no matter what!

I said that it’s not your fault because your brain is made to work that way and it’s true. Of course you are still responsible because you started these poor habits some day and repeated them long and often enough to form them. Now it’s your responsibility to form new, helpful, slimming habits that give you a real chance to make your next weight loss attempt last. Once your habits will be transformed, weight loss becomes much, much easier and sometimes even effortless.

In my SheSlimEasy 90-Day Habit Transformation program we work on one tiny habit every day over the course of 90 days. This gives you the chance to make small shifts on a daily basis and long enough to rewire your brain for all habits that lead to lasting weight loss.

Happy Slimming!

P.S. More information on how to form new habit will be published in my next blog post. 

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30 Signs That You Are Saboting Your Weight Loss Process

30 Signs That You Are Saboting Your Weight Loss Process

When it comes to any change generally and to weight loss in particular, our subconscious can be very creative in avoiding such a change. Our subconscious wants to keep the status quo. Change is not welcome…habit is.

How many times have you decided not to eat your favorite sweet food for a month, and three days later you suddenly found yourself buying exactly that and then eating it?

How often did it feel like your steering wheel was automatically taking a detour to the next fast food restaurant?

How many times did you decide to exercise three to four times a week and then something came into your way? You thought, “Well, what does it matter. It’s just once.” But then something else came up, the weather wasn’t to your liking, your child looked like he might get a cold…and then there was the point where you realized that you haven’t been to the gym for two weeks and now you have lost all your motivation?

Don’t we all know such situations?

First of all, these are all signs that you are doing something wrong and got off track. 

Secondly, these are all signs that you are dominated by your poor habits.

And there is a third reason I’ll get back to in a minute. But first I have to take a short detour with this topic.

In 37 years of being a weight loss coach and by working with over 10,000 persons I have seen it a thousand times that especially women tend to self-sabotage their weight loss process. They start with great motivation and begin to lose weight. Then they tell you that they need a break, don’t have enough money, don’t have any time, or worse, they simply disappear without saying a word.

One of my current members recently had some great success simply by following the daily action steps in my free Facebook group. Then Christmas came, New Year came, now we are two weeks into the new year and she almost disappeared.

Shortly before Christmas we talked on the phone and I realized that she was very close to a major breakthrough in her weight loss progress. It seemed like she was just inches away from the next breakthrough. And then we didn’t hear from her for weeks.

So what happened?

The subconscious mind takes over and is trying everything in its power to set you right back to where you were before.

This is happening a million times every day and it’s happening even more now during the month of January.

People are so used to follow their likings that they don’t realize how they are sabotaging their own goals. They feel something inside they can’t name or allocate and instantly follow these emotions. It’s like being on the way to something good, then another thing comes your way that looks even more interesting you follow that like a dog follows a new smell. They don’t realize that someone else – a minor authority that should not be allowed to dominate their lives – is slightly and slowly taking the wheel into it’s hands and they are losing control. They have given up the wheel and are now on autopilot that can bring them literally anywhere but to their desired goal. 

This is the power of habit. And habits are a great way to move you away from what you really want. They are the easiest thing to use for self-sabotage. 

But how do you know whether you are sabotaging your own goals?

Here are 30 signs of self-sabotage:

  1. Not feeling alike.
  2. Feeling that you don’t have the time and that something else is more important.
  3. Something else caught your attention. 
  4. Stopping the goal achievement process alltogether.
  5. Using excuses (no money, no time, to hard, can’t, this is not for me, etc.).
  6. Being unreachable.
  7. Starting something new.
  8. Being afraid of becoming emotional.
  9. Avoiding to deal with your own circumstances.
  10. Overplanning.
  11. Lack of commitment.
  12. Using labels for your current situation, the program you’re currently in or for the coach or trainer.
  13. Labelling yourself (I’m this or that and hence this isn’t for me).
  14. Wondering if things might be going to well and easy and you might be disappointed at some point.
  15. Self-doubt.
  16. Unknown fear of the new situation you wanted in the first place.
  17. Feeling not to deserve this.
  18. Self-doubt (Can I do this? What if I’ll fail again?)
  19. I look fine the way I am. I don’t really need to lose weight.
  20. Becoming bored with the process.
  21. Feeling inadequate.
  22. Initiating conflicts.
  23. Being out of focus.
  24. Compare yourself with others.
  25. Questioning your purpose.
  26. Critisizing.
  27. Procrastination (I’ll do it later, I don’t have time right now or I need a break first).
  28. Resistance. 
  29. Perfectionism.
  30. Quitting.

Self-sabotage is a behavior or thought pattern that is holding you back and preventing you from achieving what you want and from doing what you have decided to do. There is nothing that has killed more dreams and goal achievement processes than self-sabotage.

And here is the big problem.

Most people begin to sabotage themselves shortly before a major breakthrough!

That means that they are on the right path but are afraid of their new self. When they stop the process and give in to their self destructive behavior, they stop a process that had the potential to be a success. Then, a few years down the road they realize that they once wanted to lose weight and still haven’t achieved their goal.

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That’s the moment when they have to go back to step number one and start all over again.

May this not be you!

May you have enough wisdom and self-reflection to understand when you are sabotaging your own weight loss goal.

May you have enough stamina to follow through with your weight loss process to the very end….no matter what, no matter how, and no matter how long it will take. Following through with the current process is still shorter than having to start all over again…of course, provided that you are on the right path. (Please also see article “http://www.angelabuhri.com/if-youre-struggling-with-losing-weight-youre-doing-something-wrong/”)

Following through with the current process is still shorter than quitting and then having to start all over again. 

May you love yourself enough to allow yourself to overcome all obstacles and stumbling blocks and follow through with your weight loss process to the very end and be wise enough to ask for help when needed. 

The first step of overcoming self-sabotaging behavior is by being AWARE of, by being honest in self-reflection. Vision yourself being slim. Ask for help. 

Then check back on your bigger WHY – the reason WHY you wanted to lose weight in the first place. At this point it may also help to go deeper with your WHY, away from your own person to a bigger purpose. 

Understand what’s going on subconsciously and forgive yourself. Maybe you are obese for a long time and your extra fat has been serving as kind of a protective shield around you; now you have no idea how you’re going to feel as a slim person and how to protect that new you. 

Be prepared. Everybody gets to a difficult point no matter the goal. No goal achievement process goes only smooth and linear. Understand that when there will be the time when you want to run away, hide, take a break or quit, that you might be just inches away from a major breakthrough. Especially during this month this will happen to millions of women. Some of them are really on the wrong route and need to make some shifts and others are already on the right path and don’t realize it.

Everybody needs help with their WHY and with overcoming their self-sabotaging pattern; you are not different from the rest of us. Be real to yourself and admit that you need help. In my Facebook group 4 Pillars of Lasting Weight Loss For Women you can get that kind of assistance from other members and from myself. Or you can hire me for a one-on-one coaching session which is always the fastest way to any goal. During these sessions we work very concentrated and focused on the TRANSFORMATION of habits and self-sabotage behavior. 

Just be smarter than your subconscious mind and use it to your advantage. 

Happy slimming!

 

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The Weight Loss Lesson I’ve Learned From Flies At The Window

The Weight Loss Lesson I’ve Learned From Flies At The Window

There are people and even animals that can teach us  important life lessons. Some teach us how to do something and others teach us how NOT to do it. Today, I realized that especially flies can teach us how NOT to go about a goal.

Here in Switzerland, when you live in the country near a farm, you always have flies in the home. So do I.

For the thousandth time I was nerved about the flies at the window when I got up this morning and before doing anything else I first I opened the window to release them. Of course, as usual, nothing happened. They had absolutely no inclanation to leave my bath. The flies kept sticking to the glass not realizing that freedom was just a few inches away. Instead, they were stubbornly sticking to the glass, and even when I tried to help them crawl or fly over the window frame towards freedom, they would do everything to stay on the glass. Some even found their way out and instantly came back.

Flies constantly buzz around on the glass just moving millimeters trying to miraculously move through the glass to freedom, and this goes on for days. Sometimes they fly up and then fly very quickly toward the glass in an attempt to break through it. They just never seem to get tired from trying. Of course they are attracted by the light that is on the other side. But they don’t realize that there is no direct way through the glass. All they would have to do is crawling or flying around the window frame and they would be free. But no, even when you help them, they refuse to take that little hurdle around the window frame and then be free.

While I was patiently helping one flie after the other to reach the other side, it suddenly dawned on me that we humans are ofthen like a fly at the window. We see something we want and then we try to get that on the most direct way we can see. Depending on how  much we want something, we try and try and try again. And interestingly, we often try the very same way over and over even though it didn’t work the first time just like the flies.

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” –Albert Einstein

Sadly, this behaviour is not being practiced more often and more frantically than by people who want to lose weight. They try one diet after the other, they join exercise groups and sweat their butts off at the gym without getting really great results, especially women. Then they gain their weight back and after a while they try another diet or regimen. Remember the flies at the window that are just moving millimeters trying to find a way out. Going from one diet to the next is the same approach….millimeters or inches away from what they did before. And when they’re too exhausted from “buzzing” around, they try another short cut – gastric surgeries, for instance – not realizing that this is a dead end with no more way out and that they will be trapped in their forever. Like the fly that refuses to flie a little bit higher to move beyond the window frame they eventually starve to death.

Flies don’t realize that it would just take a short “detour” of a few inches or just a little bit more effort to move beyond the window frame and they would be free what would at the end turn out to be the faster way. Humans are so brainwashed regarding the dieting/exercise approach of losing weight that they don’t realize that simply leaving the dieting path and moving around the obstacle would bring them the desired results. Something that looks like a detour at first sight very quickly turns out to be the fastest way to reach their desired goal. Instead they are like kids standing in front of a shop-window squashing their nose against the window and starring at something they want.

Years ago I had a problem with my teeth no dentist could nor would fix, and the alternatives they offered me were not acceptable to me. One day I talked to a friend about my dilemma and I said, “There is just no solution for my problem.” Then she said something very simple that immediately shifted my mindset. She said, “But what if there is a solution and you just can’t see it? What if…?”

Henceforward my friend’s “What if…?” stuck with me, and each time I felt discouraged I thought, “What if there is a solution I don’t know yet?” One day I received an unsolicited email which described my problem word by word in their headline. Usually I move these emails to my spam folder immediately, but then something stopped my hand with the mouse and I started reading. On their website they explained exactly my problem and shared how they solve the issue (and no, I never discussed this dilemma with anybody by email so that Google could send me the right ads). It was about a method of a group of European dentists who are practicing in Bulgaria no dentist in my own country knew about or was brave enough to try.

My first reaction was, “Bulgaria? An ex-communist developing country!?” I was prejudiced.

Fortunately, my prejudice did not stop me from at least find out more about. Since I had the “What if…?” mantra in my mind I called them just to hear whether or not they thought they could help me. I told them my story and they sayd, “Yes, no problem, we do that kind of work every day.” Then I asked for their price and it turned out to be a third of the work my Swiss dentist offered me for a solution that was not acceptable. After that phone call and after reading some of their testimonials I felt deep in my heart that this was the answer. But then there was another obstacle: I couldn’t afford the flight and the hotel. So I kept that goal in my mind and heart constantly saying, “I found the answer for the right dentist. So what if there is an answer for those obstacles as well?”

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I talked about that possibility with another friend and she said, “I need help with my business. You can work for me and I will pay for your flight.” So the ticket was covered, but what about the hotel (their patients stay in a hotel for an entire week to have enough time to do a good quality job)? That was still beyond my budget. I kept practicing an open mind and said, “What if there is a solution for the hotel as well?” A few days later I received an email from that clinic in Bulgaria telling me that they added my name to a draw and that I had won a week in a hotel near their clinic for the next month. So I called the clinic and made an appointment, booked the flight and the hotel. Two weeks later I was in Bulgaria in a nice little hotel overlooking the Black Ocean and near the most modern dental clinic I had ever seen.

Had I allowed my prejudice to win, I would have missed one of the greatest opportunities. It turned out that just like the Swiss are the best teachers and watch makers, the Austrians are the best confectioners and the Dutch are the best physical therapists, the Bulgarians are the best dentists. Before I went there, I had no idea that they have patients from all around the world, even from Japan.

At the end this turned out to be the perfect solution for me and far better than I had ever dreamed. And all that was only possible because I opened up to solutions that were not apparent to me before and that were far beyond my imagination…just because I remained open and kept asking myself, What if there is a solution?”

Was it a detour? Only at the first sight. At the end it turned out to be much faster than any other solution I knew, and despite of the flight still less than half the price I would have had to pay in Switzerland for a solution that was not acceptable, and way better and more reliable than anything else. That “detour” turned out to be the fastest way possible to my desired goal. On top of that it was a wonderful experience to fly over the Carpatian Mountains and to have a one-week vacation with a view of the Black Ocean.

Most of the time the way to our desired goals is not a straight path, and the straight path often turns out to be a dead end road. Goal achievement often goes in turns and turnoffs.

When you are on the WRONG path, you can run as fast as you want; you can be as disciplined and frantic as you can; you can be totally determined to achieve your goal but you will still NEVER arrive because it’s the wrong road. On the other hand, if you are on the RIGHT road toward your goal, you can walk as slowly as you want, you can take baby steps, you can even crawl and still achieve your destination. Depending on how fast you move forward it will take longer or faster to reach your goal, but it is certain that you will reach it one day because you are on the right road. On the other hand, when you’re on the WRONG route you will just never get there, no matter what.

For the flies at the window buzzing around and sticking to the glass was such a wrong path with no way out. Flies do that because they have a tiny brain and they can’t think.

For me trying to find a dentist in Switzerland who could do what I needed was the wrong path. Flying to Bulgaria – something I would never have dreamed of in my wildest dreams – turned out to be the fastest route to my desired goal.

Too many overweight women are falling for the SHINY OBJECT that promises them how quickly they can lose their weight. They look at all the nice before/after images and are instantly hooked, although they have no idea whether the other woman on that picture could keep her weight off or not. All they see is an image of a single moment – one second in another woman’s life – and pull out their credit card. They are suffering from the shiny object syndrome. In 99% of the time they are on the WRONG route that has no end.

The question now is, are you a fly at the window that is frantically trying to get to the other side of the glass?

Are you prejudiced because I’m not from the USA and because there is no hype on my website?

Are you falling for shiny objects?

Are you on the wrong path that turns out to be a dead end?

Or can you finally open up your mind and ask yourself, “What if there is another, faster, better and healthier solution I just never took into consideration?”

“What IF…?” 

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Why you need to be slim as a business owner, network marketer, freelancer or high executive

Why you need to be slim as a business owner, network marketer, freelancer or high executive

In a country like the USA for instance, where over 70% of the population is overweight and over 50% are obese, it’s easier to be in denial regarding ones own weight. After all, 80% of the rest of the people are overweight as well, so what!

I have recently had many contacts with obese women in the USA and most of them are self-employed, network marketers or business owners. When I asked them if they knew people who want or need to lose weight they said, “No, I don’t know anybody.” Many of them even said, “I don’t need to lose weight,” although you could see from their pictures that they are morbidly obese.

This puzzled me, to say the least. How can people be so much in denial? Is it because 80% of the population is overweight as well? Does that make being overweight the new “normal”?

Like I said, most of these women are freelancers, network marketers or self-employed and you can see from their facebook profiles that they are working really hard to earn some money. But there is one thing they all forget.

There is a universal truth that says, “You first have to BE before you can HAVE.”

This truth is especially important to understand for business women. We can’t really succeed well with the same business behaviors men have. We can’t duplicate what men do. We can’t (or shouldn’t) work harder than men do just to get the raise. Real success is based on genuineness, authenticity and integrity. And by copying what men do we are none of these.

And there is something else business men have it easier than women: they can be fat and ugly and still be successful. I know it’s not fair, but this is how the world is right now. It’s going to change, but for now we better do what’s necessary in order to be successful in business, and that begins with the BEing.

As an overweight woman you are – hopefully – totally accepted and respected by your family and your friends, and that gives you the feeling of being okay. Although, deep within you probably know that being overweight or obese is not really good for you.

The problem is that people outside of your closest circle think differently. They may not tell you and they may still treat you friendly, but deep within they are prejudiced. Right or wrong, people do judge others by the way they look, especially in business (unless you sell XXXL cloths and weight loss programs).

And it gets much worse.

According to a German study, this is what slim people think and say about overweight people:

  • “They are stupid.”
  • “They are undisciplined.”
  • “They are lazy.”
  • “They are ignorant.”
  • “They are hoggish.”
  • “They are weak-willed.”
  • “They smell badly.”
  • “They are unattractive.”
  • “They’re fat because it’s their own fault.”

Now what do you do when you are negotiating with a slim person who has that subconscious attitude about overweight people? Do you really think that person would buy your product or service? Maybe, but very unlikely. 

What about overweight clients? Wouldn’t you expect them to be more understanding and tolerant?

On the outside, yes. But when it comes to business, no way! Why not? Because deep within they have the believe that they are failing and that being overweight or obese is their fault. And consequently they feel the same about you. 

Just keep this in mind.

As a business owner, freelancer, network marketer or affiliate marketer you help others achieve goals and get what THEY want. But when you are overweight, your customers’ subconscious mind tells them that you are not capable of achieving goals and that therefore you can’t really help them get what THEY want. All this goes on on a subconscious level, no matter how tolerant and understanding they may otherwise be.

No matter what you sell – be it jewelry, supplements, coaching or real estate – you are in a less favorite situation as long as you are overweight or obese. If you want to become wildly successful, you have to DEMONSTRATE that you are not only an expert in your field but that you can also achieve your own goals and that you can also help your clients to get what they want.

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I’m pretty sure that you have tried several diets and more and nothing really worked for you long term. I believe you when you’re telling me that you are a discplined person. I totally believe that you are great in your job.

But you know what? It doesn’t matter what I believe. It doesn’t even matter why you believe. For your success, all that matters is what your clients believe.

Am I trying to encourage you to start another diet and to go through all that hastle again?

God forbid.

Thank goodness there is a far better, easier and faster solution: the 4-Pillar Method.

Right now you have two options. You can download my FREE Report “4 Pillars of Lasting Weight Loss For Women” and begin to get a better understanding of the nature of lasting weight loss. Then I recommend to go to my FREE Facebook group with the same name. Both will get you started for free.

 

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If you’re struggling with losing weight, you’re doing something wrong…

If you’re struggling with losing weight, you’re doing something wrong…

“Sure,” you may respond, “I eat too much of the wrong food and I don’t exercise enough. That’s what I’m doing wrong.” 

But what if you eat mainly healthy and not really a lot? What if you exercise regularly and don’t lose weight significantly? 

Actually, with my title I meant something completely different. I’m not talking about things like “Eat this, not that,” or “Eat less and exercise more.” I’m not talking about tactics and methods. I’m talking about a particular mindset

One of the things I gained more clarity on in my life was the nature of “struggling” per se, and I remember especially two occurrences in my life when I really struggled a lot – and for years. The first big struggle was regarding my weight. This was a story going on for most of my childhood into my late twenties. Then, somehow, the struggle stopped – I just didn’t care about my weight any longer and shifted my focus onto my life. Instead of working on my weight, I was working on my happiness and self-worth. And the rest is history.

The second time I really struggled a lot was with my self-growth business in the 1980s. I was a single mom and I wanted to be with my daughter as much as possible. So I decided to build my own home-based coaching, seminar, and public speaking business. I did all right from the get go and we were lucky enough to always have some food on the table. And though some months I couldn’t pay my bills, I could always pay them the next month. However, I was never able to save any money for my daughter’s college or buy some special things like new furniture, a car, or nice clothes. It was just enough for what we really needed. And I was trying really, really hard.

Then, one day, I was very sick and very desperate. I had just found out that the women’s magazine I did many workshops for paid me less than other speakers and seminar leaders, although my seminars had the best and highest rates and always sold best, as they had told me.

I was a single mom and needed more money. The organizer became my best friend back then and she knew my situation. So she also knew that I depended on the magazine she was working for. When I found out that she had not told me the truth about my fee, I felt being taken advantage of. It was very frustrating to see that I was making that magazine so much money while I was doing all that work for them but was still struggling financially. It was very sad to realize that my best friend had lied to me.

So while lying in bed with high fever, I prayed and asked for a solution. I was too weak to do something, so I literally surrendered my problem.

Literally, within seconds, I was given a whole 9-month weight loss program with all the topics, with the content for a whole book and five CD’s. That was a weight loss program I had never seen before with many new ideas never heard of before – certainly not regarding weight loss. It was the total opposite of what other weight loss coaches offered. I even received the entire marketing concept. It was all there before my inner eyes at once. And all I had to do was get up and go to work.

The next morning, the fever was gone and I began writing the book. A few months later, I had finished that book, five CD’s, the curriculum and papers of a whole 9-month weight loss program, a workbook, and a marketing strategy, without ever having learned anything about marketing. That turned out to be one of the most successful marketing strategies ever.

Within only two weeks of the launch, all my 9-month workshops were filled. I only wanted to do two or three workshops, but I ended up doing twelve, the absolute maximum I could handle. But that was not enough. In fact, within four more weeks, I filled not only more workshops than I had planned to do…I filled them for another 9 months and was booked solid for the next two years.

That was proof to me that I had found something very special. 

The interesting thing is that it took other coaches like Marianne Williamson, Geneen Roth, and Jon Gabriel more than a decade to come up with similar solutions, but all of them only offer parts of what I have found. What I was allowed to “download” from the Universe back then is still true today and I still teach these same principles in all of my workshops, seminars, and programs. And I am very surprised that I am still one of very few holistic weight loss coaches who can do that kind of work.

Now that I am writing all this down, – actually it’s the first time that I even share this with my readers – it even sounds to me like a miracle. And you know what? I think it was a miracle that happened that day and the years that followed. It was an enormous gift from God, not only to me, but to all of my clients also who had previously struggled with their weight and went from frustrating diet to diet. And now it can be a gift for you as well, if you are open and ready to learn a new way of weight loss make that one mindset shift.

Over the years, over 10,000 people (mostly women) have attended my workshops and seminars. Many had the same miraculous results I had with my weight loss. Others had to go through a different process than I had to in order to reach their weight goals. Sometimes, only a weekend workshop was all they needed for them to find the real cause and make the necessary shift from fat to slim. Others needed several months to find their real, underlying causes. But once they found it, losing weight became easier than ever before, really effortless, actually.

Why am I sharing this story with you?

Because I know that so many women have been struggling with their weight for years and just don’t seem to be able to find a way to lose their weight for good. They are all on a completely wrong route. With a small mindset shift and a new weight loss strategy, their weight struggle could end almost instantly.

Let me say that again.

With a small mindset shift and a new weight loss strategy, your weight struggle could end almost instantly.

What you must realize is that struggling in itself is a sign that you’re on the wrong path. As soon as you’re on the right path, the struggle ends and you can begin to see results – lasting results.

Struggling in itself is a sign that you’re on the wrong path. 

For as long as you are struggling, you are literally holding on to what you don’t want: your excess weight. That way, it is impossible for you to get rid off those extra pounds.

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You see, what happened to me when I lost weight is that I had eliminated the causes of my weight issues – unknowingly, though. Yet, it worked. This is proof to me that this is the right path. It works whether or not you do it consciously, and whether or not you believe in the method. Once the cause has been transformed or eliminated, your body no longer needs to hold on to its extra fat. Because your extra fat is just a symptom. It’s your body trying to alert you of a problem. It’s your body’s way to communicate with you that there is something wrong you should take care of.  Your body has only one way of communicating with your: through symptoms. And once the cause is gone, the body doesn’t need to talk to you through extra fat any longer.

Unfortunately, by struggling with your weight you are exceeding the weight loss process, and for many this lasts a lifetime. 

As long as you’re focusing on one or two methods, such as a diet and an exercise plan, you tend to expect too much of these tactics and disappointment is almost certain. You are constantly trying and going from diet to diet. On top of that you’re regularly weighing yourself, another way of keeping your current weight. That way, you can’t let go so easily. But it’s exactly the letting go that is a very important part of your weight loss process. Once you have let go and found the right solution, the struggle stops and losing weight becomes quite easy, very often even effortless.

It’s the letting go that is a very important part of your weight loss process.

Once you have let go and found the right solution, the struggle stops and losing weight becomes quite easy, very often even effortless.

The simplest trick is to let go. This requires a mindset shift.

Just let go! Let go of your expectations regarding how quickly your body needs to lose weight. Let go of your diet mentality. Let go of your quick-fix mentality. Let go of the belief that you knew how to lose weight better than your body does. 

Just let go!!!

Happy slimming. 

 

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What is THE fastest way of losing weight?

What is THE fastest way of losing weight?

Why can people overeat with unhealthy food for decades, live the life of a coach potatoe, neglect their body, be in total denial regarding their psychology, and then expect to lose all that gained weight within only a few weeks?

Honestly, I don’t really have an answer to that question because I simply don’t understand such a lack of logical thinking. Of course, I do get that human beings are impatient and want to reach their goals ASAP once they have made a decision. But the gap between logic and the goal to lose weight fast is very, very big, especially with the diet approach.

One of the biggest issues is that people can’t distinguish between marketing messages and the truth. We have been told a million times that we can lose weight within seven to ten days. Plus, we are increasingly living in a world where we get everything at the push of a button. On thop ot that – to be totally fair – it’s a known fact that the current cell phone and WiFi technology shortens people’s attention span dramatically what leads to even worse impatience.

But where in all that is our common sense?

Well, maybe it’s just time to look at different weight loss methods to check which one is THE fastest.

Dieting

Since I have talked about the diet approach many times, I want to make this short. Dieting is against the body’s own nature and therefore can’t work long term. Going on a diet can give you some short term results but the weight will come back after a while. Depending on how many diets you have been trying or will choose to try, the constant up and down usually goes on for years and the person will eventually come to a point where she will resignate and give up all weight loss attempts.

So, although at the beginning you sometimes can lose weight quite quickly, what do you win at the end with yo-yo dieting?

Nothing!

By losing and gaining and losing and gaining you are not only jeopardizing your health, waste your precisouls life and make it more and more impossible for your body to lose extra fat.

Honestly, what is fast about that?

Exercise

Exercise alone has never been a fast tactic. Although exercise should always be part of a sensible weight loss strategy, it’s far from being fast nor maintainable. You can jog for an hour every day and 365 days and you may not even lose a pound. Believe me, I did it and that was the results. Zero weight loss.

And if you lose some weight and then stop exercising when you’ll get sick or older, you will gain the weight back.

Diet Pills

Like with any diet, at the beginning you may lose a lot of weight very quickly. But after a while you will gain it back because you didn’t take your body’s nature into consideration. You can’t fool your body.

Your body does not only know what you know. It also knows what you don’t know. Your body knows exactly what it needs to do to lose extra fat. But as long as you are interfering with diets and calorie reduction, you are forcing your body to go its own way, and it will do that because your body’s first job is to safe your life.

Therefore you can really say that your body has more common sense than you have….should you ever choose to take diet pills.

Since you will gain the lost weight back and even more, you can’t consider this to be a FAST method.

Gastric Surgery

In my humble opinion this is the most stupid way of losing weight, and any doctor who offers that kind of surgeries should be put in jail for a long time. Gastric surgery is slow murder.

No doubt, you can lose weight very quickly. But the price is very high. After such a surgery you will be sick for the rest of your life and there is very little you can eat. In other words, you are literally starving to death….slowly and surely. And not only that, after a few years you are going to gain that weight back.

So how is that FAST?

Liposuction

At first sight I would consider this to be the fastest method of losing weight.

But here too we have to take the body’s nature into consideration. Your body’s two main reasons for accumulating fat is acid and toxins. It creates fat when either of them increase to a level where it becomes dangerous for the body. In a loving attempt to safe your life, your body creates fat cells to store toxins and acid away in the safest possible way.

When you remove that fat, your body gets literally flooded with toxins and acid. And what would you do if you were your body? Create new fat. That’s one part.

The second part is that liposuction destroys part of the lymphs. This will create a new problem you probably didn’t have before. As soon as your lymphatic system doesn’t work properly anymore, you get lymph edemas, swollen legs and arms. Yes, it’s “just” water, but when you’re overweight, do you really care whether you have to get rid of fat or water? When the lymphatic system doesn’t work properly anymore, you will need compression stockings for the rest of your life. I’m not sure if you can call this a good solution.

Again, at the end of the day you can’t call this really “fast”.

Hypnoses

Hypnoses is a great method and I personally use several kinds of hypnoses in my coaching and therapy practice.

Hypnoses works partiularely well for compulsive eating and to suppress appetite.

The problem is that hypnoses alone is not a reliable problem solver as long as you don’t know the real, underlaying issues. Hypnoses alone therefore is not a reliable method….it can take months and years. But if you can find a weight loss coach who combines several methods and who can help you find the real physical and psychological causes, this can be a great solution. Depending on how much time it takes to address the real causes, weight loss can happen quite fast.

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Psychotherapy

As a behavioral therapist I do believe in psychology. And in almost 40 years of my personal weight loss story and by working with over 10,000 individuals I can say with absolute certainty that 80% of a maintainable weight loss process is about the psychology.

But…there is a big “BUT”.

Psychotherapy is not fast. Traditional psychotherapy is about talking, talking, talking, and this can go on for years, even decades.

Yes, like I said, 80% is about the psychology. That should give you a realistic picture about a solid weight loss process. But there are also physical causes, emotional causes, even spiritual causes. A psychologist seldom understands all of them. I have met many psychologists who are even far from understanding all of the possible psychological issues that come with weight gain, especially if they never had to go through a weight loss process themselves. Those I know look at the issue soleley from the eating perspective too and why people overeat.

Although you may have a good chance for maintainable results, especially when the cause is the eating, it’s far from being “fast”.

Healthy Lifestyle

Although a healthy lifestyle ABSOLUTELY has to be part of a maintainable weight loss strategy, by itself it’s not a fast method and very often not even a lasting solution. The healthy lifestyle approach looks at weight issues exclusively from the physical standpoint and that’s never enough to make losing weight to last. Inner causes will not be transformed. 

Therefore, maintainable only if the issue is the lifestyle and nothing else. Fast? Never.

The old way of losing weight

This is how most women go about losing weight. They go on a diet. Then when they realize that it doesn’t work, they quit. Some time later they try another method and fail again. They go from method to method and at the end they have to give up because they are desillusioned or have given up completely. 

The New Way Of Losing Weight – 4 Pillars of Weight Loss 

You may have heard me say that so far I have found 58 possible causes of weight gain. These causes can be physical ones (eating, lack of movement, hormones, high acidity levels, etc.), emotional ones, it can be the mindset (and the mindset is most of the time a huge contributing factor), and the unconscious. Again, 80% of the problem is the psychology, the part of the iceberg that is beneath the surface. But most known weight loss methods work only with the 20% of the visible part of the iceberg.

Thanks to decades of my own weight struggles and thanks to working with over 10,000 individuals I have been so fortunate to gain a completely different understanding of maintainable weight loss. I have spent over a decade of searching for other individuals with the same knowledge, hoping that I could give them my clients and enjoy my retirement. But to this day I only found one man who got close to what I know, but he can’t cover it all himself and works with a team of several experts. And he is still quite far from the truth, especially when it comes to female weight issues.

My 4 Pillar system takes the whole person, the whole being into consideration. We are body, mind AND spirit. We can’t solve a problem just on the physical level by ignoring the other parts of our beings.

Generally, everything you do on the physical level can lead to fast weight loss. But then you also want to keep the weight off. So what you do on the mental, emotional and unconscious level is the kind of transformation work you need to make your weight loss last. It’s an overall transformation process needed here.

So here at the Natural Weight Loss Academy we always work on all levels combined. The main focus is to find and address an individual’s  cause or causes. That’s why you can’t just offer one solution and hope to fix them all. A sensible, maintainable weight loss process is always individualized. And since we work on all levels, we can exclude the yo-yoing most of the time, unless an individual cheats and is on a diet without telling me.

So minus the yo-yoing, and by securing that the weight loss will last, you can honestly say that this is THE fastest way of losing weight for women (for men it’s easier any way, so we are only talking about women here). Depending on the weight a woman starts the process at and depending on her seriousness and commitment, it can take anything between three months and three years. The heavier a woman is, the longer it will take, of course.

Let me share two examples.

Example 1

One of my current clients – let’s call her Jessica – joined my Facebook tribe four weeks ago. She jumped in both feet and took action on all the daily action steps right away. Not all the steps were easy for her – that’s normal – but she always discussed things with me. She never said, “I can’t.” Instead, she always asked, “What can I do with this problem?”

During the first two weeks nothing happened. She just went through the process and trusted the process. In week 3 she suddenly lost 5 pounds and 6 inches. This was during Thanksgiving week and she ate anything she wanted, even dessert. The only thing she did was watching her psychology and enjoying the family gatherings.

Two of Jessica’s most outstanding characteristics are her commitment to lose weight and be healthy, and her consistency in going through the process. She started at day 1 and never missed any of the daily action steps, no matter how small or silly they seemed to her.

Example 2

Another client of mine – Ruth – went through my SheSlimEasy program 5 years ago and lost weight nicely. I emphasized that she should make sure to stay on the path and later move forward on the SheSlimForever process to make her weight loss maintainable. Recently she joined my Facebook tribe and admitted that she could only keep her weight by dieting and regular cleansing. In other words, she completely ignored the psychological part, the 80% of the process. And not only that, she lost everything she had accomplished five years ago and now has to start all over again. 

Ruth has always been kind of reluctant, the opposite of Jessica. She was afraid of her emotions and of bursting into tears when working with me. That was proof to me that one of her major causes of weight issues is the way she is dealing with emotions. Unfortunately she didn’t understand that every tear she cried while going through the transformation process with me means losing weight for her.

During a one-on-one session over the phone with me she began to realize that she can’t block the process emotionally and still hope to achieve lasting weight loss. So she decided to trust the  process. As a result, within only one hour of coaching she could solve and transform several issues.

Working with the 4 Levels 

Just in case that you feel overwhelmed by the 58 possible causes, my system includes figuring out each client’s effective causes very quickly. 

Of course, if you are trying to do it by yourself, it may take years. Please keep in mind, that we all have our black spots. No psychologist can do it by herself/himself. It would literally take centuries. But maybe you are the exception.

Or you can work through your psychological issues with your psychologist. I’m sure you will make some great progress, but the question is how long it will take. 

If you are at the point where you realize the benefits of my 4 pillars of lasting weight loss, you have two options:

1.) Workshops or group coachings

2.) One-on-one coaching sessions

Both possibilities are very valuable. The group setting is very interesting because you see the struggles of other women and you also get a lot of encouragement from the other members. The downside is that it may take longer because I have to work with several individuals at the same time.

If you need to lose weight fast and if you have the means, then the one-on-one coaching setting is certainly the best choice. 

Of course, a big contributing factor to your weight loss progress and success is your willingness to open up and be willing to work through the processes. If you bring that to the table, we can transform each of your effective causes within one to five sessions, depending on the intensity of the issue. 

These are the steps of my 4 pillars of lasting weight loss:

Step 1: Habit Transformation (SheSlimEasy)

Step 2: Detox & Cleansing (SheSlimFast)

Step 3: Weight Loss Mindset (SheSlimSmart)

Step 4: Transformation of the Inner Causes (SheSlimForever)

Maybe, by now you are getting a pretty clear understanding of the effectiveness of my 4 Pillar process. 

Conclusion

Changing your diet may bring you a step ahead.

Following a fitness program may bring you a step ahead. 

Thinking positive may bring you two steps ahead. 

Going through the 4 Levels and eliminating the real causes is entirely different ball game. It’s a transformation process. It does not only get two or three steps ahead….it brings you right to the top of your goal. And not only that, at the same time it can improve your relationships, it can reduce your stress levels, it can improve your professional life, and it definitely will  improve your health and longevity. 

Finding the REAL causes of weight gain and eliminating or transforming them makes the body fat obsolete. As soon as we understand our body’s message and solve the problem, the body has no longer a need to hold on to the extra fat and can burn it almost instantly.

Since I don’t work with diets, there is hardly any bouncing unless it’s about the normal hormonal cycle. Therefore, we can honestly say that working on all four levels of the human being is THE fastest weight loss method because it is maintainable.

At the beginning it may take a while for the body to realize what’s going on. But once the process gains some momentum, weight loss can be fast and effortless. Very often, my clients don’t even realize that they have lost weight because they are feeling good despite of the weight and stopped weighing.

Now I have to leave it up to you to make a decision for yourself. Do you want your weight loss to be hard or smart? Do you want to keep yo-yo dieting or do you want to put an end to it? Do you want to go from diet to diet or do you choose a more effortless way?

The choise is yours and yours alone.

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You can get a feeling for the 4 Pillars of Weight Loss process for free. Simply join my closed Facebook group where you can go through the process by taking tiny daily baby steps completely stress free and still make tremendous progress. 

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One MAGIC Ingredient of Your Perfect Weight Loss Strategy & The Perfect Formula

One MAGIC Ingredient of Your Perfect Weight Loss Strategy & The Perfect Formula

Recently I told an aquaintant that I have lost 16 pounds in one month. Her first question was, “Which diet did you do?” Of course, as my follower, you know that I don’t do diets. 

Are you one of those women who are still hoping for a miracle pill to be invented or the perfect weight loss diet to be created before you’ll die?

Then this might be good news for you.

There is something that really works like magic for lasting weight loss. It makes the weight loss process much easier, faster, more enjoyable, more reliable and almost effortless.

Although there is no magic pill and never will be (no matter what they are going to invent in the future) and there will never be a perfect weight loss diet that works for all and without fail plus for good, there IS a way that brings results that can be described as “magical”.

BUT….

You can’t find that “magic bullet” outside of yourself.

In fact, it’s much easier and simpler…and it doesn’t cost you a single penny.

Are you curious what that “magic bullet” is?

It’s something so great and wonderful that I find it hard to find the right words for it.

It’s called MOMENTUM.

If you can’t see the magic behind that word, don’t worry. You’re not alone. It took me years to understand the fantastic POWER of momentum.

Momentum is what provides the wind under your wings. You can also call it snowball effect.

Momentum is a build up of energy that leads to one single point or outcome. It’s behind what business people know as exponentiel effect.

 

This graphic shows linear progress. This is what you can expect from the diet approach at the beginning. But after a while the body slows the fat burning process down and then – if you stick with it long enough – it begins to stop completely. This is what I also call the two-dimensional weight loss tactic and this is what you can expect from a single tactic like dieting.

On the other hand, the exponential progress curve shows little effect at the beginning and then suddenly begins to double and triple quickly. This is the kind of curve that happens when you have momentum. In business the exponential success is preferred from linear success, which is not reliable anyway and hardly brings the real big successes and breakthroughs.

Translated to your weight loss process this would mean that you start with small, daily steps, and from day to day you are building a momentum without taking drastic actions. At the beginning you may not see much progress, but as the momentum grows, the weight loss goes faster and faster.

This also requires that you are not only settling for a single tactic but create your own, personalized weight loss strategy. Working on all levels of your self can then create such an exponential success line throgh momentum.

Taking daily small steps never feels daunting or stressful. But don’t you ever underestimate small daily action steps.

For fast and reliable weight loss success it’s important to gain momentum and momentum can only be built by taking daily actions. 

What is momentum?

This is Britannica’s definition of momentum.

Momentum, product of the mass of a particle and its velocity. Momentum is a vector quantity; i.e., it has both magnitude and direction. Isaac Newton’s second law of motion states that the time rate of change of momentum is equal to the force acting on the particle. See Newton’s laws of motion.”

“From Newton’s second law it follows that, if a constant force acts on a particle for a given time, the product of force and the time interval (the impulse) is equal to the change in the momentum. Conversely, the momentum of a particle is a measure of the time required for a constant force to bring it to rest.“ 

What we can say from that definition is that momentum only happens with motion. The more or faster the motion, the faster momentum will increase. 

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The Power of Momentum

Momentum is very powerful in reaching our highest goals. Wherever there is motion, there is momentum.

The thing to get momentum going is to START. And then, right after the start, the second, third, forth, etc. step has to follow. If you don’t start, your weight loss process, for example, nothing will happen because motion drives actions and actions drive momentum. That means, the more motion you have at the beginning and the more regular that motion happens, the higher the momentum.

As you go through the actions, more and more motion is generated and each of your action steps will get easier. Goals that seemed too impossible to reach, suddenly become more realistic, even easy to reach. 

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How to use momentum to your advantage

First set a realistic goal. Be very clear and specific. The more specific your goal is the better.

For example, if you decide to go for a 30 minute walk or go jogging every day, it will get easier from day to day. And after a while you will not even have to think about. No matter the wheather, you will put on your jogging shoes and your jacket and you go for a walk or a jog. It doesn’t even cost you any energy anymore. 

And as you gain momentum with your exercise routine, you begin to set other goals that support your weight loss, do these steps every day without fail and you will gain a tremendous momentum including several tactics that makes you unstoppable. 

The downside is that when you stop taking these regular action steps, you will quickly lose your momentum and things will become hard and rocky. You will have to force yourself to go out for a walk and also other action steps will get harder. 

The trick is to show up every day at the same time and plan your life around that event. Because, once you have gained momentum, you don’t want to lose it because now you know how much greater and easier it is with momentum. 

To make it easier for you, I have created a Facebook page with daily tiny baby steps that build up on momentum. Each step takes between 5 and 15 minutes. And if you follow these steps every day at the same time, soon your momentum will begin to snow ball and you will experience what one of my members is experience.

Today I talked to one of my members of that group. She joined the group three weeks ago and she jumped both feet in. For the first two weeks not much happened other than a few important insights and an inner shift. Today she told me at the phone that she has lost four pounds within the last five dayse without dieting. On Thanksgiving day she even ate a piece of pumpkin pie without remorse and enjoyed it very much. 

All this could only happen because she took action every single day. 

Believe me, when you can lose weight by building a strong momentum, your weight loss process is going to be real FUN!

You can check out my group here: 

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Recently one of my members of my Facebook group left the group because she thought that the daily 5 to 10 minutes was more time than she could spend. The comment of another members was, “When she doesn’t even have 5 to 10 minutes time for her weight loss process per day, then she really, really, really needs you.”

Of course, she is completely right. But this is something every person must have to find out for herself to make it work. As long as an overweight woman believes that she doesn’t have five to fifteen minutes time per day for her weight loss process, she is simply not ready to achieve her goal, or worse, she is even in total denial. 

Daily action is the way to gain momentum. And momentum is the most important requirement for weight loss success, provided that you choose the right method. Of course, by now you understand that gaining momentum with a wrong tactic like dieting will not get you the desired results either. It requires the right method PLUS momentum.

This is the formula to your weight loss success:

S (Strategy) + M (Momentum) = Weight Loss Success

How about you? Do you  think you and your health are worth to take action for 5 to 15 minutes per day? 

Start gaining momentum today and you will never look back! 

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Are your health and weight loss goal worth five to fifteen minutes of your time every day?

If you want to learn a process that leads you to constant weight loss success by baby stepping, check out my Facebook group. 

You can get a feeling for the 4 Pillars of Weight Loss process for free. Simply join my closed Facebook group where you can go through the process by taking tiny daily baby steps completely stress free and still make tremendous progress. 

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Which one is winning? Your overweight You or your slim You?

Which one is winning? Your overweight You or your slim You?

No time of the year is so predestined to reveal whether a person is living in her “Slim Self” or her “Overweight Self”.

It starts before Thanksgiving when millions of women begin to worry about their weight and the outlook of gaining even more weight between Thanksgiving and New Year.

What most women then do is deciding to go the “easy route” and eat as much as they can during the Holiday and then to go on a diet January 2nd. These women are living in their “Fat Self”.

They constantly focus on weight gain.

Even thinking about going on a diet is living in the “Fat Self”. It’s the typical mindset of an overweight woman.

I don’t know who the author of this quote is, but he or she is spot on. No one could have said it better, shorter and clearer.

The body achieves what the mind believes.

There is no other way. This is how we humans have been created.

We are creators by nature. We create through the combination of our thinking and the emotions. When a thought and an emotion meet, that’s when we are creating our life circumstances….our fate.

The same is true with our health and weight.

Your current weight totally reflects your thinking in the past a 100%. What you have been believing about food and weight in the past, your body realized and you can now see it as a “fact”.

Living in your “Fat You”

A woman who is living in her fat self is somebody who constantly counts calories, worries about food, worries about her weight, worries about how she is looking. I have met thousands of women who’s thinking constantly circles around food and weight all day long without being fully aware of.

Such a person is living in her “Fat Self”. She is living and breathing weight gain. She constantly nourishes her creation tools – her thoughts and her emotions – with information regarding GAINING weight.

Living in your “Slim You”

No slim woman would ever do that, unless she had just lost weight and is now afraid of gaining it back. But then she is still in her “Fat Self”.

Women who live in their “Slim Self” have completely different thoughts about food. They ask themselves what they can eat to remain healthy and energetic. They are on the lookout for healthy, natural food.

Around the Holidays their focus is on enjoying their loved ones and being with their family and friends. Their focus is on joy, not on food stress.

Maybe they don’t want to eat too much because it makes them feel stuffed and they don’t like that feeling. So they enjoy eating in moderate amounts, but not out of worry but out of care for their health and because they want to feel good in their body. Feeling good in her body is what matters most for her.

By the way, people who truly enjoy the eating and every bite of it, can hardly over-eat.

Or she may choose to drink a glass of water before each meal to help her body to digest the food better.

Women who are operating from their “Slim Self” are constantly on the lookout for what is good for their health and have no focus on the weight. When they choose healthy food they constantly choose out of wisdom (not out of fear); and when they choose to exercise they do so because they want to stay healthy (not because they want to burn some calories).

Maintainable weight loss begins in your head

Let me share an example that one of the members of my Facebook group has experienced during Thanksgiving week. She ate everything she wanted and enjoyed being with her family. Yet during that week most overweight women fear, she has lost 5 pounds and 6 inches. Two days ago she informed me that she could maintain that weight loss. 

How did she accomplish that?

By taking each and every daily baby step I have layed out in my Facebook group and by doing the inside work. Again, 80% of your weight loss success is beneath the surface: in your psychology and unconscious mind. 

It is my deepest hope that you are beginning to understand how much maintainable weight loss is a mindset game and not a calorie game.

It’s true that 80% of your weight loss success is about your psychology, about what is going on in your mind (not in your digestive track).

Developing the right mindset requires a lot of self-discipline, but it’s a different kind of self-discipline than the one required for diets and easier to come up with.

When you’re on a diet, you can come up with as much discipline as you want, your subconscious mind is always going to win the battle and you’re going to lose. You have no chance, no matter how strong your discipline and willpower are.

But coming up with the discipline of the right thinking, that’s where your success begins. That’s where your discipline will be well “invested” and fall on fertile ground.

Happy Holiday…and happy slimming!

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Is your health and weight loss goal worth five to fifteen minutes of your time every day?

If you want to learn a process that leads you to constant weight loss success by baby stepping, check out my Facebook group. 

You can get a feeling for the 4 Pillars of Weight Loss process for free. Simply join my closed Facebook group where you can go through the process by taking tiny daily baby steps completely stress free and still make tremendous progress. 

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One Simple Trick for Setting & Achieving Your Weight Loss Goal Successfully

One Simple Trick for Setting & Achieving Your Weight Loss Goal Successfully

So many overweight women are struggling with their weight…unnecessarily hard and long because they have the wrong mindset regarding weight loss. They don’t take the time factor into consideration.

In our mind we can lose weight effortlessly and almost instantly. But the body needs more time to achieve such a goal.

I know there are peers of mine out there who are brainwashing you with the idea that you can lose weight quickly. They show you images of other people who lost weight and tell you that they lost x amount of weight in x amount of time. Those numbers then stick in your head as a “fact”. They are in your brain and you begin to believe – consciously or subconsciously – that you can lose the exact same weight in exact the same time. To your brain, such a before/after picture is PROOF that the method works. And that’s exactly the big mistake and a lie either these “experts” are telling you or a lie you are telling yourself out of wishful thinking. 

But that never happens.

People then often reach to drastic tactics to get the promised quick results such as diet pills, liposuction and the very dangerous gastric surgeries and thus make matters worse. All these are quick fixes but they don’t solve the real problem.

3 Reasons Why You Should Learn to Set Realistic Goals

First of all, each person’s body is differently with different needs and problems. Although we all have basically the same kind of body, we are different in many ways. Some bodies need more time for digestion, others have a slow metabolism, still others have some hormonal challenges, some have different enzymes for digestion, others need more time to burn fat during exercising…and so on.

That’s why it’s very dangerous to hear about people who have lost 10 pounds in 10 days, for example. These numbers get into your brain and subconscious mind and will stick there. You then automatically begin to compare yourself with those people whose success story you have read or heard. This then becomes your unconscious “ceiling”. You simply can’t think beyond those numbers anymore and you can’t push through that glass ceiling anymore. It’s set in your system like a thermostat of your heating system.

Secondly, it took time for your body to accumulate that fat…most of the time we are talking about years and decades of fat accumulation. The longer you are carrying around some extra weight, the harder it will be for your body to reverse it and the more time it will require. The body needed time to create that fat and it will need time to burn it. The results you can get through weight loss diets are never realistic. You will lose a lot of water and maybe even some fat, but if you don’t change the cause, both that water and fat will come back, often quicker than you have lost it.

Thirdly, your current weight is another number that sticks to your subconscious mind and whenever you go on a diet, your subconscious mind will do everything to get back to that number. It’s like with your air conditioner. When you set it to a certain degree, the system will constantly adjust the temperature. When it gets warmer than you chose, the system will cool down; when the room gets colder, the system will heat up. It’s the same with your weight because your body doesn’t understand that you want to get rid of that extra weight and it will always bounce back unless you eliminate the real causes. 

For all these reasons it’s very important that you set realistic goals. Before we come to that, I want to briefly share with you what happens on your psychological level when you don’t get these promised quick results.

The Consequences of Setting Unrealistic Goals

At the beginning you have big hopes and you’re all hyped up. Then, when you gain the weight back or don’t lose as much as you had been promised, you lose hope. Losing hope is a very dangerous thing and quickly leads to depression what creates another downward spiral.

Then, of course, you blame yourself or beat yourself up. After all, those other women accomplished their goals and the “expert” promised that you can achieve the same. Ergo, it must be your fault. And you can back up that logic with the fact that there were situations when you didn’t stick a 100% to the program. Again, ergo it must be your fault.

After a while, you then begin to lose faith in yourself. You just don’t seem to be able to achieve a goal…you don’t trust yourself anymore. So since you can’t achieve that one simple weight loss goal, maybe you’re too stupid to achieve other goals. Right? (I know how harshly women can talk to themselves.) Again, a negative downward spiral begins.

Then kicks in self-pity. Since you “failed” in your understanding, then you probably don’t deserve to be slim, healthy and beautiful. You are doomed to stay overweight for the rest of your miserable life. In other words, you have given up.

Before you even think about setting a new weight loss goal, I highly recommend to reverse that process: give up self-pity, gain back faith in yourself (no, you can’t wait until you will finally achieve your weight loss goal, you have to have faith in yourself first), stop self-blame and gain back your hope. There are sustainable solutions. You just have to allow that mindset shift to happen. 

And here is a crucial point about hope.

You have to STOP hoping for OUTSIDE answers.

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As long as you put your hope in diets, the next disappointment is inevitable.

Stop searching on the outside.

80% of your weight loss success is an INSIDE job.

Of course, you can hire a coach for that process and most likely you’ll have to. Yet you still have to go through the process. There is just no short cut. The answers are within you. 

Set Realistic Goals

Then set a REALISTIC goal. Choose how much weight you want to lose and then leave it up to your body how much time it will need to accomplish that desired goal. Your body might surprise you and you can lose that weight much faster than you thought. And there is also a 50% chance that your body may need more time than you think. When you choose a time frame within which you want to shed those pounds, disappointment is certain. You then will lose hope, be disappointed and frustrated and your brain will add another failure to your already existing pattern. 

Adding a time to your weight loss goal is not realistic because at this point you can’t know what really forced your body to accumulate fat in the first place. It can very well be that the real, underlying cause goes years back or that it is something you never thought about. For example, if the cause is a hormonal imbalance, it can take years to balance that back.

What I recommend to my clients is to ALWAYS give themselves at least one entire year, no matter how little weight they want to lose. Remember, lasting weight loss is to 80% an inside job.

If you are obese, then it would be more realistic to give yourself two or three years. The fat burning process can be much faster than that, but if I understand you correctly, you want to lose your extra weight for GOOD and not just temporarily. In other words, you want to make sure that all aspects that lead to your weight gain in the first place will be removed from your entire system: body, mind and spirit, especially from your subconscious mind.

Therefore, the by leaps and bounds fastest way is by keeping away from the diet approach, by setting realistic goals and by giving yourself enough time.

Just think about. What is fast about losing and gaining and losing and gaining? Many overweight women go on like that for over a decade. That’s neither fast nor quick nor sustainable. That is no weight loss at all, because at the end of the day you haven’t lost anything. You’re just a year older and back to your old size…or even a size bigger.

It is truly my hope that you begin to understand why going for the quick fixes is a shot in your own foot.

Therefore my friend, patience is one of the first attributes you will need for your maintainable weight loss success. We are talking about a long-term goal here. We are not talking about a few weeks or months, we are talking about your healthy LIFE….a maintainable healthy lifestyle you can easily follow through with for the rest of your life without starving and without stress. 

Learn to set realistic goals!

It’s crucial for your weight loss success. 

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Are your health and weight loss goal worth five to fifteen minutes of your time every day?

If you want to learn a process that leads you to constant weight loss success by baby stepping, check out my Facebook group. 

You can get a feeling for the 4 Pillars of Weight Loss process for free. Simply join my closed Facebook group where you can go through the process by taking tiny daily baby steps completely stress free and still make tremendous progress. 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/4pillarsoflastingweightloss