Causes of Weight Gain (2nd Edition)

Struggling with WeightIf you struggle with your weight, then you have probably already tried several things to lose it. Apparently nothing has helped so far long-term. In other words, by now you have probably found out by yourself that dieting may not be the solution. But what is the solution for weight issues?

Before I or anybody can give you a helpful answer we first have to look at another topic.

A few months ago I had to spend a month in a rehab clinic after a surgery. That clinic is specialized on vein and lymphatic problems. That was very interesting for me because over 80% of all patients in that clinic are obese.

While my physical therapist was working at my body we talked a lot, mainly about health and weight topics. Since most of her patients are obese I asked her one day, why, in her opinion losing weight is so difficult. Her answer was very interesting.

To be honest, from her I expected to hear an answer like, “Obese women eat too much.” “Obese women don’t like to exercise.” “Obese women have poor eating habits.” But to my big surprise she said that the single and most relevant reason for that issue was that overweight and obese people fail to look at the psychological causes. She added, “As soon as overweight people take care of their causes, they can lose weight.”

FINALLY another person who has come to the same conclusion I have! To hear this from an expert who treats 40 patients every week what makes about 1,800 patients per year meant a lot for me.

Of course, that physical therapist and I are not the only professionals who understand the connection between weight gain and psychological issues. In fact, we are in the best possible company (unfortunately that doesn’t mean that people would listen and understand).

Louise Hay lists four possible causes of being overweight:

  1. Fear – the need for protection
  2. running away from feelings
  3. insecurity, self-rejection
  4. seeking fulfillment

This alone should give you a better idea of the complexity of weight issues.

In my 32 years of working with 10,000+ weight-struggling women I have found over 50 possible causes so far. 47 of them I have listed in a report with the title Why You Can’t Lose Weight for Good – Possible Causes of Weight Gain and Yo-Yoing.

There is one simple reason why diets don’t work:

No diet or program will ever work until you will have recognized and eliminated the real cause or causes!

When we think about possible causes of weight gain we usually think about things like over-eating, lack of Quote_Louise_Hay_Causes-Overweightexercise, hormonal imbalance, lack of discipline…. But that’s only a tiny, tiny part of the whole picture.

Let’s not forget that we are whole beings. We are not our body – we have a body. That is a bigger difference than you may believe. We not only have a physical body of cells, but also finer “bodies” made of atoms, molecules, and electrons. These parts of us are invisible but not less important. The body – or the physical part – is pretty much just like the tip of the iceberg.

Our way of thinking has a tremendous effect on our healthy, our weight, our finances…our whole life. Then, of course, we also have emotions. Emotions and thoughts combined have a very powerful creative effect. The thinking, feeling and acting patterns we repeat over and over become habits which have an enormous impact on our weight. And then we have memories (conscious and subconscious). All these parts of the human being make us the individual we are, and they affect our body, our weight and our health.

Iceberg

One of the reasons why diets don’t work long term is the fact that people only look at the physical body and completely ignore the rest of the human being. The physical and visible part of our being is only a very little part of the problem. Therefore, a diet or any program that ignores the mental, emotional, and psychological part of the issue can never bring long-term results. We can’t ignore 90% of the problem and focus on the 10% and seriously hope that this will solve the problem.

In fact, over-eating is most of the time just a symptom; the real cause of weight gain is usually something else, for instance a hunger for life, for love, for recognition, for improvement. Unfortunately these issues are not often recognized and not taken into consideration for a sustainable weight loss strategy.

No matter how many diets you follow, how determined and disciplined you count calories, how many sacrifices you make, your weight will always bounce back if you don’t take care of the real, underlying causes of your weight problem. When these causes are being ignored for too long, they can add up quite a bit and make your attempts to lose weight more and more difficult with each year.

On th eother hand, simply resolving or eliminating the cause will often bring the desired results without even changing the diet or exercise regimen.

Here are nine examples of what a psychological cause of excess weight or obesity in women can be .

Example #1: After entering a romantic relationship with a partner, Bertha identified even more strongly with her role as a woman. Consequently, she developed a more feminine form. These curves have an erotic appeal. Her body reacted quite naturally to the new situation. If Bertha had recognized the reason behind the slight weight gain, and responded properly (accepted her body and enjoyed her femininity), her weight would not have increased more than a few pounds if she wouldn’t have started yo-yo dieting.

Example #2: Jessica did not have a steady boyfriend for a long time before she met her husband. Her marriage now gives her peace, quiet, safety, and security. This settled lifestyle gives her a sense of comfort – she is content, so to speak. Jessica’s body reacts to this peace, as she relaxes about everything. Her body gains a little weight. With that, her body signals to other men: “I am at home, I am not available anymore.”

Example #3: Erica’s self-esteem is very low. She feels that she must somehow be happy now that she has found a husband. But, in her deepest heart stirs something else – for Erica, yet unnoticed. But this part deep within herself is strong and self-confident and knows that there is no reason for those feelings of inferiority. Yet, because she has learned as a child that she was only loved because she was cute and well behaved, something starts to rebel within her. What if her husband just loved her too because she’s pretty, nice and “low maintenance”? So now, she needs to (unconsciously, because she is not aware of all this) find out. By gaining weight, she is suddenly not so cute and attractive anymore, no longer the sweet little girl. In this way, Erica wants to “test” her husband and find out if he really loves her or just her outer appearance.

Example #4: Even though Mary is very faithful to her husband, he tortures her again and again with jealousy. These outbreaks are very tiring to her, especially since she feels helpless and powerless against the allegations of her husband. She notices that no logical reasoning helps here. She wishes deeply that other men would not look at her that way, so her husband would have no reason to be jealous. Because she loves her husband very much, but knows no way out, her subconscious mind finds a solution. It causes the body to increase her weight and so lose its attractive appeal. From then on, Mary feels satisfaction and peace, as she is no longer noticed by other men. That way, her husband no longer has any reason for jealousy. However, the price is very high, because he finds her new appearance no longer particularly appealing either. Well, you can’t please everyone!

Example #5: Ruth has learned as a child, that she must not say “no,” or she would be punished. At the same time, she received from her mother the message that somehow, she should fulfill her conjugal “duties” with her husband. Now that she is married, she feels the sexual desires of her husband are often too demanding. Although she enjoys the sex, she is not always ready. Since she has never learned to say “no” verbally and she cannot stand up to her husband, her body says “no” in her behalf. She builds up a protective armor, so to speak, and gains weight.

Example #6: Norma’s situation is similar to Ruth’s. She has not learned to say no. On the other hand, she enjoys her body and sexuality. Before she married, she was quite free and could choose her lovers. But now she is only “reserved” for one man. To Norma’s mind it is quite clear that she wants to be faithful, but somehow she has difficulty getting used to the idea of having only one man in her life. She doesn’t trust herself completely. So she gains weight to keep men away. Again, the overweight serves as protection from male harassment on the one hand, and as protection from her own unconscious desires and feelings on the other.

Example #7: When Isabelle met her husband, he courted her intensely at first. He spoiled her with flowers, presents, caresses and compliments, and he called her every day. Isabelle interpreted this behavior as the great love of her life, and said yes to his marriage proposal. But as soon as they were married, the flowers, gifts and other tokens of love stopped. Isabelle believes that her husband no longer loves her. She misses the regular vows of love and affection from him. What’s more, increasingly, he is tense and busy with his professional career. While day after day she is sitting at home alone, bored as a housewife, Isabelle experiences increased cravings for sweets. For her the eating substitutes for love. And then something else happens. Her increased physical size, too, can no longer be ignored, which means that her husband has to notice her more now – she can’t be ignored as easily anymore.

Example #8: Rosmarie has been taken advantage of throughout her whole life. She is by nature a giver, and many people she met took advantage of her, including her family. This caused an imbalance between giving and receiving in her system. As an adult she had the constant feeling of coming short…she feels cheated by life. Therefore she also has the impression that life owes her something. On the physical level this results in constant hunger. At the same time she became very demanding. Often she felt so empty that to others she was like a big black whole that could take and take. In Switzerland we have a saying that goes like this: “She can’t get the throat full.” What that means is that such a person wants more and more and more, even if she can’t handle all that she receives. These people are takers in the truest sense of the word. Their throat can never be filled – it’s like a black, empty, bottomless pit. This is in most cases due to a lack of love in their childhood or other experiences of a lack of something. This can be food, but it’s mostly love and affection. Rosmarie’s way of giving and receiving is not balanced.

Example #9: Living with step-family, Linda has always been the black sheep of the family. Whenever somebody did something wrong, Linda was the one who was blamed. She was blamed for every fight and conflict in the family. There were many problems and a shameful history in Linda’s family, all of which were carefully swept under the carpet. By passing on the responsibility to Linda, the family could live with their blind spots quite comfortably. This allowed them to project everything negative onto Linda, rather than confront what needed to be changed in themselves. Instead, they could fault her and fight her. It was easier this way. They had singled out the “guilty” one. This is how Linda learned very early in her life, to carry other people’s problems on her shoulders. This pattern continues, not only within her family, but also with her friends and acquaintances. She takes the blame for problems and conflicts immediately and kind of automatically on herself – it has become her nature; it takes place on an entirely unconscious level. She has never learned to question whether others might also have their share of blame in a dispute or issue, or even realize that others tended to project their problems onto Linda. More and more, she felt like she was carrying the weight of the whole world on her shoulders. She could hardly breathe and felt depressed and immobile, like she was carrying a big, invisible burden. Her overweight condition simply reflected her role as a scapegoat. It also gave her the strength to be able to carry the burdens that were not hers. In the truest sense of the word, she needed broad shoulders in order to be able to carry all that.Some of these examples may sound familiar to you and others don’t. That’s normal. Not every woman has the same causes.

These examples may just give you a better understanding of the real and quite complex nature of being overweight. These are still just a few examples and a very small part of the problem. Now, just imagine that you wanted to remedy all these issues with one tactic: a diet. You instantly realize what a ridiculous attempt this would be.

But what is the solution?

Very simple.

Weed out the roots first

If we want to make lasting changes and become slim and healthy for good, we have to get to the roots of the problem and weed them out. As soon as these underlying causes can be resolved, there is no reason for the body to stay overweight and it begins to burn more fat.

This may sound very complicated, but it isn’t. The only crux is that in most cases the overweight person needs an expert who is not only familiar with the possible causes but can also lead her through the transformation process. Sometimes there is a lot to weed out before the body can stop the symptoms.

This doesn’t mean that you have to go through 10 years of psychotherapy or through a very painful transformation process. Most of the time we can transform even the biggest and worst causes within 1 and 3 weekly group coaching calls. Frankly, there is no faster, easier and more efforless weight loss method out there I know of.

I personally do that kind of transformation work through one-on-one coaching and group coaching sessions over the phone. Once the real cause (or causes) has been detected and transformed, the body has no more reason to hold on to its extra fat and can begin to burn it.

Before you can eliminate the causes, you need to know them. For that purpose I have created a report with a list of 47 possible causes of weight struggles. You can get it here: https://www.fiverr.com/s2/0fa427223c.

 

Here is a short interview with Deepak Chopra on “hunger”.

There is one major reason why it’s highly recommended to take care of extra weight and eliminate the causes right away. And this is something else hardly anybody else tells you.

The longer you are overweight and the more often your weight bounces back and forth, the more your body creates what is called lipedema.

Lipedema overgrowth of fat cells that occur in the legs and lower trunk. In many cases it also includes the arms or upper body as well. Lipedema is often thought to be simple obesity. Don’t confuse lipedema with “lymphedema,” the accumulation of lymph fluid in the interstitial areas, though.

What makes lipedema a big problem is the fact that in such fat tissue hormones are created that force the body to create even more of these fat cells. That way lipedema can grow pretty much in every direction and to this day no cure has been found.

The very best and least painful way to lose your extra weight for good is really toeliminate the causes ASAP.

Allow me just one final word.

Everybody wants to lose excess weight fast and effortless. Here is the most important weight loss secret:

Eliminating the causes is by leaps and bounds the fastest, easiest and most effortless way of losing weight. Period. 

The very first step I encourage you to take right away is to get yourself educated about the REAL causes of weight gain and weight struggles. For a very short time you can get access to my list of 47 causes at  https://www.fiverr.com/s2/0fa427223c. Do yourself a favour and get it righ away because it’s only available for a couple of days.

The second step I recommend is to read that report and the list of 47 possible causes and mark all those causes you think might be affective in you.

Third action step: feel free to post your personal list of possible causes in the comment section at the end of this page, and I will give you free advice how you can get a handle on these causes the fastest way possible.

Happy slimming!

 

Healing Power #1: Humor

When you’re overweight, then your body needs healing in some form or another. Healing (weight loss) can and often has to happen on several levels in order to be effective.

One of the strongest healing powers is entirely free and you can get it anywhere and at any time…and it burns fat without exercise. All it takes is a decision of yours. I’m talking about humor.

Did you know…

…that laughter improves our sense of well-being?

…that it reduces tension, depression and anger?

…that it lowers the stress levels?

…that it reduces blood pressure?

…that it’s a great exercise for your heart?

…that it strengthens your immune system?

…and that it reduces pain?

Laughter is safer than any pharma pills and free of harmful side effects. Laughing is one of the easiest things you can do to promote healing and well-being. And well-being supports your weight loss process. It’s a known fact that patients who have a sense of humor and laugh often, tend to heal faster and better than those who don’t.

Dr. Frank Lipman said: “If health and wellness is your goal, skip irony, bypass sarcasm and make the conscious choice to add more joyous laughter into your day.” Isn’t it exactly irony and sarcasm overweight people are so good at? How about replacing this now with genuine humor?

He also shares 10 simple health-enhancing reasons to have a daily laugh:

  1. Laughter helps boost your immune system by increasing T cell activity, those “killer cells” that help our bodies fight viruses and tumors.
  2. Laughter helps lower blood pressure and cortisol levels, decreases pain and can also help stabilize blood sugar.
  3. Laugher stimulates chemical changes in the brain that help buffer our bodies against the cumulative effects of stress.
  4. Laughter burns a few extra calories: according to a recent university study, just 10 -15 minutes worth of chuckles throughout the day can burn up to 40 calories.
  5. Laughter stimulates the release of endorphins, the mood-elevating brain chemicals behind the “runner’s high.”
  6. Laughter helps reduce inflammation throughout the body – good news for your heart, brain and circulatory health.
  7. Laughter “massages” internal organs – which is why it’s sometimes referred to as “internal jogging” – with effects similar to exercise.
  8. Laughter provides a light workout for the heart, lungs, diaphragm and even the abdominal muscles.
  9. Laughter releases tension in the muscles of the face, neck, shoulders and abdomen – all common areas where we tent to hold lots of tension
  10. Laughter is physically and mentally therapeutic – an involuntary response that positively alters mood instantly – what could be better?

The thing is that your brain can never think two contradictory thoughts at the same time. It’s impossible for a negative thought to remain while you’re laughing. And in my last blog posts we talked about the effect negative thoughts have on our belief system and the effect our belief system has on our weight and health.

Laughing is contagious, irresistible and very attractive.

Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, keeps you ground and focused.

Can you laugh your pounds of? I think you can.

So my “prescription” for today is to add laughter and humor into your life. Take life less seriously. Find one humorous thing each day. “Lighten up”.

“The nicest thing about a laugh is that so much of you has a good time.” –Marsha Perlman

You can make it a habit to read in a joke book or watch a funny video every morning to make it a great start of the day.

A good way is to be more around happy people. Children are great to have a lot of fun with. 

Laugh yourself slim.

For more of these habit changes please check out this page

 

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Top 11 Self-Limiting Beliefs Regarding Weight Loss

In one of my last blog posts I talked about the power your words have in your life and how you can use that power for your weight loss. Today I want to take it a step further.

You see, when thoughts and words are used often enough, they eventually become beliefs. And beliefs are something you naturally believe in, whether or not they are based on truth and facts. For you they seem to be true. The more you believe in them, the more you act accordingly. And the more you act as if they were true, the more you create a physical “reality” around your beliefs. 

Self-SabotageAnd with every action you take in that direction, and with every “proof” you get for your belief, it becomes stronger and more powerful. So you operate every day based on what you believe were facts. Beliefs can grow so strong that they can completely mentally cripple a person.

Limiting beliefs are sneaky things and they affect you on a deep subconscious level; they can definitely hold you back from achieving your desired weight loss goal.

Yet, they are still nothing else but beliefs that have nothing to do with facts.

These are the top 11 self-limiting beliefs among overweight women:

  1. I have a strong bone structure.
  2. I’m too old 
  3. I’m not smart enough 
  4. It’s all about the calories
  5. It runs in my family – it’s the genes.
  6. I’m afraid of trying and failing 
  7. You have to have money to lose weight 
  8. I’ve already tried everything 
  9. I don’t feel that I really deserve to be slim and beautiful 
  10. I don’t have the willpower 
  11. It just doesn’t work for me

Now does one or several of these self-limiting beliefs resonate with you? Does one of these beliefs resonate more strongly with you over the others?

At this point I encourage you to look behind that curtain and put those beliefs under scrutiny. Take a closer look and find out how some of the little beliefs you hardly paid any attention to may be wreaking havoc regarding your health and weight.

Now let’s take a closer look at these self-limiting beliefs:

  1. Fact: having a strong bone structure does not include having excess fat. Bone is bone and fat is fat.
  2. Fact: you may have to take some more aspects into consideration when you’re past menopause, but that doesn’t mean that your body is operating under different “laws”.
  3. Fact: being successful in any field has nothing to do with your IQ. Fact is that very often the less intelligent people have the greater successes because they’re not stopped by the mental concepts intelligent people often have. Besides, there are several forms of intelligence that most can’t be measured through IQ tests.
  4. Fact: there is ample scientific proof that weight gain and weight loss has nothing to do with calories. This is a myth that has been debunked a long time ago. So let’s not go that route anymore. The only calories you really have to worry about are those empty calories. It’s the quality food that matters, not the quantity.
  5. Fact: there is also enough scientific proof that genes can be over-ruled and even changed. Did you ever see families with very skinny kids and very fat kids? Both have the same parents and the same genes, yet some are slim and some are not.
  6. Fact: if you don’t try, you can’t succeed. The biggest failure is not to try and to maintain the current status quo. Fear of failing is a very disempowering life strategy. The best way to fail is not to try. With over 50 possible causes of weight gain you may have to try several strategies (not diets – no matter what diet you choose, they don’t work) until you will find the one that addresses your individual causes.
  7. Fact: the best weight loss strategies are free. Eating healthy costs way less than unhealthy eating. And if you believe that weight loss programs have to be expensive, try my $49 30-Day Triple Power Weight Loss Program where you learn how to eliminate pretty much every stumbling block and bad habit that has been standing in your way. Of course, there are $390 programs out there, but they’re not a bit better than my $49 program. So money can’t really be an issue.
  8. Fact: obviously you haven’t. Try my 30-Day Triple Power Weight Loss Program and then you can probably say that you have tried everything. And if that one doesn’t work for you, then you’re definitely doing something wrong….or you have a cause for weight gain that was not yet found. In that case please stay tuned. I’m regularly publishing content about new-found causes of weight issues. 
  9. Fact: you are a child of God, and as such you deserve only the best this universe has to offer. Unfortunately the feeling of not deserving to be slim and beautiful is a very common pattern among women. The original blueprint of your body is slim, healthy and beautiful. And whenever you choose to, you can go back and realize your personal original slim blueprint.
  10. Fact: we humans are very powerful beings…each of us. Just because some people have tried to keep you small in the past because they are small, that doesn’t mean that you can’t become the powerful being you once were or you are meant to be. Maybe what you need more than willpower is just the right support system.
  11. Fact: what used to work one or two decades ago regarding weight loss doesn’t work anymore. Dieting and exercising alone doesn’t work for 90% of overweight people…so you’re not the only one who is struggling with those tactics. Since causes are very individual, the belief that what you have tried didn’t work for you may be partly correct. But that doesn’t mean that there is no solution. The only thing this means is that you have not yet found the right solution for you. There are so many new weight loss strategies on the market that address the weight problem on a deeper level. 

Are you ready to finally let go of your self-limiting beliefs? In my 30-Day Triple Power Weight Loss Program we eliminate and transform one by one.

 

What are YOUR main self-limiting beliefs?

Please share them with us in the comment section and let me know how I can assist you in transforming them.

How to successfully tackle your New Year’s Resolutions

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It’s New Year’s Resolution time again!

Here it is: a clean plate, a new beginning, a new CHANCE to make it happen this time.

Will you take that chance or let it go by (again)?

The choice is – as always – entirely yours. So are the consequences.

Every January millions of people make New Year’s resolutions, and no one keeps them.

The question is, what’s stopping YOU from achieving your goals?

Be it a lack of time, lack of discipline, poor planning, trying to do too much…or too little…both, success and failure are still entirely in your own hands.

Who says that New Year’s resolutions can’t last? Mine do and the resolutions of my clients do last, and it’s easier than you may think. All you need to do is working around a few stumbling blocks and not to give up. It’s really easier and simpler than you may believe.

Goals generally can be extremely motivating. By nature you are a very powerful being, capable of accomplishing awesome things. And this is exactly what I encourage you to focus on: your inherited power (not your past failures).

The trick is to…

  • …set realistic goals
  • …choose a strategy that has a good chance to bring you the desired long-term (Regarding weight loss this means choosing a holistic strategy and staying away from diets.)
  • …ask yourself what you are unhappy about and what you absolutely don’t want anymore
  • …find your big WHY and what you really want  instead (most of the time the big WHYs have something to do with your life purpose)
  • …make a plan/a strategy that contains healthy eating, some exercise, change of attitude and elimination of some psychological causes (which are some of the biggest reasons why the weight bounces back if not resolved)
  • …stick to that plan for a whole year (create a “stick-strategy” – no poor night’s sleep, no unpredictable occurrence, no sudden breakup, no stressful job can keep you away from your plan)
  • …make just one change at the time (“Do few things but do them well.” St. Francis)
  • …take charge (don’t wait for things to change or for a new diet pill to hit the market, there is no miracle pill – the greatest miracle are YOU)
  • …take consistent and daily action – no excuses (taking action gives you such a sense of confidence and makes you feel better – being in control of your weight and health is invaluable)

The worst thing you could possibly do is starting with a New Year’s resolution without having a clear plan. Not having a plan must lead to disaster and failure.

Would a clear and simple 30-day plan with tiny daily action steps help you overcome the biggest hurdles? I’m talking about a 30-day plan all of my past participants have learned to appreciate very much. Such a plan can really keep you on track. Check it out here

So what do you want to achieve this year? Do you want to lose 10 pounds? 50 pounds? 100 pounds? It doesn’t matter how much excess weight you want to lose, you can do it. I’m here to assist.

The worst thing you could do is letting this chance pass by and hear me say in a year from now, “I told you so.” I told my readers 12 months ago, 24 months ago, 36 months ago….and I can certainly encourage you in 12 months again. But I’d rather see you succeed this year, because there is nothing more empowering than achieving your goals. Just go about them the right way. Stay away from diets and quick-fixes (because they are actually no-fixes).

What are your New Year’s resolutions? Are you facing any weight issues that seem insurmountable? Do you want to lose weight this year and make 2016 the last year you’ll ever have to struggle with your weight?

Let me know in the comments below and I’ll gladly assist you in your goal achievement process.

10 Tips How To End Self-Sabotage & Bring Your Weight Loss Success to The Next Level

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Over the course of this year we talked about self-sabotage several times. I dare say that self-sabotage is one of the biggest obstacles keeping women from losing their weight and keeping it off. And the real bad news about self-sabotage is that it is almost to a 100% subconscious. In other words, we don’t even know if and when we are sabotaging our goals. That one fact makes losing weight a real challenge.

But for every challenge and problem there is always at least one solution.

Today I want to talk about ten possible ways to end your self-sabotage and to bring your weight loss success to the next level. The time for new orientation is perfect, because in a month from now you will begin to feel that strong inner desire to give your weight loss goal another try. Come January your motivation will peak and then you will be happy to have some new information and possibilities to finally get a handle on your excess weight.

Here are my 10 tips:

  1. Hire a coach: this is by leaps and bounds the best, strongest, fastest, and most effective way Coachingof recognizing where you sabotage your own goal and learn how to end it. The better and more experienced your weight loss coach is the better and faster she can spot your hidden saboteurs and lead you to the path of accomplishment. This can be through live consultations or over the phone.
  2. Join a group coaching program: if you can’t afford a coach for yourself, then joining a group coaching is the second best solution. Although the coach has to divide her attention between several individuals, she can still spot your blind spots and lead you through the necessary transformation process. This too can either be through live consultations or over the phone.
  3. The buddy system: if for whatever reason you don’t want to choose one of the first two options, then it’s highly recommended to at least find a buddy. The only disadvantage here is that your buddy most likely has her own blind spots and self-sabotage patterns. Besides, she may still be fixated on the dieting-exercise approach what will not bring you much further. But it’s still better than doing it alone, especially for the exercise part.
  4. Schedule every single step and stick to it: if that’s not an option either, then you’d have to test your willpower. One way to do that is by scheduling every single step ahead of time and making it a habit to stick to it. For most women this works best, when they mark their calendars and reserve a time spot for whatever step they want to take.
  5. Self-reflection: this is not an option – it has to be part of every way you choose. If you choose a coach – be it for one-on-one coaching or for a group coaching, your coach can spot your blind spots. Still, you need to do some self-reflection to accept those blind spots. If you go through the weight loss process alone, you’d have to be very good and experienced at self-reflection. It can be done.
  6. Apply the 21-Day principle: Some months ago I offered you my free Weight Loss Habit Hack. In that free program there is the 21-Day principle included. The trick is to change habits one by one simply by sticking to one new habit for consecutive 21 days. Of course, in my free Weight Loss Habit Hack I share more information, but this is how it’s done in a nutshell. It’s easier to stick to one habit for three weeks than starting with a process you think you have to do for the rest of your life. Although you have to, it’s still easier psychologically just to think about the first 21 days. Once you’ll have accomplished that, it will have become a new habit and will be much easier to stick with it. If you didn’t get your own Weight Loss Habit Hack yet, you can claime your copy in the box at the right side of this page. 
  7. Join the 30-Day Challenge: if you’re on a tight budget but still need some clear guidance and live support, then the 30-Day Triple Power Weight Loss Challenge may simply be ideal for you. It gives clear daily directions in baby steps so that your subconscious mind has enough time to adjust without sabotaging your weight loss process. And it costs less than $50. That program addresses several aspects of weight issues and it also comes with 4 weeks of live group coaching over the phone.
  8. Consult a behavioral therapist: that is almost as good as having your personal one-on-one coach. A behavioral therapist can quickly and easily spot your self-sabotaging tactics and help you eliminate those. The only thing she can’t offer is the experience and expertise of a weight loss coach. So, after she has helped you eliminate your self-sabotage, you’ll be asking yourself, “What’s next? How can I proceed from here?” You can consider yourself lucky if you can find both professions in one person.
  9. Stop the excuses: this possibility requires a lot of self-reflection. But when you’re used to self-reflection and honest to yourself, then this could be a great beginning. Once you have trained yourself not to use excuses anymore, you have eliminated a giant obstacle.
  10. Stop the quick-fix mentality: believe it or not, but one of the biggest obstacles that are standing in women’s way to losing weight is their quick-fix mentality. As soon as they decide to lose some weight they want to achieve that instantly. Unfortunately many forget that they didn’t gain that weight within a month or two, and they also lack a deeper understanding of how their body really works. To make matters worse they hear daily that they could lose 10 pounds in as little as 10 days and thus are completely mis-lead by some greedy marketers and false gurus. When someone tells you that you can lose that much weight in such a short time, then he or she is a crook. Sometimes it may go that fast, sometimes it may go even faster, during some phases however it will be much less than that. And then there are months you will not lose any weight at all. This is normal and part of weight loss. Your body is not a machine. Too many then give up because they think that there was something wrong with them instead of questioning the diet or program. The sooner you understand that, the faster you can begin to make some real, serious, and lasting changes.

Self-Sabotage (3)If you think that overcoming self-sabotage could be tough, then you have my full empathy. It is probably the toughest part of the whole weight loss issue. However, there is no way around, if you’re serious about losing your weight because fighting against yourself is very energy consuming. There is no diet that can overcome that obstacle in your behalf.

However, there are solutions to overcome those stumbling blocks. It’s not always easy, and I think every weight-struggling woman can testify that. But with those 10 steps you can achieve great results, especially with items #1, #2, and #8. Not every person is equal. Some need more time and others need less time. I have seen breakthroughs in my coaching programs in as quickly as two weeks. It all depends on how open and how willing you are to eliminate your personal saboteurs. And once those saboteurs are eliminated, the weight loss process goes much smoother, faster, and easier.

Here’s to your final weight loss success,

Angela B.

behavioral therapist and weight loss coach since 1984

 

Inner Cause of Weight Gain – ‘Hunger’ for Life

Whatever you change in your body – of course, it got to be the right things – can lead to fast weight loss. But these results seldom last.

But what brings the lasting results?

The best, fastest, easiest, and surest way to get the lasting weight loss results you desire is by eliminating the psychological, inner causes.

But where to begin?

How do you know what your individual psychological causes are?

I admit that’s the biggest part and that’s exactly the point why losing weight for good hasn’t been easy for you.

However, the good news is that most weight-struggling women have very similar inner causes. There is a common pattern. One of the very common ones is a hunger for life. This is very likely especially for those women a problem who are hungry a lot.

A hunger for life is very much an issue of many overweight people, especially women. Somehow they have fallen short on experiences in life they wish they could have made. The reason why this can be found more often in women than in men can be found in the fact that despite of the female emancipation for women the family comes first. They often have children, a husband, and a job what keeps them busy almost 24/7. There isn’t much time for self-growth and self-improvement.

If you belong to that group of women you may often feel kind of a hunger without knowing exactly what you’re hungry for or what you’re craving. And instead of feeding the hunger for life you may simply feed your stomach with more food than your stomach can digest.

I hear so often that life is about having fun. That’s not true. Nobody becomes happy simply by having fun all the time.

What life is about is learning and making lots of different experiences. And, yes, some experiences can be really fun, yet we shouldn’t do them for the sole purpose of having fun, but for the purpose of becoming richer in experiences. It’s not about having things. It’s about living life to the fullest with all its facets. It’s about living a balanced life.

If a hunger for life is one of the inner issues for you, something within you may resonate while you’re reading this…either in a positive or a negative way. If the reaction is rather negative, then you can be pretty sure that you’re suppressing your ‘hunger’. You ignore it…you don’t want to see and feed it. There must be a reason why you don’t allow yourself to be aware of your particular hunger for life. Maybe this was something that was ‘forbidden’ as a child, or maybe you’re so caught up in your daily chores that you think there was no time for you.

Whether your resonance is positive or negative, you can do something against and feed your hunger without overeating.

In a first step, ask yourself if there is anything in your life you wish you had done or experienced (i.e. going to college, sky diving, learning to dance, having a child (or more children), meeting with a particular person, to love more, etc.)? Is there something in life that you’re hungering for?

By the way, this isn’t about making a bucket list – it’s the opposite. It’s a list of things that make you feel more alive and more yourself. It’s a list of things that can satiate your hunger for life while you’re still young enough to enjoy it. This list is more about what you’re longing for emotionally or mentally.

Allow yourself to dream.

Allow yourself to be honest about your deepest desires.

Then you rate your dreams between one and ten, number one being least important and number ten being so important that you couldn’t forgive yourself if you didn’t at least try.

The next step is to search for a solution so that you can do the one thing on your list with the highest rate. If you can’t do it now, then plan it and also plan how you want to go about that goal. Visualize yourself having realized that goal and how you will feel that moment once you’ll have achieved or done that.

Feed your hunger for life now, and you will reduce your hunger for food.

If you need assistance for that process, check out this page. This is part of the transformational work we do in my 30-day challenge and the weekly group coaching sessions.

Is Your Weight a reflection of your inner world?

“The world is a great mirror. It reflects back to you what you are. If you are loving, if you are friendly, if you are helpful, the world will prove loving and friendly and helpful to you. The world is what you are.” –Thomas Dreier, Author

This quote is true in so many ways. Our circumstances are always simply a reflection of what’s going on inside. It can’t be any other way. This is a Universal Law and it is effective for everybody and everything in the whole Universe…whether you believe in it or not.

It can’t be that a depressed or toxic person can only attract health, wealth, love, and happiness. Likewise it’s not possible that a mainly positive, loving, and happy person can only attract disaster, hate and tragedy.

When you sow carrots, what will you harvest?

Carrots.

When you sow corn, what will you reap?

Corn, of course.

When you sow beans, it’s beans you will get.

Cause And EffectIt’s one of the fundamental Universal laws that we can’t get anything else but what we cause or sow. And life – circumstances – is so kind to tell us exactly what we’re doing wrong by putting a mirror in front of our nose.

If you don’t like what you see in the mirror you can simply change the causes you have set. Sow differently and after a while you will reap differently. It’s just as simple as that.

BUT….

What are the causes that led to weight gain?

Well, here is where the topic weight loss becomes really challenging, especially for all the diet and exercise gurus, because we humans tend to solve problems from the very same situation and mindset we originally caused the problem. Neither diets nor exercise alone will solve the issue. This is like sowing salad hoping you’ll get beans, or sowing radishes expecting to harvest melons.

Before you take any action towards your weight loss goal I recommend take yourself a moment to reflect on your current situation. Look into that “mirror” of life openly and ask yourself how you unknowingly and subconsciously caused that current body weight and shape. Use that mirror life is kindly providing to you.

The first thing you will see – if you’re willing to look at your weight with honest eyes and an open mind – is that there is simply an imbalance. There is something too much on your body that doesn’t belong there. As a rule of thumb, wherever there is something sticking out, it doesn’t belong there…it’s an imbalance.

The next step then is to ask yourself, where your health and life have gotten out of balance. Where is there too much of something and in what regard is there not enough?

The most obvious conclusion might be: I eat too much of the wrong food and I don’t exercise enough. Although this is true in most cases, it’s not all that there is to it.

Dig deeper!

Your imbalanced eating and exercising habits only reflect another imbalance, an inner imbalance. The poor eating and exercising habits are just another reflection of what’s going on inside.

So continue watching into that “mirror” and ask yourself where your life, your mindset, your behavior, your past choices have gotten out of balance.

For example, for many overweight women there is an imbalance in setting healthy boundaries. On one side they allow others to constantly cross their boundaries while setting too strong boundaries in situations where they should be open and receptive. They allow others to take advantage of them and at the same time they pull their guards down when they should open up to life.

A large number of heavy men and women also have a financial problem. They allow others to take advantage of them or spend money for all the wrong things, and at the same time they can be quite demanding themselves without realizing that this causes an imbalance and more financial lack. They have an imbalance in giving and receiving.

Another imbalance can be regarding your inner protection, which is very closely related to the boundary issue. On one side the extra fat acts like a protective wall and buffer around you. On the other hand that way also your contact surface grows, what is not desirable either. The bigger you are, the better you can be attacked and bullied because of your larger contact surface.

Of course there are more imbalance issues related to weight issues, but these are the three most common ones.

I invite you to take yourself 15 minutes to reflect on your personal situation and possible reasons for being heavy. Ask yourself where in your life you have an imbalance. Talk about those imbalances with an understanding friend, or if you don’t have such a friend you can send me an email to info@sheslimfast.com and we can discuss what you currently need the most to change that imbalance.

As soon as you’re doing this, magic begins to happen. Because, while reflecting on possible inner causes of your extra weight you begin to take responsibility for the issue. And that automatically and immediately empowers you. You have taken the reins for your weight loss into your own hands and thus moved your weight loss progress to the next level.

Now you can proceed on a more solid foundation.

Happy slimming!

Do you self-sabotage your weight loss Goal?

Woman's body before and after a weight loss program

Do you know this scenario?

You hear about a great success story with awesome before and after pictures. The testimonials are simply stunning and your inner desire to look as great as all those women on the pictures look gives you such a strong motivation to achieve the same goal and look just as great if not greater.

You have a clear vision of yourself how you want to look like as a slim person and you’re totally fired up to take action.

And then you get stuck and you have no idea why you can’t move forward although your motivation is so strong. And that’s the moment when even the strongest and most disciplined person is likely to give up…unless she changes the direction.

There are three most common culprits that can completely sabotage even the strongest determination and willpower.

  • The wrong method/diet for your type
  • A lack of information on the HOW
  • Some of your old, stubborn, poor habits that tend to come back to you like a boomerang

Most people mistakenly believe that they knew exactly what to do: eat less and exercise more. But even if that was true, what should they eat or not eat? So many women follow a diet not realizing that the diet they’re following is exactly the wrong one for their type. And what exercise is the best for them? Not every kind of exercise and sport is for everyone.

Although they know exactly what they want, most people get stuck right there permanently. They have absolutely no idea how to get from being overweight to slim even though they thought they knew. Yet they don’t realize that they’re counting on the wrong strategy.

And then there are the few people who know what to do – eat healthy according toSelf-Sabotage (4) their type, exercise the right way, focus on their goal instead of the current weight, eliminate some of the causes that led to weight gain in the first place. Yet some of them still fail. They don’t succeed because they unconsciously sabotage their progress. They don’t realize what they’re doing and that they’re literally standing in their own way. Some take on too little…others take on too much and quickly get exhausted. Both groups end up making zero progress.

The biggest reason for failure and giving up are old, poor habits. How often did you decide to give up on a particular habit, you were totally motivated and so sure that this time you will succeed, and then come afternoon and you were right back in your old habit?

Overweight Woman Bad HabitsThe result I can see most of the time is that women then blame themselves, call themselves losers with no willpower and discipline whatsoever, and they give up their plans…at least for now…until they find another diet. Because the next time they’ll see a sales letter or video with all those great testimonials and before and after pictures, they will be fired up again and start all over, ending with the same frustration a few days or weeks later.

One thing is certain: we can never make any changes without first changing our habits. And deep within we all know that we can’t solve a problem coming from the same situation and mindset that originally caused the problem. And old, poor habits can be some of the toughest things to overcome. If your plans haven’t worked so far with your current particular lifestyle and your particular issues, it will simply not work…at least not long-term. What needs to be changed is the foundation.

This is where a group of like-minded people can help. Or you may want to consider working with a coach who is experienced in recognizing how you sabotage your weight loss success without realizing.

Either way, you know exactly what action steps to take and how to overcome your hurdles. That way keeping your commitments becomes easier and step by step you begin to see your fat melting away and your dream weight coming closer. It’s the support system and the sounding board others can be for you that has the best chance to get you to the point you want to be.

With either, a group or a coach staying patient will be easier because you see and feel regular progress. And patience is crucial for long-term weight loss success.

Take action now. First become aware of your current stumbling blocks and poor habits, and then decide whether you need a group of supportive people or a coach – or maybe even a combination of both. If you’re not sure what you particularly need, you can send me an email to info@sheslimfast and we can discuss your individual situation.

May you succeed this time and make 2015 the last you ever had to struggle with your weight!

Your Thinking Habits Determine Your Weight

“Remember, happiness doesn’t depend on who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think.”–Dale Carnegie, 1888-1955, Writer and Lecturer

Neither does happiness depend on your weight and shape.

Yet we can see more slim happy people than heavy happy people. Overweight people often mask their lack of self-esteem with humor and cynicism what can make them fun to be around, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re happy.

I’m sure you have heard the adage, you are what you think. And that is a very fundamental truth.

We ARE what we think.

The thinking is part of how we create our circumstances and health. Whatever we think often enough will become – wanted or unwanted – reality.

Every thought creates a matching emotion and these two energies combined act like an arrow, bringing you to what you have just said in the fastest way possible. Just think a certain thought often enough and allow the according emotions to linger, and you’re creating the matching circumstances…positive or negative. 

We literally think and feel our life into realization. And, of course, the same is true with our weight and health. 

When you think about your weight and fattening food all the time, don’t be surprised when you’re getting heavier or bounce back after a diet.

When you constantly criticize how you look like, that’s what you’re going to get more of very soon.

When you weigh yourself every day and agonize over your current weight…that is exactly what you’re attracting more of.

Condemning, complaining, rejecting, disliking, focusing, agonizing, and criticizing…this is a sure ticket to more of the same. 

The right thinking is so crucial for your weight loss success that it’s an important part of all of my programs. Following a diet and an exercise plan without changing how you think and feel about yourself would be a ridiculous attempt and not bring you the desired lasting results. Because what you think and how you feel about yourself have a stronger impact on your body than what you eat.

When I started as a weight loss coach 31 years ago my slogan was, “Weight loss begins in your head.” And that statement is still true today. In fact it’s so true that since then so many entrepreneurs have copied it all around the world. Suddenly everything “begins in the head”. To this very day that slogan is still in use in many industries. Although their copying doesn’t reflect that their success begins in their heads (people who need to copy and model others can never be really successful), the statement is still true. Any kind of success begins in our heads.

If you don’t believe me, make a little test. Look at yourself in the mirror, weigh yourself and look at all the extra fat that is hanging there.  Now try to go for a walk or a jog. How motivated are you to do something against that extra fat? If you’re like 90% of us, the chances are very slim that you’ll be motivated to do something against. Only about 10% would instantly feel motivated to get a handle on their handles right away. Most people feel stuck, helpless and slowed down by focusing on their weight.

For all these reasons, never focus on what you don’t want. Instead look at the current situation with an open and realistic eye WITHOUT going the “OMG; I’m so fat” route. Don’t judge, don’t criticize, don’t condemn. Just take notice of what currently is and then make a firm decision about what you want instead. Create a clear vision of your weight goal and your dream body. And henceforward you only focus on your goal and the progress you’re making.

Your ideal weight begins in your head!

Changing your thinking habits is the first step to your weight loss success.

If you find it hard to change your thinking habits, check this out.

How to use Motivation For Sustainable Weight Loss

Weight Loss Motivation

Weight Loss Motivation

According to a study at Stanford University only 5% of the people who buy into a concept (for instance about how to lose weight) are also able to implement it. The other 95% don’t succeed. Why? Because they don’t have the resources, they don’t know HOW, says the study.

The resources those 95% of the people would need are things like books, CD’s, videos, a course, a coach…in other words, shared wisdom. But they simply don’t have access to that kind of information. They may have the insight and the understanding, but they don’t get ahead because they lack the full understanding of the How.

Consequently they can’t achieve the success that could be theirs, their motivation suffers and they give up before they even really started.

You don’t belong to those 95% of ignorant people because you’re on my list. You have subscribed to what is hands down the most accomplished weight loss platform, whether you’re aware of it or not. 

Now, having access to the right information is in my opinion only half the story. The other half is what you’re doing with that information. No matter how many emails I send, how many articles I publish, and how many free teleclasses I run, they don’t change a bit in your life, if you don’t put that information to work for yourself.

But let me first take a step back and talk about two forms of motivation.

One motivation is internal and the other form is external.

External Motivation

External Motivation

The Biggest Loser is a perfect example for external motivation. The coaches scream at people and make them feel bad in order to get them going. A friend of mine who is a physician specialized in weight-loss in the New York area told me that when the show is over even those who won – the Biggest Losers – consult him to find out how they can keep the weight off. Because as soon as the show is over and thus the external motivator is gone, they gain their lost weight back. This is why psychologists agree that external motivation is not ideal for long-term success.

The other form of motivation – internal motivation – comes from the individual within. It’s an inner urge to accomplish a particular goal. That form of motivation has by far the greatest chance to bring the individual lasting results because you’re not dependent on an outside source for motivation.

Now how you can use internal motivation for highest achievements?

Let me use a quote by Brian Tracy to answer that question:

“One of the marks of superior people is that they are action-oriented. One of the marks of average people is that they are talk-oriented.” — Brian Tracy

In other words, whether you’re superior or average is determined by the actions you take.

Take Action

Take Action

Actions bring results and results increase your motivation. This process is actually very simple and works always, at least if you’re taking the right action steps.  By taking a series of actions you automatically create ongoing motivation. Again, it has to be the right kind of actions, of course.

Today I want to encourage you to listen to your heart and find a strong WHY, a strong reason why you want to lose weight. This is your internal motivator. It got to be something that really moves you deeply. Many people begin to cry once they find their real WHY for losing weight because it touches them so much. It’s always much more than just because they look nicer and feel better once they’ll be slim. The real WHY often goes along with their real life purpose and goes far beyond their own person.

Accpet a helping handThen find a strategy that matches the weight you want to lose. The more you want to lose, the more thorough and complex your weight loss strategy has to be. Write down everything that comes to your mind. Then find out if you can get that strategy all in one place or if you need several coaches and experts to achieve your desired goal. No one coach can do everything. Any body, mind and spirit approach is always the better choice because it addresses you as a whole being, not just your body. And that approach has the better chance to bring you the lasting results you want. So don’t be afraid of accepting help. 

After you feel confident with your list of action steps you immediately take your first step. Make an appointment with yourself for the second step. Congratulate yourself for every action step you have taken. That way you grow your goal achievement “muscle”, by celebrating even small achievements; and that way you keep your motivation high.

If you need assistance in creating your ideal weight loss strategy, feel free to send me an email to info@sheslimfast.com or check out this 30-Day program.

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